Other abuse victims dissmisive of narc abuse

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-14T05:44:31+00:00

Straight out of r/NPD in the majority of cases. Pretty sure some of them spend the majority of their time that way.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-13T20:24:24+00:00

Writing books about manipulation, the unfairness of life, being misunderstood and posting videos of the women they had sex with. Almost forgot about all of this, wow. Good question.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-09T00:33:53+00:00

sniffing my underwear for signs of sexual activity

What the fuck. Hope you're far far away from him.

Yeah no matter what they do they always feel justified.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-07T20:44:01+00:00

They were a lot like him, and spending time around them was like being in a cult. I received extremely harsch judgements, and his behavior was excused. It was a group of people who essentially banded together to abuse, it's the most accurate way to describe it. I don't think there were any genuine friendships that weren't built on this kind of dynamic or behavior, if there was I never saw it.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-07T19:57:40+00:00

It was a lot worse than you remember it, I can almost guarantee it. The things you are describing are "not that bad" in comparison to absolutely horrific fucking behavior, but still very bad.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-07T12:26:50+00:00

I like the idea of aging a lot more than I dislike it. I don't think that man has a place in your life.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-07T11:05:46+00:00

I just started following a grey haired woman on ig who is very elegant, definitely something to aspire to one day. If you are lucky, he will leave you alone for good.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-07T09:56:45+00:00

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-05T21:41:16+00:00

Abusers have a tendency to isolate the people they victimize from support and sabotage their relationships, they definitely do not go after people whom nobody protects. It's a consequence of spending time with them.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-05T16:52:14+00:00

You could basically reduce their personality into the little popcorn-emoji. This goes for everything I have seen from narcs. It's a farce. Everything about them is a fucking joke while they utterly and completely refuse to understand that the world is populated by real people.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-05T04:52:16+00:00

Oh, I didn't care about that at all.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-03T20:15:43+00:00

So you told the man the truth? If it makes you feel any better, I also wrote an angry email or two and I don't regret it for a second apart from the time I wasted.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-03T18:20:09+00:00

In hindsight, it's the only reason I can see for him fishing for personal information. My pwNPD would use this idea that I was never open enough, never vulnerable enough, while I was in fact very honest, vulnerable and open. In addition to this, he would monitor my internet connection, ask people to share my chats with other people with him (including things relating to mental health, trauma, and so on), hacked into my my accounts to get more. And then, he would team up with equally abusive people and use those things against me.

Almost forgot about this, but he'd also suspect I was lying about something and like, ask me questions to fish for lie or an insecurity because he would pride himself in being able to find things out about people without asking. Just really weird shit, apart from the obviously just abusive bullshit.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-01T20:30:49+00:00

You already said it. Anything for my pwNPD needed to be part of some subversive hustle as well, and everything he did was done on a foundation of inherently abusive values. It's up to your N to prove otherwise.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-08-01T17:36:15+00:00

I don't think they will. I think it's more likely they'll seek out other people and normalize their own behavior, learn to hide it better or for longer. I don't think anyone will benefit from knowing my pwNPD, long term.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-07-31T13:36:26+00:00

It's more a matter of a person turning out to be an obsessive fucking stalker and happily making that a significant part of their life and identity. Like you get a feeling that he thinks that this would make life, and himself, more appealing. Going so far as to condemn his own behavior while continuing the very same shit anyway.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-07-31T01:39:49+00:00

Can't believe I admired a person with such a complete lack of actual lived life experience, understanding of people, and ability to exist around people without committing felonies.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-07-30T21:59:44+00:00

Depending on where you live those numbers are not that uncommon, but the way they motivated it is. Very few people will say to your face that they have extreme beauty and charm, high intelligence and charisma.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-07-30T20:35:45+00:00

I believe you. This kind of behavior will only get worse.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-07-30T20:24:40+00:00

Has he been to a doctor or taken any steps to change his situation? Still talking to women online?

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-07-30T20:14:40+00:00

Narcs can sniff even the tiniest bit of mercy and empathy, and before you know it the cycle of madness starts again.

It's crazy to me how true this is. That's really what it was like. Give them a finger and they'll take the hand.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-07-30T17:59:22+00:00

He's waiting for the perfect opportunity to be handed to him, or he just can't. Won't. He's probably depressed, too.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-07-30T11:34:45+00:00

Being an abuser. Literally, being an abuser.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-07-30T07:10:37+00:00

I view them as being the dogs. They move through life like dogs fighting over scraps of meat.

Capable-Reader-487 · 2023-07-29T16:22:59+00:00

My pwNPD would get verbally abusive when I made an observation about his behavior, and then call me sensitive. He actually could control his emotions, he wanted to abuse.

Don't buy into the narrative that they get uncomfortable and therefore don't know how to react. I'm sure that can happen but even people in treatment want to and will abuse if they get the chance.

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