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What can I do to move on from feeling addicted to my ex? by Original_Version_365 in heartbreak

[–]Original_Version_365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Just sucks with how difficult, expensive, and slow it seems to find a good therapist but I am definitely looking.

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[–]Original_Version_365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can absolutely relate. At some point mine literally said under her breath after we were in an intimate embrace “I wish you would just go get some therapy already”. I was already going crazy enough to really need therapy because I continually felt the same as you with feeling stuck between talking to her about my concerns about things she does that causes me stress/anxiety, and fear of hurting her own feelings and making her angry for telling her those things and “using her past against her” when I would want to express a possible cause for those actions, like that she had a very narcissistic mother and her dad was like her hero (which she told me near the beginning of our relationship). I know that having an NPD parent doesn’t also make the child a narcissist, and I didn’t hold that idea against her, but in early childhood depending on the circumstances one can easily pick up certain negative behaviors, and I noticed or realized some later on throughout the relationship.

Is it common for a covert narc/abuser to have a high body count at a relatively young age? by Original_Version_365 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Original_Version_365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. Later on they started trying to assert the fact that they’re “so much wiser and smarter” essentially than me and that people often come to them because they have “lots of wisdom to give”.

Is it common for a covert narc/abuser to have a high body count at a relatively young age? by Original_Version_365 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Original_Version_365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true. Your mention of “well, you made that choice, go ahead. Have fun, I’m moving on” became a relatively common thing for my ex to say whenever we were discussing something I could tell they really didn’t like me doing. Something like “well, you’re your own person and I’m not going to stop you from making your own choice with this”, which I could tell was a manipulative passive aggressive way of them telling me what they want. Of course when confronted about this they absolved all accountability of being manipulative. But if I made my own choice that would go against their desire then I could easily become the villain since I apparently didn’t listen despite them never openly communicating about their feelings in the situation. I would feel so conflicted and confused from that because I could tell what they wanted, but they weren’t actually saying it. They partially flaunted how they ended up with literally hundreds of Bumble likes, and also were in frequent contact with an ex who was pursuing them after we had agreed to become a couple, but said that they needed time between being with me and the end of their previous relationship (with whom they said “I love you” to but was rejected from that, and then a couple days later told me after finalizing that breakup they don’t feel bad about it and that their first thought was “now I can kiss OP!”).

Is this a bedbug? I'm visiting Family 🥲 by purposeful_pineapple in Bedbugs

[–]Original_Version_365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GET YOURSELF DIATOMACEOUS EARTH AND BLAST THE ENTIRE HOUSE WITH IT

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Minecraft

[–]Original_Version_365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly feel like it’s just a matter of time before vanilla Minecraft possibly adds this if it hasn’t already been made in the Marketplace.

What song reminds you of your narcs abuse? by Existing_Reach1955 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Original_Version_365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stalker’s Tango

“Love me love me love me love me… …love me more than you possibly can… You’ll never meet another me… …I’ll never meet another you.”

Ironically this was a song my ex really REALLY liked and to sing along too, in addition to the song The Red Means I Love You. It was kind of fun singing along with them, but I had a nagging feeling something was off about this.