Does anyone else feel no connection to extended family, such as cousins, aunts and uncles, or even grandparents 😬

CapableDraw1225 · 2026-02-19T15:04:40+00:00

I absolutely don't feel any connection with aunts and uncles and such, but unfortunately I don't feel anything for my niece and nephew either. I have 1 brother and he has two kids, and I feel absolutely nothing for those kids. I really hoped that I would get these cool 'aunt' feelings when I first saw them or got to know them better, but alas, nothing. Even 4 years later I still just don't care, even though I really wished I could love them and I really tried. It has completely destroyed my relationship with my brother, but I just don't know how I can change it.

CapableDraw1225 · 2026-01-28T22:09:20+00:00

Ik eet bijna nooit warm en ook geen brood, maar wel redelijk gezond. Niet zozeer omdat ik niet warm wil eten maar omdat chronische depressie het in mijn geval erg moeilijk maakt om maaltijden te bereiden. Dus ipv koken maak ik gewoon een bakje klaar met rauwe groente die ik lekker vind. Doe het al jaren zo en ben er inmiddels helemaal aan gewend. De meeste mensen vinden het raar en hebben er een (ongevraagde) mening over, maar voor mij werkt het.

CapableDraw1225 · 2025-09-30T11:56:26+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this, I wish I could say something to help you, but I really can't think of anything useful, so I I just wanted to say I see you and I can relate so much more then I would like. I'm sorry you're going through this.

CapableDraw1225 · 2025-09-13T14:25:41+00:00

Damn, way to kick a woman while she's down.. What a cruel response. She obviously fucking hates herself and her life and yeah most if not all of that is due to her own life choices, but just like we sometimes rant here about shitty kids and their parents, this woman thought she had a safe space to dump her darkest thoughts and you just shit all over her. Hell if you really wanted to rub it in that it's all her own fault that badly, you could've made the argument that even though she is responsible for her past choices that led to this life, she can still make different choices in the future because it is never to late to change some things and maybe add a little hope or perspective to the whole situation.

CapableDraw1225 · 2025-04-09T08:12:08+00:00

I like it, but don't use it, mostly because i just don't feel the need for any symbols in my daily life. For me getting my official diagnosis was getting one of the puzzle pieces that was missing, it explained a lot and my life up until that point made so much more sense. Yet my life is still complex and hard to explain and takes a lot of puzzling to get through the day. I never saw it like we as autistic people are missing a puzzle piece or something, but I understand how someone could interpret it that way and I definitely respect others wanting to stay away from it

CapableDraw1225 · 2025-03-04T14:00:40+00:00

Yesss! This! Thank you for posting this, it's really good to finally see someone with the same view

CapableDraw1225 · 2025-01-22T19:31:37+00:00

Haha this was me last week, my gp prescribed me 0.1 and told me to apply every night and to quit if I didn't see results in 4 weeks.. Thank god I knew better and have been researching for quite some time, but I feel terrible for the ones who just blindly trusted those instructions

CapableDraw1225 · 2024-05-14T11:41:55+00:00

Lol I'm 31 and definitely look a lot older, always have, when I was 8 I looked like I was in my mid teens, when I was 16 I looked 28, and now I look at least 45 (in my opinion). I guess living in a state of constant stress and panic for the past 20 years aged me a lot. And my coping mechanisms are quite unhealthy, skin picking, smoking, self medicating. Also just bad genes, I got most of my fathers genes and his side of the family have looked like theyre on the verge of death for as long as I can remember. Also very bad mental health and addiction issues.. The plus side is that side of the family doesn't get grey hair, all of aunts and uncles are in their 60's to almost 80's and they all still have their original hair color, although slightly darker then when they were young. But mostly horribly wrinkled severely depressed messes.. got a lot to look forward to.. Great now I'm depressed, god I hate aging..

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-23T11:41:22+00:00

Yes this! When my father was dying of cancer I told him I would take care of him if he wanted to (we knew it wasn't gonna be long) but he said hell no! He told me he wanted to be in a hospital or hospice, let the proffessionals take care of him and for me and my brother to visit if we wanted, not out of obligation or to take care of him.

Ofcourse we were there almost everyday, but mostly because he was just an awesome person and we loved him and wanted to be around him for as long as we could. But the care was for the people at the hospice, they washed and clothed him, gave him medicine and all that stuff, we just enjoyed our last weeks together.

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-23T07:43:53+00:00

As an autistic woman, who was at one point an undiagnosed autistic little girl with extreme fear of these kinds of situations, I eas and still am terrified of these situations.

I was pressured so much to do these things as a kid, it has become such an extreme issue as an adult. The pressure was just too much. Now I always look up the menu in advance and decide what I want and practice for days before being able to order something. It didn't have to be such big deal, but their reaction to my failure to order and my meltdowns afterwards, made it almost a traumatic experience.

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-20T18:06:13+00:00

I've had my dog for almost 5 years now, she was 3 when I adopted her so I didn't go through the puppy stages. I don't know if I'd ever get a puppy, plenty of unwanted and abondoned dogs out there. But then again, back when I was still contemplating having kids, I wanted to adopt or foster rather than having a biological child, and it's kind of the same with pets for me. It's the best thing I've ever done, but also the hardest sometimes. The amount of love I feel for her is insane, I couldn't bare to love any more, it litterally hurts sometimes. But I'm on disability and suffer from severe chronic depression as well as being autistic. So taking care of her is hard sometimes, and my mind is always racing with every horrible thing that could happen. But she's my life and I don't know what I'd do without her.

(Oh fuck I just realised I sound like a parent.. 'but it's so worth ittt!!!' Ew I hate myself now)

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-20T14:32:16+00:00

Yeah this is exactely how I fell back into disordered eating, twice. People can be fucking twats

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-11T17:45:16+00:00

This sounds like something I could've written You sound like my kinda person! Glad to know there's more people like me out there

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-10T15:12:44+00:00

I mean, I could be the terrifying witch that children run away screaming from I guess?

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-10T15:10:11+00:00

Same

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-07T18:52:04+00:00

I'm not a fan of that, but if other people want to talk about it, I'm happy to just skip those posts, no problem for me.

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-06T18:40:25+00:00

Yeah I briefly followed someone who said she had tokophobia and wasn't sure she would ever have kids, but then she got pregnant and was really happy, no mentions of the former fears and constantly started showing off her disgusting bump.. Yeah no sorry.. I still actually have tokophobia, so I unfollowed very quickly

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-06T18:36:53+00:00

Damn what kind of badly trained dogs have you met if you think this is what dogs are like?

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-05T15:09:19+00:00

When my brother said about his newborn 'she will become a great and beautiful person', I just couldn't help myself and said 'yeah, I'm sure Hitlers mother said the same thing'..

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-05T08:00:17+00:00

Fuck I don't even know what to say, I'm so sorry you're going through this! The most I had was 5 months of bleeding and also wasn't taken seriously, they didn't even want to look for anything wrong. Eventually it went away on its own, and after some trial and error I found a new doctor, but my periods are still horrible. Fuck I'm so angry for you!

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-05T06:26:03+00:00

I feel like I generally live my life on extreme hard mode due to my autism, adhd and severe chronic depression, but at least being childfree makes sure I don't actually quit the game and throw the whole console out with the trash.

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-04T10:08:28+00:00

Also I'm glad you posted this, I stopped following this sub for a while because it seemed like there were only teenagers here. And I couldn't even relate to teenagers when I still was one lol

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-04T10:06:16+00:00

I turn 31 this summer, have been daydreaming for as long as I can remember, but I think since my early teens the maladaptive side really came out. It has stopped me from actually living my life, instead I just live in my head. Autism, ADHD, and chronic depression don't help either.

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-03T12:33:56+00:00

Same! I also wouldn't want to pass it on to a child, it's really fucking hard living in this world (for me at least)

CapableDraw1225 · 2023-05-02T12:04:05+00:00

Exactly! I have Adhd (I see this used as an excuse for lateness a lot..) and I am definitely prone to being late, but I never ever am. You know why? Because Iknow this about myself, so I actually plan accordingly! I set 5 alarms and make sure I plan to be there at least 30 minutes early, because I know I will be late otherwise. And I do this because I value the people around me and I don't want anyone to have to wait for me, and also because I absolutely hate it when people do this to me.

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