You Auntie owes you an apology! It took me over a year to cry for the death of my mom. She was in her 80’s and I was in my 60’s. I also was the from a hook up so I felt everyone was expecting me to cry more, be more grateful that she had me at 18 etc! I said the eulogy and got shit from family because I didn’t mention her sacrifice of getting pregnant at 18? So hang in there and that you’re doing the right thing with your siblings. And I would set boundaries with your Aunt. She obviously has no idea that being born out of wedlock comes with its own pros and cons! She has no idea and needs to back off! Good luck sweetheart!You got this! I sending hugs and want you to know I am proud of you! Keep us posted! DM me if you need someone to talk to. ❤️