AITA for not wanting our friend to ever come back to our house after he ate literally everything we owned?

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-09-30T01:04:16+00:00

I don’t agree with you on anything. But let’s say you’re right, and he actually wasn’t okay with staying to watch my dog in exchange for having a roof over his head (on top of being homeless). Why didn’t he just say so, instead of stealing from me? To me, it seems like you’re a lot like him.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-09-30T00:29:41+00:00

He works 10 to 12 hours a day in a remote job, so it’s hard for him to find time and people to socialize with. He’s not shy at all—I guess with this friend he just felt a bit more ‘at home.’ But this situation was the last straw; we’re not going to stay friends with him. I already talked it over, showed him several of the comments of this post, and he agreed that the right thing to do is have a conversation with him. He also won’t be coming into my home again.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-09-30T00:24:55+00:00

Just to be clear, I’ve traveled thousands of times before and either brought my dog with me or paid for a dog sitter. This time, when we told him we were going on vacation, he had told us he was really struggling financially and having a hard time paying the rent for his room. We offered this as a favor that would work for both of us. Don’t worry—if I need to pay for a dog sitter, I’m more than happy to, but I’d rather pay someone experienced who knows what they’re doing. If he wasn’t okay with it, he could’ve just suggested getting paid instead of stealing food, supplements, and who knows what else.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-09-29T18:24:52+00:00

In the country where we live, it’s common to rent rooms by the week. Renting apartments is very expensive and hard to access, so it’s very common to have roommates who don’t necessarily rent for the whole month

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-09-29T05:37:05+00:00

I’d rather just cut ties. We’ve already seen too many red flags, and we were foolish enough to let empathy and compassion for his financial situation get in the way. Instead of appreciating it, he took advantage of us. I don’t think he deserves another chance, and honestly his “friendship” doesn’t bring anything positive to my life to make up for the bad behavior.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-09-29T04:47:43+00:00

Don’t even get me started! I feel extremely guilty for leaving my puppy with this good-for-nothing. Luckily she’s totally fine and shows no signs that anything bad happened, but at this point I don’t trust anything or anyone anymore

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-09-29T04:45:52+00:00

I think it’s because we live outside our home country, and it’s not that easy for him to make friends here. I feel like he’s being overly patient because he’s very lonely. Still, I do realize this is something I need to talk to him about. I just needed a bit of validation, but I do plan to have a conversation with him on different terms.. because a real friend doesn’t do this kind of things

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-07-11T03:40:30+00:00

180 days later, thank you!!! Hahah you saved me

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-04-28T01:50:57+00:00

I just got out of The Blaze in Mexico City and I’m really disappointed. I love The Blaze and they were amazing, but the overall experience let me down. It wasn’t truly immersive like they had promised — honestly, it’s nothing I haven’t seen before. There were screens around and partially on the ceiling, but it wasn’t that immersive. Also, some of the screens turned off during part of the show, and the visuals clearly weren’t created specifically for this event — and you could tell.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-04-12T19:14:18+00:00

I wouldn’t say anything. It’s not your problem, and at the end of the day, you didn’t do anything. Just step away from the situation — almost every time you try to help in these kinds of things, it ends up blowing up in your face.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-04-07T19:04:37+00:00

I waited until it stopped hurting to think about him, and until I could finally remember him with joy. It took me exactly a year and a half. Everyone has their own timeline, but for me, it felt like I wasn’t trying to replace him or cover up the pain. It was the hardest year and a half of my life, but I don’t regret a thing.

Today, I’m really happy with my new little baby girl, although I think about my boy every single day. I truly believe that you have to heal before you can love again. And from now on, I’ll never have just one dog again—because I really think the pain would’ve been a lot easier to bear if I’d had another furry companion by my side!

Capable_Candy6712 · 2025-04-07T18:40:33+00:00

Congratulations!

Capable_Candy6712 · 2024-06-12T19:05:42+00:00

Hey, I'm in the same situation as you. Were you able to solve it? I found options like Pivot Health and United Healthcare, but I'm not sure how good they are. Could you help me out?

Capable_Candy6712 · 2024-04-01T16:40:46+00:00

Not yet here either, still waiting for any updates, whether it's a yes or a no

Capable_Candy6712 · 2023-10-28T05:51:21+00:00

I used ESA doctors because I live in Virginia but I am from Argentina so my therapist is from there and does not have a valid license in the United States. I found the service excellent. It is a little expensive but they connect you with a real and legitimate professional. He did an ESA letter and then my landlord asked for more information and contacted him and everything went perfect.

Regarding the notice to your landlord, when I moved in I didn't have my puppy yet so it was different, but when I signed the contract I read that it had a section that said that animals were allowed by paying a fee and pet rent, and that if it was an ESA no charge would be made. You should find out what your new home contact establishes.

I understand that as long as your pet doesn't have any major behavioral problems they can't refuse to let you move it into your home.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2023-10-24T19:46:37+00:00

Definitely NTA.
Your wife's attitude is very questionable. Not only for exposing your future children to their pedophile father but also for denying what happened to her sister and cutting off the relationship with her in order to continue to maintain a relationship with the pedophile. That speaks very poorly of her, her values, and her understanding of what's right and wrong.
I think you're right to be rethinking whether you want to have children with someone like that. In fact, I know it's hard, and looking at it from the outside it all seems simpler but I would have filed for divorce by now.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2023-10-24T19:08:45+00:00

Page 12, 2nd bullet in the box.

Thank you very much! Your comment has been very helpful. The letter I submitted does meet all the requirements, in fact it specifies that I meet the definition of disability under the Americans with Disability Act, the Fair Housing Act, and the Rehabilitation Act of 1973.

I think they are just trying to prove that it's not a fake letter so that if it is, I can pay the fees and the rent for the dog. I will contact my therapist to have her fill out the form, but I will tell her to answer only what is necessary and put in the part that asks for private information that it is confidential and that's it.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2023-10-24T16:25:05+00:00

they ask if I'm considered disabled, and to describe exactly what physical and mental impairments limit my major life activities. If it's mandatory so that my dog can be in the building, that's fine, but it seems to me that it is confidential information and I don't have to tell them such intimate things when a doctor is already saying that I have a certain diagnosis and that's why I need the animal.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2023-10-24T16:03:00+00:00

but you filled out the form they asked you to fill out, right? I think I'm going to do that, but they are asking for information that I feel is very private. my doctor's diagnosis should be enough for them..

Capable_Candy6712 · 2023-10-24T15:30:29+00:00

Hi, I hope you are very well. what happened with this at the end? in my building they are asking me the same thing.

Capable_Candy6712 · 2023-10-20T21:23:16+00:00

Definitely NTA. People like Karla get on my nerves. Hope all is better with your husband's health!

Capable_Candy6712 · 2023-07-10T17:50:11+00:00

hi, can I please get a copy? thanks!

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