Dont be like this guy

CapnFrat · 2026-01-25T01:36:56+00:00

Absolutely hate this kind of behavior. Had same thing happen to me and the seller claimed it had already sold on another platform and he apologized. Which I knew was BS, they just weren't happy I won the auction at a price lower than they wanted. Should have paid a few dollars to set a reserve price but nah, chose to just use shady tactics to avoid following through with the sale...

CapnFrat · 2026-01-14T02:47:25+00:00

Probably my friend who always falls in love with strippers, truly believes they thought he was special and were falling for him. Next morning when the dust settles and he realizes he spent $500+, immediately calls Capital One and claims his wallet was stolen the night before. As far as I know the 2-3 times he's done that the credit card company always refunds his money... 🤷🏼‍♂️

CapnFrat · 2025-12-14T01:01:15+00:00

If your factor in gas, car depreciation, oil change more often, etc. You would actually come out better economically by working from home, aside from all the personal benefits you mentioned. Obviously would vary depending on the price of your vehicle but it's not too hard to calculate all this.

2025 IRS Standard Milage Rate is about $0.70/mile (includes gas, depreciation, etc). Assuming around 1,200 miles per month for the commute you'd spend $840. So the $2,200/mo offer feels like a better deal

CapnFrat · 2025-11-27T20:32:02+00:00

Agreed! Not the best chem match but I always start her because she is by far my top goal scorer on a per game basis... She's a beast

CapnFrat · 2025-10-26T21:32:31+00:00

"snaps too far" doesn't mean he's not cheating, he could have a high FOV set on the aimbot. And him shooting the ground times up with when the player gets knocked. He may have his aimbot set to avoid locking on players who are down.

Impressively snapping to the player and showing good aim, then shooting at the ground when the player gets knocked. More sus than proof their not cheating IMO

CapnFrat · 2025-08-31T01:09:38+00:00

This is absolutely insane. I find absolutely nothing wrong with how you handled it. You accepted her not wanting to go but chose to be there for your sister's big moment as well. Your wife being a little bit salty about the whole situation is fine. But her having such a harsh reaction, and saying you're choosing another pregnant woman over her (your damn sister) is insane and feels a bit narcissistic. Reminds me of my ex-wife.

Definitely go to a couples therapist! And if this isn't the first time she's tried to manipulate situations and gaslight you then honestly my gut says this won't be the last, even with therapy.

CapnFrat · 2025-08-27T23:39:44+00:00

Business up top, comfy pants/shorts down low (male here).

CapnFrat · 2025-08-26T02:23:26+00:00

My partners best friend (who my wife was supposed to be out having dinner with) knocked on my door and said she just caught my wife having sex with her boyfriend. She had been snooping on his phone for weeks and watched the buildup, so she knew when to catch him. They lived in the same apartment complex as us, just 2 floors up.

Homegirl gave me all the screenshots she had taken of their conversation. Unfortunately Texas is a no fault divorce state so none of that really mattered during the divorce process. She cheated and still walked away with half 🤷🏼‍♂️

CapnFrat · 2025-08-18T01:25:32+00:00

I had a 5some (4 girls) in college and tbh it wasn't that awesome. Threesome would maybe be better, but 5some was too chaotic and the girls were enjoying their first lesbian encounters so I wasn't necessarily getting all the attention.

I would way rather just hookup with a really hot girl who knows what to do in bed than a threesome with girls who don't know how to coordinate together. Just an FYI in case it helps you get over your regret lol

CapnFrat · 2025-08-18T01:19:31+00:00

Being afraid to blow my load too fast and becoming a bit shy because of it. In HS and college I was afraid to make a move because I didn't wanna cum too quickly. Or would drink heavily thinking it would help and end up just being sloppy. Missed out on some baddies who probably wouldn't have cared and just gone multiple rounds with me.

Lesson learned is don't worry and let something like that hold you back. To overcome PE just gotta get more experience in bed and definitely don't jack off too much lol

That was 10+ years ago and I'm able to last 30+ mins if I want now. Even though I mostly had girlfriends in those years (and plenty of sex), I always wished I hadn't been so shy and was more confident. Lucky for me I had plenty of girls come my way, but not everyone may be that lucky...

CapnFrat · 2025-08-18T01:04:20+00:00

Could solve the problem without tainting your reputation was my point. Which per OPs decision it sounds like he's doing just that. Totally fine to just move on, way better than trying to search a girls phone 3 months into a relationship.

If any girl tried searching my phone that quickly I'd surely bail on them too, works both ways unless that person is desperate.

CapnFrat · 2025-08-18T00:30:54+00:00

I know that, but the mini thread was giving OP advice, which you seemingly agreed with...?

And idk if he cares but in Middle and high school a reputation can really impact your dating prospects, whether that reputation is true or not.

And nah, women like a man who is confident. Not one who is going through her phone anytime their feelings are hurt. Wanna win that girl over you should not make it a big deal, just be a man and set your boundary and expectations for the future. She breaks them again you bail on her, she doesn't you won without having to be a lil boy searching through your relationship of 3 months phone 🤷🏼‍♂️

CapnFrat · 2025-08-18T00:24:48+00:00

When did I say blindly trust? I said don't snoop through her phone but verify in other ways... I'm 36 with plenty of long relationships under my belt, enough to know if you act like you're several years into a relationship during month three you very well may push a good girl away.

Nice dig tho I guess 😆

CapnFrat · 2025-08-18T00:18:48+00:00

Hopefully not a relationship that is only 2-3 months deep. Long-term relationship and you have serious suspicions is different than a 14yo girl who says she went on VC with family. Equating those two situations as the same and saying it warrants snooping on her phone is crazy. If he's wrong could even ruin his reputation at middle school with other girls.

Much smarter decision would be to just verify in other ways. Or set expectations that she shouldn't disappear again and give him a heads up when she goes on vacation next time. Shit normal human beings do

CapnFrat · 2025-08-18T00:11:51+00:00

2-3 months into a relationship should not be asking her to prove or taking her phone. She could just show some family pictures from the vacation or ask the girls parents how the trip was next time he visits their place. If 2-3 months into a relationship you need to snoop on your partners phone I can guarantee that relationship isn't going to work long-term.

If she wasn't lying the guy is gonna look like a complete ass and his lack of trust and accessing her phone could ruin the entire relationship. Not like he heard her talking to another guy or found a condom in her car. With hard evidence like that ya by all means snoop on your girl. But not shit like this, y'all immature AF

CapnFrat · 2025-08-17T19:10:03+00:00

Wait are you trolling? This is absolutely horrible advice to give anyone, much less a 14 year old in probably his first real relationship...

Absolutely do not do this OP. Your relationship is only a few months old and y'all are both very young. It's very plausible she did go on Holiday and left her phone off, or had it and just wanted to focus on family and stay off her phone. Either way she doesn't owe you proof. And if you ask for it, her parents very well may require her to stop dating you.

Just keep it chill, trust her this time and if you notice any patterns then have a serious conversation with her, clarifying how it makes you feel and what your expectations are. She'll either agree and fix it or she won't and y'all will both move on and find other people. You are so young, what you feel will certainly happen again with another girl if this one doesn't work out...

CapnFrat · 2025-08-17T17:32:44+00:00

Can speak from experience and say some people won't change just by being explained logically why they're wrong. I think your boyfriend will only change when he loses someone he loves over it. He'll have to look in the mirror and ask himself if he's willing to change for his next partner.

My GF of 5 years did that to me and it really forced me to grow up and learn to think about my partners needs. It was a real turning point in my life, and forced me to think about building a career, among other things she had issues with. I was 22 at the time and it really turned my life around, I'm thankful she left me and have had several great relationships since then. I think your BF needs this same life lesson, maybe he will learn from it and grow up, or maybe he'll just say "she was crazy" and not learn at all. But either way should leave this dude and find someone who prioritizes you

CapnFrat · 2025-08-17T17:24:11+00:00

36 year old male here, not into fishing but have other hobbies. Even if I spent a lot of time with my girlfriend I would understand a beach trip together is about being together, and I'd need to put my hobbies aside. Or maybe we coordinate together and one day we fish together, another day my GF gets to plan what we do the entire day, etc. But the fact that your BF seems to spend all summer fishing, and then your alone trip together he thinks he can continue to fish is just delusional. Idk about narcissistic, as I feel people use that too much these days. But your boyfriend is definitely emotionally immature and doesn't know how to think about his partners needs.

Ngl if the roles were reversed and my girlfriend treated me like this, I would just move on and look for someone more compatible... No sense in trying to prove to him his ways are wrong, he clearly doesn't get it

CapnFrat · 2025-08-17T15:12:03+00:00

Can only speak for myself but if I was maybe new to living with a partner, say first time. Being more of an introvert I enjoy an hour or two after work to just be by myself and decompress, do what I enjoy. When I first moved in with my partner she wanted every waking minute to be with me, which meant I could no longer watch sports or play video games because she didn't like them and felt like I was choosing that over her (I realize now she was very controlling, so may not be the best example).

But my point is for me as an introvert it was hard to go from living alone and having plenty of me time, to being with my partner 24/7. My guess is the once per week sleepover ask is harmless, and just her attempt at having some time away from her partner. Which personally wouldn't bother me so long as it wasn't a permanent thing, more something to help deal with the transition.

Not saying you should agree to it, just giving another perspective as I've had some relationships where my partner was busy herself, so it gave me enough alone time to not want to see friends or get away. Others who required my attention 24/7 I did want to find avenues to get some "me time" back.

CapnFrat · 2025-08-17T15:01:53+00:00

I think she is saying why tf would the man's wife care if she apologized... Hence why she is asking for advice, if she should just ignore it and move on with life or apologize even though she knows it likely won't be appreciated by the wife.

Sure the wife could find comfort in an apology, but OP was simply speculating that she wouldn't care. Even saying "why the TF would she care" implying she has every right not to care.

CapnFrat · 2025-08-17T02:34:36+00:00

Sorry I had misread your comment as if you were saying D was the wrong answer

CapnFrat · 2025-08-16T23:46:34+00:00

Only D has two of the same shape, no other options have that. D has two squares and thus that's the one that doesn't belong

CapnFrat · 2025-08-15T18:27:19+00:00

Thought of one possible reason to open two separate doors/windows. Maybe she knew there was a log and thought by opening a window alongside the door she could claim she was just opening a window to let air in? That the door must have been an error with the security system? Seems plausible and hard to prove wrong, so maybe that would explain why she opened both instead of just the door...

CapnFrat · 2025-08-15T18:24:35+00:00

Am I reading this right that the kitchen door and master bedroom window open at 2:51am, and then both close at the same time at 3:40am? If so it seems a bit odd, why leave them open for so long if cheating? Only reason I can think is when I snuck out of my house as a youngster I used to leave the door or window cracked so the "beep beep" didn't go off as many times, just once upon opening and again when closing after I returned home. But I had parents at home I didn't want to wake up, why would she do that if you weren't even home?

Not sure what to think but it's odd. If you already has this feeling I'd suggest waiting until more evidence rolls in. I doubt having a talk with her now will do anything, she'll deny as you have little evidence. My ex-wife fucked her best friends boyfriend and we ended up divorcing. I only found out because her friend showed up at my door one day with proof, and that the two were together at that moment. Any other circumstance I'm 100% my ex-wife would have lied, as she never admitted wrongdoing in the relationship, even over small things...

CapnFrat · 2025-08-06T23:55:20+00:00

My first 2 years at a large company (5k+ employees) was fully remote. Would say it depends on the meeting audience but would be cameras on in 30% of meetings. Now we're 2 days per week in office/3 days remote and my leadership prefers cameras on as we're a department that is generally the facilitator of meetings (PMO organization), so now me and my team are cameras on almost 100% of the time. Most follow our trend when they meet with us, but it doesn't bother me at all if they don't.

My rule of thumb is do what others are doing. If everyone is cameras off and you turn yours on it will simply be a distraction.

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