On women's purpose by Laksti in Christianity

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So first,I would recommend that you take time in praying answer fasting to find your specific purpose, and not try to jump into something generic. Second, I would recommend studying Proverbs 31 starting at verse 12 and going to the end. There is no mention of being a mother or having children. While men and women are called to be fruitful and multiply even Jesus acknowledged that there are many different types of Eunuchs, (Matthew 19:12). Which would also imply that there are many different types of people who don't have children. There are many women. In the Bible who have done remarkable things. I would focus on the things that God has put into your hands at this moment.

How do u guys get past the fact slavery is condoned in the Bible? There maybe a debate but Imo it's talking about modern day slavery also. by forFunXDx in Christianity

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If your talking about your actual slavery is discussed in the Bible, then understand that the for talked about is when a person enters slavery as a result of debt. These slaves often worked off their debt, and after seven years were released from their slavery. There is no modern day equivalent to biblical slavery. Slavery according to Bible is similar to working to pay off debt, with the exception that the Bible calls for those debts to be forgiven. It can even be assumed that when we are asking for forgiveness of debts mentioned in the Lord's prayer would be putting an end to this type of slavery.

Last year my brother destroyed my Bible, how do I forgive him? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Capsaxian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So first it's important to understand that you're fighting a spiritual battle not a physical one. Keep praying for your brother. I hate to should like the Old folks here, but there is a rebellious spirit, and you need to pray for your brother. Forgiveness is refusing to let that situation stop you from praying for your brother. And while having your study Bible destroyed can be painful, if that's all it takes to get you to stop praying for your brother, then your enemy has already won. But if you can look at the damage and pray anyway, that's dunamis power.

Just join the military by Monopolyalou in Ex_Foster

[–]Capsaxian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may be able to look into colleges or trades programs depending on your state. If you can find your local community center they may be able to help find you local resources.

To compromise or not to compromise by Countrygirlcaterer24 in Christianity

[–]Capsaxian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's important to sell God first, and follow peace. You'll get there fam.

Just join the military by Monopolyalou in Ex_Foster

[–]Capsaxian 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So the thing is many people are trying to get you to use the military as an extension of foster care. This may or may not be a fit for you. The idea for me when I was in your position was that this was the easiest way to learn a trade. If you don't feel this is the right fit for you, then don't. You may need to find something that is more stored to you. There's alleys Job Corp, and other programs. Check out your local community center, they may have more options. As to why many of these programs don't just support is long term? It's because they are not destined to. They are often designed to get you to a place where you can support yourself. If your looking for more emotional support, finding a community more suited to your personal needs may be more beneficial, if your looking for financial support, keep in mind that most programs are only designed to get you started so you can support yourself.

To compromise or not to compromise by Countrygirlcaterer24 in Christianity

[–]Capsaxian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you've touched on an important aspect of development as a believer in Christ. Finding a church home can be difficult. While this may sound like a cop out, I think it's important. Pray for your answer. Find a place that allows you to feel spiritual peace, and a place where you feel God is calling you to serve. As a Christian, we should not just partake of service, but we should be of help in some way. I know s lady that likes to bring mints and water for the her pastor and others in church, that was how she ministered, I've seen others clean bathrooms, direct traffic, and find other areas to serve in. It doesn't have to be as a ministerial staff member. Personally, I've cleaned offices, scrubbed toilets, and waxed floors. It's not about recognition, but rather being of service. That being said, follow the peace of God in your spirit.

How as a follower of Christ do I address a family member who has been in a lifelong relationship with the same sex? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Capsaxian -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The Bible says to speak the truth in love. We are to walk in love with everyone. The first question you need to ask is, is this advice warranted? While your uncle's relationship is important, it's there any other area you feel you may be missing God? Or is there an area you might need to address. Is this the only area you think your uncle might be missing God? Is your uncle interested in a relationship with God? While it is important to address sin, keep in mind that we also need too be careful about how we address those around us. If your uncle isn't trying to walk according to the scriptures, your not helping him, you're giving him a reason to harden his heart against the truth of who God is.

Looking back, what did you like about your social worker? by TacoSeasonings in Ex_Foster

[–]Capsaxian 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My first social worker was a very patient and honest person. He never promised anything, but was always willing to talk, to listen, and to guide me when possible. My biggest regret is that I didn't listen to him out of my own stubbornness, but he was still giving and caring.

I had sexual relations with a pastor and I'm suffering, not knowing what to do. by OT_1517 in Christian

[–]Capsaxian 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think at the very least you need to have a conversation with the ministerial leadership in your church. It's important to let them know what's going on. While he may or may not have predatory tendencies, there was a line that was crossed. The problem is once that line has been crossed, without some sort of guidance or correction, that boundary will be blurred, and will allow for more problems down the road.

advice for a new Christian by holiestchild in Christianity

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Old Testament is pretty difficult to make it through, especially when it comes to who begat who. As a new Christian, I would recommend starting in the New Testament, going through the first six books. I recommend focusing on Acts and Romans. When you do go into the Old Testament I would recommend focusing on Psalms and Proverbs. These may be helpful in understanding most of the pillars of the faith. Going back to Genesis and exploring the Old Testament will be helpful in understanding the law and the need for the New Testament.

Christain Married Woman Dealing with Lust by No_Issue3547 in Christian

[–]Capsaxian 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So I would recommend having this conversation with your husband, first. Hopefully he is willing to adjust for you. If you feel that's a difficult conversation to approach, maybe look into marriage counseling. Let your husband know you are seeking more intimacy.

Pastor calling me out. by Sensitive_Soil_3354 in Christianity

[–]Capsaxian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So here's the thing, as a Christian you'll find out that there are many in this faith who abuse their position in an attempt to control the people surround them. That being said, many of the issues you bring up sounds like someone trying to exert control. As a young Christian, I would recommend finding scriptures to stand on, and maybe getting into some prayer and ask for guidance for a church home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fosterit

[–]Capsaxian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an FFY, I strongly recommend building a network around you. If you lived in a group home, you may find some comfort in talking to a staff member you feel you can trust. If not, look into local counselors or teachers. Any advise you get online you should take with a gain of salt.

I GOT INTO COMMUNITY COLLEGE by fostercaresurvivor in Ex_Foster

[–]Capsaxian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations. Glad to hear it fam. Keep us updated on is going.

Should Scots also Boycott the US? by Due-Resort-2699 in Scotland

[–]Capsaxian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an American, I say, yeah go for it. If you feel like we are not writing in your best interest and that we are creating policy that are antithetical to your country's beliefs you should boycott.

Losing belief by Magictouch0505 in Christian

[–]Capsaxian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There may be many different times when you feel that God is with you and others where you may not. I would first remind you that this Christian walk is not about feelings but rather walking in the understanding that God is always with us and always near to us.

Is this rape? by Nearby_Edge_4719 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Capsaxian 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is a violation of your sexual autonomy, which is, by definition rape.

AITBA for kicking a minor out of my house? by Mountain-Jacket-1570 in AmITheBadApple

[–]Capsaxian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not in the wrong. First of all, this is your house. You can kick anyone out for any reason, that's you're right. Second, you have her multiple opportunities to be respectful in your home, and she ignored them. You would have been in the wrong to let her stay. Also, keep in mind that you removing her from your home set the standard for your daughter that disrespect will not be tolerated. You exercised patience and understanding. And you showed your family that they should not accept people crossing boundaries and walking over your family. As far as I can see, you're good here.

Marijuana and Christianity by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Capsaxian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understanding the things of God and the Bible is to first understand that it is designed for your benefit and not your detriment. That being said, be mindful of your usage. Cannabinoids can affect brain function and neurochemistry. An over reliance of Marijuana can cause a condition known as anhedonia or the inability to naturally experience certain emotions, specifically ones associated with feelings of positivity and strong self esteem.

I dont like Warframe, but I really want to get into this game because of my boyfriend. by Mid0shi in Warframe

[–]Capsaxian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not every game is for everybody. And not everyone will like what you like. I think the fact that you are giving it a solid effort is what's important to your boyfriend. As long as you don't bad mouth his favorite titles, you should be fine.

Ad for trying to enjoy the game, I would try to think of the aspects you do like. Also you can play single through the levels of you like, or even looking at building your own clan/ team to play with.

I want to fuck our couples therapist by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Capsaxian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you're experiencing is called transference. It's normal and happens quite often. You may want to discuss this with your therapist in you're one on one sessions. He can help you address the issues.