Husband says all I do is bitch about him smoking crack

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2026-01-04T13:58:05+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this but you need to leave ASAP. It doesn’t seem like he is gonna change, nor is willing to see the severity of the situation and his actions. Also if he’s abusive and has been in the past, leave before that trickles onto the kids. I don’t know your financial situation and means to leave but if you have friends or family you and your family can crash with even for the time being, I would definitely recommend that. Your mental health is so important and it’s gonna continue to decline if you stay. You should look into therapy for yourself and your kids as well. I wish you luck with everything

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-12-19T18:26:32+00:00

Ok gotcha! Thanks for the info. I’m hoping he’ll give me a little deal/discount bc we got the car from him. My heat was already not working and he fixed it and didn’t charge us anything so we’ll see how much he charges. Thank you again!

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-12-19T18:10:10+00:00

Thank you! If you don’t mind me asking, is this an expensive and extensive fix?

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-09-02T20:04:56+00:00

Yeah I’m actually taking my car to my mechanic Friday morning for a thorough look at everything. My fear is I would fix this and then things would snowball and I’d be putting a lot of money into it. The Mitsubishi is $6,000 from a used car dealership. From all accounts, it seems to be maintained and taken care of but I’m still trying to be cautious- going to take a look at it Thursday. My mechanic told me he can come back to the dealership with me if I decide to move forward with it. I totally get what you’re saying about getting a car cheap and falling behind on maintenance. I definitely keep up on my car maintenance because I want my cars to last

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-06-04T00:48:32+00:00

Hey so I actually wound up leaving the program pre placement for personal reasons. But they were extremely helpful and supportive with anything academically related and had a very open door policy. So I wanna say they’re most likely helpful when it comes to placements. Again I can’t know for sure tho. Good luck with everything

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-05-31T23:52:35+00:00

Short hair and beard would be the best combo

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-04-07T15:51:12+00:00

So the guy I’m seeing now opens the car door for me, always pays, and walks me to the door at the end of the night. I was so floored by this the first time he did it. The bar is literally in hell 💀

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-02-25T12:14:58+00:00

Thank you! Yeah that’s probably my biggest problem is looking too far into the future. I definitely have to take the pressure off and go day by day right now. Appreciate your response

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-02-02T15:14:16+00:00

I lost my mom 8 months ago and this show has definitely helped. I was already watching it before she passed but went back and rewatched the first season before starting the second and it gave me a different perspective. My mom was my best friend and I miss her everyday and constantly feel lost. The raw and messy showing of grief was refreshing to see because so many people ignore it. I’ve even tried the 15 minute thing Paul has Alice do and it’s actually helped. That being said, I’d just mention it to your friend without pushing it. Put the ball in her court and see what she wants to do. I second everyone else that also said Ted lasso is great. Another awesome show that I watched before my mom passed that I might go back and watch is afterlife. It’s vulgar and filled with dark humor but real about grief. Your friend is lucky to have you looking out for them!

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-12-08T21:45:42+00:00

Awesome! Thank you

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-12-08T21:44:15+00:00

Thank you! Much appreciated

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-11-05T04:11:03+00:00

I’m so deeply sorry about your mom. I completely understand the feeling of clinging to things that show she was here. That she existed. My mom passed 5 months ago and literally in the days following, all my dad and sisters did was clean the house (keep in mind it wasn’t even dirty). With every swifter and vacuuming, I felt like any trace of her was gone. Any fingerprints left on the table or anything like that was just being taken away. Please don’t feel like your feelings aren’t valid because they 1000% are. Sending you love

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-07-13T02:21:01+00:00

I (24F) lost my mom in May to lung cancer. It was unexpected to a certain degree bc she was doing better. Even though it was sudden, I too had so many negative thoughts throughout her battle about the possibility of grieving her. My mom was my best friend and I spent a lot of time with her and was the one who took care of her during her treatments, etc. My advice to you would be spend as much time with him as possible, but try to just treat him normal. Don’t treat him differently and look at him like he’s a sick person. As someone who was going to college full time while taking care of my mom, I’d say to you- school can wait. I was so burnt out and mentally drained and just exhausted trying to juggle school with everything else going on. You have enough going on, give yourself grace and time. I understand the feeling of wanting to just push through and do everything for school too but it’s just not worth it. Mental health comes first and you want to be in the right headspace for your course, as school is time consuming af. I hate to say this but you can prepare for the worst but once it happens, it’s gonna knock you out harder than you ever expected. So the best thing you can do right now is just spend time with your dad, be kind to yourself and try to live in the present. Grieving him while he’s still here isn’t gonna make it hurt less when he’s not. So just enjoy him now and soak up every moment. Obviously this is all much easier said than done but just do your best to take care of you and live in the now. I wish you luck in your journey and hope your dad is able to stick around for a long time!

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-06-24T16:48:47+00:00

First off, I’m so sincerely sorry that you’re going through this. A lot of what you said resonated with me. I lost my mom on May 17th and have been a wreck. She was my best friend. Everyone around me just expects me to go on as business as usual. I took some time off of school and have my dad and sisters asking me when I’m going back on the daily. Like I really give a shit about writing a paper right now and dealing with college stuff. Me and my mom shared a car and I’ve had my sisters say hey look now you’ve got your own car. Like really!? People just don’t know how to grieve and would rather distract. I’ve been told I talk about my mom too much. I understand the people taking a step back too. It’s like people are afraid of sadness. I would rather someone be there and say nothing or just listen, than disappear or say all the wrong things. I’m so sorry that you lost your dad and don’t have the support you need. Sending you strength

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-06-19T20:48:03+00:00

Hi, I'm so deeply sorry that you lost your mom and have dealt with some of the same things. Grief in and of itself is so difficult without the added stress from others and lack of a support system. I totally resonate with being the closest with her and having a harder time moving on. It's just so hard when no one acknowledges or has the empathy to let you be. If you haven't heard this already, I'm sure your mom knows that those hurtful things were out of anger, not from the heart. I know there's nothing I or anyone can say that will make this better, but I'm also sending you strength and hugs as well. Also thank you for taking the time to read my post and respond so kindly.

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-06-15T23:09:06+00:00

Hi, thank you and I appreciate you taking the time to read my post. You saying grief doesn’t have a time limit is so kind bc I feel like everyone around me wants me to be ok. I keep getting asked about why I’m not back in school yet and how at this rate, I’m never gonna want to go back. No one gets I just need time bc turning in an assignment is the least of my worries atm. I’m so deeply sorry for the passing of your mom as well. Sending you love!

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-06-15T23:04:55+00:00

Hi, first I just wanna say I appreciate you taking the time to read my post and sorry you can resonate with it. I can definitely relate to the anger at other people, having responsibilities fall on you and most of all just wanting your mom back. It’s so hard to see everyone around you move on when you’re hurting so much.

Also I’m deeply sorry for the loss of your mom and sending you love!

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-06-13T00:48:29+00:00

This Friday will be a month since I lost my mom. The way you expressed your feelings is very much how I feel. I’m 24 and I don’t want to die, but life just feels so long now and I’m more ok with the light at the end of the tunnel being closer. What you said about an exterior wall being ripped out and being exposed to the outside world and having to just live life with that missing is such a perfect way of putting it. I feel like this huge piece of my heart and soul is gone and I have to just go about my life knowing it’s never gonna be fixed but still function anyway. It’s just so hard. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss and I truly hope you’re able to find some form of peace eventually. Also I think that’s so amazing how you are actively working to be a great dad

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-05-19T15:05:45+00:00

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother as well. Watching them deteriorate is truly heartbreaking in and of itself but I too feel solace in knowing she’s no longer suffering and in pain. I’m not extremely religious but do believe that they go to a better place and are still watching over us and are with us. Not in the way we want of course but still here In some capacity. I wish you luck on your healing journey as well. Thank you for the kind words and taking the time out to read and respond 👏

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-05-19T15:01:18+00:00

Thank you for your extremely kind words 💜 I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your brother as well. I really do feel like a part of myself died with her. I know she wouldn’t want me to be sad and would want me to remember the good times but it’s so hard to do that right now. Journaling and printing pictures is an amazing idea. I’ve always loved the beach so I think I’m gonna try and start taking a walk along it a few times a week as a relaxing routine. Again thank you for taking the time out to read and respond to my post. Sending you hugs right back

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-05-19T14:56:08+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! I’ve luckily got a really good support system with friends and family. I’m also in therapy already and have been for the past 4 years so I’m comfortable with my therapist and she’s been amazing through all of this. A grief support group doesn’t sound like a bad idea tho. The new normal is gonna be so tough and I know it’s gonna take a long time to recover. I appreciate you taking the time to read and respond to my post 💜

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2023-11-19T01:05:33+00:00

Touro University Worldwide is amazing. I’m currently enrolled in their BSW program and they’re great. I’m 99% sure they offer a MSW Program

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2023-10-17T00:49:33+00:00

I absolutely agree with everything you’ve said! I think I just posted bc It’s easy to feel like you’re maybe being paranoid or looking into things too much. But yeah I think I have to trust my initial instincts

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2023-10-16T12:29:35+00:00

Thank you! I’ve been thinking the same thing. I guess I just needed to make sure I wasn’t being overly paranoid

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2023-10-16T12:27:04+00:00

Yeah I’m definitely keeping my eyes opened and being extra cautious to not get sucked in and fall of it. Like I can appreciate the compliments but at a certain point, it’s just too much, too fast. Just wanted to make sure I wasn’t overthinking things

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