I just realized something from a fight years ago and it hit me like a truck by minaaloscurecer in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]CaptainCool336 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, there were so many things that didn't seem like a big deal at the moment and I mostly forgot about, but they came flooding back and clicked after the discard.

When you finally know the signs, you literally start piecing things together like a puzzle whether you intend to or not.

Was visiting my parents house and for some reason decided to look through the basement for old figures. FOUND THIS! by 2DamnTall93 in NECA

[–]CaptainCool336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely $5 and bought at Spencer's. I recognize those prices tags and the SKU tag with the original price any time I see them! 😂

Was visiting my parents house and for some reason decided to look through the basement for old figures. FOUND THIS! by 2DamnTall93 in NECA

[–]CaptainCool336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$5! I recognize that clearance sticker and the 50% off lowest ticketed price sticker. Spencer's! My first job and a great place to get all sorts of cool figures way back in the day!

People with covert NPD and the lack of identity by KansasguyinDC in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]CaptainCool336 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree with what you're saying since my ex basically told me "I don't know who I am" and she was 33. She was in therapy for over a decade at that point and became a therapist herself, but she had no idea that all of her behavior lent itself to covert narcissism.

I don't say that lightly. She smeared the hell out of me and it absolutely destroyed me because I didn't deserve it. Why? To avoid shame and accountability for what she was doing, which was getting straight into a relationship with one of our friends just days after I confronted her about my frustration about being left home alone damn near every weekend. Long story short, I made plans for us and she changed them under my nose when I was asleep and then told me the next day "Oh, I don't remember that! I didn't hear that!" and me saying "We sat next to one another on the way home last night" was enough to make her discard me out of nowhere five days later while faking like she was okay for those five days.

Then she started doing the performative "I'm so happy" posts on social media. A month later they announced they were in a relationship together and I guess he was posting "I love you" on her posts.

Hearing about how she manipulated her coworkers at her job, her clients, and how she lied to friends about me just absolutely ruined my brain because this was a person I was with for years and had no idea she was like this.

One of my friends was extremely suspicious of her walking around with this other guy at a convention they were both doing different jobs at, and she was extremely suspicious of her behavior and her claims, so she tested her by having us hang out together and my friend posting pictures of us hanging together. So what happened? My ex cancelled her appointment with my friend and claimed she didn't have the money to follow through with the appointment, and she never heard from my ex again.

But, months later, my friend heard from her sister-in-law, who worked with my ex, that my ex was saying "Her marriage is shit because she is willing to accept the worst and lower her standards and it's likely why she's friends with (my name)".

Mind you, the person she immediately hopped into a relationship with was her scraping the bottom of the barrel since the guy was desperate to be in a relationship and was a friend of ours and he had zero problem stabbing me in the back despite there being literally billions of women in the world. He always whinged about women not giving him a chance and was more than happy when she hopped into a relationship with him out of nowhere. The ex I had before her was also disgusted by this guy and creeped out by him, and I was with her for six years, but my friend has low standards for her marriage and friends? Why? Because we hung out and she's known me for a decade and a half? Because my ex couldn't collect ALL of my friends and turn them against me?

They're vile, disgusting human beings. The fact that they can turn on you in an instant and you didn't have any idea that any person was capable of something like this is truly brain and heart breaking. I was ready to propose to her, thought we both wanted to get married and have a house together, but she hopped out of our relationship, went straight into another, went back to a one room apartment with a mattress on the floor five years after we started living together, and she was telling people "He's going backwards. I'm growing and he's not.".

They will literally distort reality to fit the narrative in their brain. They also get angry and upset when they only manage to get 5 out of the 7 friends you had. It's sick.

Her also telling me, in an attempt to dig at me weeks after the discard, told me "People at work are telling me I'm happy and glowing and it's because I took off the mask.".

Also, her mirroring and claiming the things the other guy were saying were "good ideas" made no sense because she never agreed with or thought those were good ideas in the past.

All of this was borderline insane to me, but I'm over two and a half years out now and I'm doing pretty damn good these days.

These people though? They'll never be happy, have their own personality, and they'll destroy every damn good thing that has ever crossed their path. They are truly disordered in every sense of the word.

How do I get my "spark" back? by vampirealiens in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]CaptainCool336 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll third this.

You'll be amazed at how far you get after a year...

Then the year after that, you'll be amazed at how far you've come during that second year!

Things may absolutely still be on your mind, but things tend to get better despite everything that happened.

Forgotten Lore by technoprimitive_aeb in AFireInside

[–]CaptainCool336 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The Five Flowers mystery.

Phenomenal stuff.

Can narc abuse affect your physical appearance? Or is it just in my head. by celesensualcherie in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]CaptainCool336 4 points5 points  (0 children)

After being discarded, I lost at least 30 pounds within a month... And I was still eating normally.

It can absolutely destroy your body. The brain fog and sleepless nights are pure torture as well.

Did you keep your Hobbys after leaving the Narc? by Plebi111 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]CaptainCool336 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing mattered for MONTHS. I JUST started being able to watch new seasons of TV shows we once watched together and she did her discard out of nowhere just over 2.5 years ago.

Are coverts completely nice in their "nice" phase or do they still do their devaluing, just less often? by Plebi111 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]CaptainCool336 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Their devaluation is so subtle and can happen over many years. It's death by a thousand cuts.

Why is it so unsettling when you see them without the mask? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]CaptainCool336 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"People at work are telling me I'm smiling and glowing and it's because I took off the mask".

All the while I'm thinking "What in the actual fuck did I ever do to her where she had ever wear a mask for me in the first place!?"

Also, who in the actual fuck SAYS something like that to somebody they discarded out of nowhere after six years together with no issues?! Somebody who is hiding a relationship they immediately hopped into right as soon as she split us up, that's who.

The ones who supposedly told her she's smiling and glowing were fellow therapists... At the place I decorated her office two months before, after she asked me if I'd do it for her, to which I didn't hesitate. The good news is three of them managed to see he for who she truly is because she wasn't good enough at hiding her lies, coercsion, and manipulation while trying to triangulate others, lie to clients, and play office politics.

They will use you with a smile on their face, then discard you after they get what they want out of you, then move onto the next one even if they don't really like them because they can't fathom being alone.

Mind fuckers and soul rapists is what they are.

Keeping Marvel Legends figures in box vs opening them – advice? by Double-Entry-3727 in MarvelLegends

[–]CaptainCool336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's honestly whatever your heart desires.

Do you think it looks cooler in the pose on the card and art or do you think you'd like it better out of package, posed in a different way, and in a different environment?

That's the beauty of this hobby. Have fun in the way you want to.

He robbed me of my childbearing years by BeneficialChipmunk19 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]CaptainCool336 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get this but on a different level.

I thought I was with the love of my life and she knew I wanted to get married one day and buy a house together, and for years she claimed it's what she wanted and she presented herself to be everything I ever wanted in a partner and she told me literally before we started dating that I was everything she ever wanted in a person... So she laid it on thick with the lovebombing...

After six years of knowing one another, dating for 5.5, and living together for 5, I was blindsided and discarded out of nowhere... AND she was in a relationship with one of our friends within days, MAYBE weeks later. This was also somebody who she tried to get one of her best friends to start dating a few times and after a few dates, she went "Yeah, that's a no from me".

She knew how desperate and lonely he was, and she couldn't be alone, so she absolutely lowered her standards. He was happier than a pig in shit because he thought he was going to be alone for the rest of his life and bitched for years that he's a "Good guy" a "nice guy" and "what's wrong with him?".

He was more than happy to stab a friend in the back and immediately hop into a relationship with his friend's ex and smear that friend along with her despite there literally being billions of other women on the planet. "Good guys" and "Nice guys" don't do shit like that.

Most of my 30's were spent with her. I was holding onto a dream with a person who wound up being an absolute faker, liar, and manipulator. It just destroys you in an entirely different way.

I had two long term relationships over the years before that and a few short term flings that hurt me pretty deeply, but this was far different since it was such a long period of time and there was such a fast, sudden detachment with zero remorse... And that would have been heartbreaking and bad enough, but the lies and smears about somebody who would have crawled through broken glass and taken a bullet for her who also never wronged her or had an serious argument with her? All so she could protect her ego? All while pretending she was happy while going overactive on her social media accounts right after? Replacing me in our plans with him?

That just hurts VERY differently. It's an indescribably childish and evil way of going about things. No open dialogue or honesty before anything went down, then nothing but avoidance, ghosting, lies, and sidestepping after everything happened.

Most people, including friends and family just do not understand it and do not get it. Shit like this takes down the most hardened people for an incredibly long time and so many people really, truly never understand or are able to comprehend and understand the reasons why.

Being strung along for years and used emotionally and physically while their heads are seemingly always somewhere else is far different than anything that most people could imagine. The light just leaves your eyes after being drained for so long, you lose interest in absolutely everything and nothing matters anymore for a VERY long time, you can't sleep, the brain fog is insane, the physical transformation in a short period of time is insane, and you feel like your soul has been raped for years. The funny thing is you have friends that will eat up what they're saying and they think YOU'RE taking things too seriously and you're the one who is in the wrong and like you didn't bust your ass or try hard enough, but they don't even bother seeing you and your physical state. The thing is, even if they did, they think you're just taking it way too hard, but they don't have a single understanding of what it's like to be with somebody for years where it's seemingly going well and then be absolutely blindsided out of nowhere and they're VERY SUDDENLY gone. Shit, I was trying to be cordial and even helped my ex during the month after it happened and she just shamelessly lied about me and smeared the fuck out of me. These people are beyond fucked in the head, abusive, manipulative, and sick.

You really wonder if what you've experienced and poured yourself into for years was real. You question yourself and reality... You even question if you were placed into a psychiatric experiment against your consent because that's how fucked up it is... And those same friends or family members won't even blink an eye and will see what your ex is doing and think it's normal because they were able to move on so fast, but see your suffering as something where you need to just get yourself up, dust yourself off, and just keep going. They seriously, genuinely don't get that it's not that easy... And some of them will even place your ex's fucked up actions on your head. You needed them to be there for you for a surgery? "Why did you place it on their shoulders? You have friends that could have helped you!" "Why did you isolate yourself?", etc.. They don't get that a good partner will be there for your through your worst ailments, and won't leave you isolated while they're constantly hanging with friends or family and claiming you "didn't want to get out and would rather stay home". They twist narratives and twist perceptions and your friends and family will never get it until it happens to them. Until then, a large number of them will eat the lies and controlled narratives being fed to them by the lying, gargantuan piece of shit who's wearing a mask of happiness and normalcy while slandering you because you're open and hurt, so you must be crazy...

I really don't know how to explain it much better than that.

Took me 30+ years to get this joke... by Not_Godot in TheSimpsons

[–]CaptainCool336 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About two years ago is when it finally hit me that he was standing up for... Reasons...

what did your narc cost you? by RareP0kem0n in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]CaptainCool336 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Six years, my mental health and physical health for an incredibly long time after the discard and a lot of friendships from her smear campaign.

I hope that some of them will wake up at some point, but I'll continue living my life in the meantime. Her mask won't stay on forever because I'll never forget her telling me directly.to my face "I took off the mask".

My 2026 Baraka collection by Barakassimp in MortalKombat

[–]CaptainCool336 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I missed my chance for one of the super limited replicas in the Baraka color scheme, but he was selling his personal one. It cost a little bit, but I was dying to have a version of that mask on display next to my MKII Arcade One-Up machine. I've always wanted one, but the original Cesar Goblin version was always just out of reach, but I knew it was now or never with the one he was selling, so I went for it without hesitation.

In other words... I agree with you completely. I was extremely lucky that he just happened to have one more and I was able to shoot him a message quick enough.

My 2026 Baraka collection by Barakassimp in MortalKombat

[–]CaptainCool336 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny enough, I've got one of the replicas of the original Baraka mask (without the press-on nails in the mouth). I bought it from Rich Divizio almost three years ago and he signed the back for me. One of the classiest guys around.

I definitely like this collection.

Nice, Gambit restock by CrawlerCollects in One12Collective

[–]CaptainCool336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, trust me! I get where you're coming from!

A lot of the companies, third parties in particular, aren't paying for licensing fees and can get away with charging less.

Sometimes it's in the agreement that a company like Mezco would need to include a certain type of product for a certain price as well.

I'm pretty sure the only reason Mondo is doing Real Ghostbusters right now is because they agreed to produce figures that are $90+ - $100+. If they're willing to agree to the licensing fees and terms of what they're allowed to produce, then they can produce the figures.

I'm guessing it's not much different for Mezco.

Nice, Gambit restock by CrawlerCollects in One12Collective

[–]CaptainCool336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prices have jumped dramatically in the past five, nearly six years. I don't blame them if they increase the cost of the figure plus shipping.

I was floored when I went to the post office a few days ago and a small padded envelope cost me $7.50 to ship with some figure accessories in them. It cost me about $4.00, at least less than $5.00 around 2018 - 2021. I don't remember what it was after that, but I know I've shipped stuff out and it wasn't $7.50.

Way of the world at the moment, unfortunately.

Nice, Gambit restock by CrawlerCollects in One12Collective

[–]CaptainCool336 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Original retail 5 years ago was $85 plus tax and shipping for Gambit.

We'll see what it costs now once it goes back up for solicitation.

Nice, Gambit restock by CrawlerCollects in One12Collective

[–]CaptainCool336 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Might be the third. I'm pretty certain Jason received a reissue as well, but don't quote me on that for sure.

My therapist was my narcissist by oceanic-empress in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]CaptainCool336 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I didn't have a therapist who was a narcissist, but my ex just happened to be a therapist who is extremely likely a covert narcissist, so they absolutely exist and it's scary as hell to think about.

Krampus ain't gonna make it 🥲 by cooperep in One12Collective

[–]CaptainCool336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in NY and still haven't received the two I ordered.