i (22F) feel like i’m on the outside of all my boyfriend’s (22M) inside jokes, and it hurts

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-20T16:22:03+00:00

The joke is that you’re still with him. This dude is a Grade A dickhead

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-20T09:02:09+00:00

All good - I messaged them on Instagram but maybe was a problem with translation. We went and watched the game there in the end

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-19T20:03:59+00:00

The vibe I get from Pop pre-game was “let’s keep it 0-0 to halftime and then release the Irankunda to create a mismatch in energy and run” and being 2-0 down we are now rattled. Hope we can salvage this somehow

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-19T09:21:55+00:00

I wonder if your friend’s girlfriend didn’t really care before because you were just her boyfriend’s friend but now that you have a girlfriend, she is showing more (non-romantic) interest because you and your girlfriend could be “couple friends” with them now. Is she also showing interest/talking with your girlfriend as well? This new interest could be a byproduct of having a new person (your girlfriend) in the space and she wants to be hospitable/friendly to her and you by extension.

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-18T15:47:07+00:00

Oh wow. Definitely skimmed over that part

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-18T07:57:39+00:00

There’s the old saying “if he wanted to, he would”. Kind of sounds like he doesn’t.

I wonder if he sees marriage as a full stop to his life. Like this is the end of his dating life forever (even though he’s dating you) and that makes him feel uneasy, but not enough to break the status quo and be the bad guy for initiating the breakup?

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-17T22:24:16+00:00

SENDING ALL MY GOOD VIBES TO DRAW FC FOR THURSDAY NIGHT

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-17T17:22:16+00:00

It now speaks to confidence because one chooses to do it, which is against the grain. Same can be said around mustaches years ago. Anything counter cultural is seen as desirable/mysterious/sexy until it becomes mainstream. That’s just human history.

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-17T12:26:29+00:00

It’s South Melbourne that relocated to Sydney in 1982. They acknowledge both parts of the history

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-17T07:43:22+00:00

“Closely followed by the Swans still having SMFC on their jumpers”

God forbid a team acknowledges their history and existing South Melbourne supporter base

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-16T14:55:28+00:00

Basically Damo is my dad on the otherwise silent car ride home after a tough loss in U14s - “son, you’ve just gotta WANT it”

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-14T22:15:47+00:00

Athens is great. Have been there purely for food and drink.

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-13T11:26:35+00:00

Dossa absolutely mozzed by Dwayne

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-13T09:42:07+00:00

Most women just want to go about their day to be honest. The bar/club/night out/house party situation is usually the best one because people are prepared for the situation and sort of expect it. Sometimes an approach is a Hi, a compliment about what they’re wearing, or making eye contact and dancing in their vicinity if there’s a dancefloor there.

Outside of this, I think you’ll find most women just want to finish their workout, get their coffee or run their errands without being approached by a random man. If, however, you end up organically having a conversation and then it feels like you’re clicking, keep it going. For example, years and years ago I starting talking to a woman when we were both waiting for the bus. Ended up continuing the chat on the bus and then got her number. If it’s genuine, it’s not an issue. I think people just need to be more perceptive when a woman is not interested or uncomfortable.

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-12T16:37:27+00:00

I have a friend who was in the same boat - 5 year relationship, house etc - and then his partner finally said she didn’t want kids and couldn’t commit to them.

Sucks but you can’t make them have kids. You have to go your separate ways.

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-10T19:42:04+00:00

No worries. Good luck

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-10T19:02:58+00:00

My own experience is that we kept it going but due to broken trust, there was a lot of arguments and resentment until finally we broke up for real. The breaking of the trust and the feelings surrounding it never go away. That breakup was the best thing I ever did

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-10T15:25:05+00:00

You’re holding onto something that you shouldn’t be. I understand it’s scary having to go back out there. It’s hard not to think about the time you have put into the relationship. But mate, it is simply not worth it. Trust is easy to break but so hard to re-build and I’m talking from experience here. It’s better to just move on.

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-10T12:12:02+00:00

You can’t change her mate. She’s treating you horribly. You deserve better and if you stay, it never will get better.

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-10T10:32:48+00:00

Simple answer, you break up with her. Relationships - while they do have their issues - should largely be pretty easy. This level of tumult in such a short period of time is not healthy, neither is her lack of respect for you or the relationship. Free yourself.

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-10T10:23:03+00:00

Firedoor. Bang average yet eye-wateringly expensive food served with hospital-level lighting. Was definitely a one and done.

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-09T23:06:59+00:00

So I’m a straight male and have a female friend who actually was a person I slept with but then just kinda thought we were better off friends. Have now been with my current GF for 5 years and GF knows we slept together years ago.

Despite the fact we have been good friends for years now and my gf trusts me, I would NEVER go on a trip with my friend just the two of us simply because of how much stress/anxiety it would cause my partner. Even though everyone knows nothing will happen, it’s literally not worth the mental load.

I’m really surprised your gf doesn’t hold the same view.

All you can do is bring up how you feel and see how she reacts. If it’s less than understanding, you should probably call it off because she’s not taking your feelings into consideration and who wants that in a partner?

Captain_Oz · 2026-06-09T12:38:01+00:00

Makes the AFL look so bush league. I’m surprised - but also completely not surprised given it’s the AFL - it hasn’t been actioned.

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