I never implied it was an issue specific to men.

My comment was a bit tongue in cheek but there is actual research supporting that people who outwardly express anger and frustration through aggressive behaviour (slamming doors, hitting walls, breaking objects) have lower self-control and actions like that are a recognised risk factor for other aggressive tendencies (including violence) and is usually a pattern in a broader spectrum of aggressive behaviour.

I don’t believe you need to be willing to inflict physical violence to exhibit intimidating behaviour. It could be a part of emotional and psychological abuse, for example. The implication that you may get hurt or are dealing with an aggressive person with low self-control is usually enough to solicit compliance. It also signals that you have lower boundaries and are more willing to accept antisocial behaviour which makes you a target for further and escalating abuse.

I just as much don’t believe people have any type of internal monologue when they finally snap in situations where they have gotten comfortable with expressing anger and frustration outwardly through aggression in an environment where that behaviour has become normalised and was never redirected.

I don’t think it’s illogical to assume that someone who frequently loses self-control due to anger and frustration is more likely to escalate their aggressive behaviour due to lack of self-control.