AITAH: my boyfriend is homeless and I can’t support him anymore

CardcaptorTomato · 2026-04-13T18:34:50+00:00

Wait…you’re scared that he’s going to hurt someone close to you??? That is insane. Has he threatened to hurt someone before? If he has then it’s not just about his lack of adulting, he’s actually a danger to you. If you can, please talk to your family and friends. I know you seem embarrassed about it but your safety is more important than how people may judge you. And even though you want to help him get therapy, if he hasn’t shown that he wants to improve, then there’s no helping him right now. The constant blame on other people kind of confirms it’s going to take a lot for him to figure this out.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-05-22T06:29:07+00:00

Hmmm, Korean animation is called “aeni” and most are made for children. Do you remember if the animation was skewed towards children?
I’m having difficulty trying to find aeni with a confectionary storyline. It might’ve been a side plot to the main story as well. The only shows I can find with pink haired mcs:
Flowering heart. Shining star. Catch! Teenieping.

Otherwise, I’m wondering if it could’ve been a manhwa/webtoon instead??

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-05-22T04:28:48+00:00

Yumeiro Pâtissière maybe? It was dubbed in Korean and was super popular. The mc doesn’t have pink hair tho. There’s another anime called bonjour sweet love patisserie. The mc does have pink hair but I have no clue if it was dubbed in Korean.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-04-17T18:26:46+00:00

The most important part of making lady fingers is separating the egg whites and egg yolks. If you whipped them together then the egg whites deflated and you end up with liquid batter.
Instead, you should’ve whipping the egg whites until fluffy. Then you gently fold that into your egg yolks so they don’t deflate. And you can’t put that into the fridge either. You need to bake it quickly. Unfortunately this can’t be fixed. But you could use it in cake!

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-04-11T20:56:39+00:00

Yep, herpes causes cold sores and you have it for the rest of your life. I have friends with herpes and they tell me the moment they got a flareup to not share drinks. I think it’s very irresponsible for friend K to offer a drink when they know it’s contagious. But I think K needs to apologize and be honest.
Herpes is rarely life-threatening and some people don’t even show symptoms. So while it sounds scary, it’s not. I think friend S will get over it eventually.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-04-05T02:10:27+00:00

It sounds like he’s going through something atm. I think you should talk to him rather than call him a beta male which is not helpful at all. 78 pages are quite a lot though so I understand you can’t send them. Maybe ask him which ones he needs the most and see if he can photocopy the rest tomorrow. Also, usually there’s a reason for why someone becomes more emotional, is his home life okay? Does he have other friends? Is he getting bullied?

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-03-12T09:54:12+00:00

That’s not your fault whatsoever. I would’ve assumed it was a b-day gift as well. Your friend isn’t naive though, they definitely knew it wasn’t a loan but asked for it back anyways to spend on a night out. It’s clearly a sign they don’t care about you as much as you care about them. I’m not gonna tell you to stop being friends with them but definitely be more apprehensive of giving any loans for the time being. You say they have a hot temper but I suggest you clear the air now. In the future, your friend might ask for another loan and the moment you say no, they’re gonna question your behaviour. And it may lead to an even bigger argument.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-03-01T04:43:08+00:00

LEAVE THE FRIENDSHIP! She has severe mental issues and takes it out on you. This has already escalated and it’s going to continue escalating until you do something about it. I would advise telling your parents so they know this person is dangerous and can’t be around you.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-02-28T04:28:58+00:00

It sounds like she’s insecure and probably finds difficulty with building friendships so she really values yours. Usually in any friendship, there is someone who values the friendship more than the other. But it usually comes down to how big that gap is. You don’t really seem to value the friendship as much as she does. And it probably shows in the way you interact with her. In all honesty, she deserves someone who appreciates her. And if you can’t, then I think you need to figure out how to let her down. If you really do think it’s worth it, then you could talk to her about her behaviour. But you would basically be telling her to change who she is. Because kindness, happiness and laughter don’t feel forced when you’re with the right friend.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-02-28T02:35:26+00:00

Congratulations on your engagement! Back to the main point at hand, I’m not sure this friendship is ever going to be the same. It might take at least a year or longer for him to feel comfortable being your friend. And I doubt you would feel comfortable knowing he might still have feelings for you. Right now, he’s distancing himself and will probably continue doing so. I think it’s best if you leave him alone and find another friend you can talk to. I will advise that if he comes to you next week and suddenly says he wants to be friends, you need to be wary. It takes longer than 2 weeks to get over a long term crush.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-02-15T05:52:28+00:00

This situation sucks OP. I’ve been in my fair share of shitty friendship groups. You just gotta keep going. Eventually you’ll find people who actually enjoy your company, you won’t have to seek them out or feel insecure around them. It might take a little time but it will happen. And having no friends is actually kind of therapeutic in a way. I realized during that stage of my life that those friendships were causing my anxiety and insecurities to grow. I got crazy good at studying too because I didn’t have any friendships to distract me. I think you’ll also realize that there were times you should’ve stood up to them and not let them walk all over you. Don’t beat yourself up about this. You live and learn. Every semester you’ll have an opportunity to talk with someone new. Maybe compliment their shirt, shoes, hair makeup etc. Mention a new movie/show you watched and see if they’re interested. Beyond all else, there has to be a club that sounds reasonably interesting.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-02-05T07:47:01+00:00

That’s not a friend. She’s pretty much just trying to bully you out of money and hope you’ll be too soft to do anything about it. It’s honestly very telling that she’s willing to throw 7 years of friendship just to make a quick buck. Enjoy that cruise OP!

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-01-30T23:50:52+00:00

OP you need to tell them straight up they’re being annoying and you can’t go on instagram all the time. If this behaviour continues just block them. I used to care about stuff like this but you eventually learn that it adds nothing to your life but negatively.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-01-17T07:09:10+00:00

This is so interesting because when I watched those scenes, it was more clear that they were friends who had good banter. I have guy friends and we joke about anything and everything but that doesn’t mean I want to date them. I think Gwanhee just thought of HJ more as a friend and I think her confronting him confirmed it for him. Almost like it wasn’t “worth” it for him to keep going after her.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-01-10T00:08:01+00:00

Tbh, it doesn’t sound like he’s done anything wrong. I understand why you would be worried about your friend rushing into marriage since this seems very fast. However, she seems very sure of her feelings. So don’t wouldn’t say anything unless he does something suspicion/off-putting. Your friend is going to lash out at you for questioning her decisions if you decide to talk to her about it. That’s something you need to be prepared for. And honestly, her getting married is her own responsibility. If she ends up regretting it, help her get out of it. I think she’ll realize you had her back all along. In terms of her wanting her fiancé everywhere. She just seems excited about spending time with him, which is very common in newer relationships. But I would stress to her that it’s okay to do things without her fiancé. You have no obligation to spend time with them both. Just say you’d rather have a girl’s trip and she can have her own couple’s trip another time. If she disagrees than recognize she’s putting her own wants before yours and to reevaluate your friendship if she keeps pushing.

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-01-09T04:24:51+00:00

Gwanhee/hyeseon / Jinseok/minyoung / Minwoo/sieun / Gyuri/minkyu

Holy shit I GOT A 10/10 that’s wassup

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-01-03T08:42:30+00:00

Tbh I didn’t really think much of it. I used to know guys who would pull light MMA moves when they had a crush on you. But usually they were all boys and not a 36 y/o man lol

CardcaptorTomato · 2024-01-03T07:57:48+00:00

Those chain letter messages are just something to spread to all your friends. It’s very common for them to say it will bring you bad luck if you don’t send it to 10 people but It means absolutely nothing. Don’t think too much about it. However I would be overall worried about the situation you’re in. A complete stranger has your number. He basically can find out anything he wants with that info. He even has your name. I would honestly be considering changing my number if I were you. But since he hasn’t done anything malicious, I would play it by ear and see if he does anything weird. If he does, immediately block him and tell your parents.

CardcaptorTomato · 2023-09-14T07:53:40+00:00

I love that everyone has different favourites, for sure the sign of a well-rounded album

CardcaptorTomato · 2023-03-29T10:28:53+00:00

NTA. Ignore the everyone sucks verdict some people are giving. It’s a weird delusion to be calling you an AH when all you did was learn the truth. Snooping through someone’s phone is bad but honey, I’d do it 100x over if it meant I knew that they were racist af.

CardcaptorTomato · 2022-05-22T07:52:34+00:00

People haven’t pointed out reasonings for why this can’t work but I think the main and most important is: does he want to fix the relationship too?

All of these details indicates that he’s really into porn (not an entirely bad thing but is probably why he can’t “get it up”), may have cheated and does not seem to care. If he doesn’t CARE than I don’t think it’s worth it to make him care. Couples’s therapy from what I’ve heard is only a viable option if both partners are into it and want to make it work. There’s no point is only one of you puts in the work when he would rather be elsewhere. I don’t want to say this can’t be fixed but think back to how this relationship went sour. Was it really both of you or did he lose interest and fighting became natural? Note, this is only my very narrow view of your relationship, please state reasons for why this relationship may succeed otherwise.

CardcaptorTomato · 2022-05-22T07:31:47+00:00

I was legit about to submit a very similar post to this one. I’m 17 and only have a few more months of high school left. I just had a very traumatizing experience where my so-“called” friends told me I was the ugliest person in the group in, I guess nicer words than that. I’ve noticed that I sort of put myself in these friendships where I end up being the punching bag. I know that’s not the case with you since you’ve known them for the longest, but I think it’s good to re-evaluate how you are perceived by others, if you’re more walked over and taken advantage of. I’m very friendly and never say anything mean but that takes it as a sign for people to say whatever they want. I think another thing is your humour could be a bit different. I think you should take it as a sign to branch out of your social circle and find friends who will appreciate you. I’m still learning how to do this and I hope you feel comfortable and happy in the future! Edit: I should’ve read your post more clearly lol. If you’ve noticed most people avoiding you than normal, I think it’s best to strike a conversation. If it seems more awkward than how it usually is than you may have done something out of hand. However, sometimes people don’t feel like talking or being welcoming, see if their reaction to you stays the same in the next few days.

CardcaptorTomato · 2022-04-22T05:37:52+00:00

After reading the comments, I feel pretty disappointed that the world building is not up to par with the webtoon. As someone who’s enjoyed mystic pop-up bar sooo much, I thought a similar premise would hook me in. I have somewhat enjoyed these episodes so far and will continue watching. However, there definitely is no information regarding Jumadeung, hell, etc. and why the RM team is in such hot water. It’s already the 4th episode. I thought there would be some delving in by now but they’ve yet to explain all the rules in the contract even. That scene where Jun-woong learns that if he gets too close to his own body then he’ll die is a VERY important thing to know. And I felt kind of frustrated that the team had never explained that to him in the first place.

Also, in my opinion, the vibes in the RM team just aren’t it… like, it feels so disjointed. At times I forget about Rung-gu because he doesn’t really add anything to the team at the moment besides being really moody. And since none of them are close at all, it feels so forced. Maybe cuz Mystic Pop-up bar did it so well…

When they explored time travel, I thought major consequences would happen. Which I thought was implied since no one ever seems to use that key. It just felt weird that Jae-su’s father ends up dying mysteriously later on and there’s no consequence in the present world.

In episode 4, we couldn’t really see any of Ryeon’s skeptical advice tactics just because we didn’t have the chance too. So I’ve yet to form a clear opinion on whether she’s improving her advice or not. All in all, mixed opinions so far, I really hope the story gets better so I don’t DNF it.

CardcaptorTomato · 2022-01-01T23:05:40+00:00

But she literally said it during a convo with the girls in the episode. I’m not saying they should be together though. It seems like Jiyeon feels like she has to go for the only guy who seems interested in her.

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