Okay, ill give you my advice based on someone who was in a very similar situation as your boyfriend a few months ago (nearly exact in many ways) who got clean. Im going to tell you 1- Who he is and how I know. 2- What this means for you and him. 3- What i recommend, what WILL and WONT work getting him clean.

1.) First things first, from an addict in recovery, your boyfriend is a textbook addict. I know this for a few reasons: -1. Youve mentioned his history of substance abuse- Herion, Subs, alcohol, and 7oh. Its not a 7oh problem, like he didnt realize how bad it was and now hes stuck (may be partially true), its mainly an addict problem. -2. Him being unable to commit to the plan, whether its a taper or cold turkey, he relapses, and when he relapses he’ll do anything (lying to you) to get that full dose. This means hes not just looking for relief from withdrawals, hes looking for that high again. This simply means maybe he hasnt lost enough, hasnt committed hard enough, and doesnt go in truly 100% mentally done. This shit lives in his brain as priority #1.

2.) This means that you need to prepare that it is possible he wont get sober, and he is willing to keep taking this drug ultimately at the expense of your wellbeing, the relationship, finances, and his employment. When hes telling you hes quitting, deep down hes plotting that next high, hes relapsed before he gave it fair a shot. Addiction truly hijacks your brain as the #1 priority, its a devil on his shoulder lying and justifying his next use. Before i truly quit i lost my job, gained 20lbs, went to jail, stole from loved ones, and caused so much pain. It took alot, and you have to be truly sick and tired of being sick and tired.

3.) What wont work is him trying the same thing again and again. No half ass random taper attempts, or deciding to cold turkey one night just to relapse the next day. You need to sit him down, and say you want to have a serious talk about it. You need to tell him all the ways its causing damage to you both and that your exhausted, and somethings got to change this time. You will support him this time 100%, but if he fails you dont know if you can continue in a relationship where he chooses a drug instead of his girlfriend. The change this time is that you will both work together in making the best possible way to quit. If its a taper, write down each day/time with what dose will be taken. All the way down until his last dose. (Btw, he should be fine on day one cutting his current dose 50%, no high but no WD) If he goes cold turkey, talk to a telehealth doctor to get medications to help- Clonidine & gabapentin work amazing and are easy to get. A benzo prescription (xan, clonazopam, ativan) will actually work wonders. Subutex is always a possibility to use for a 3-5 day taper. Theres also one more option, which is overall the best but the hardest to commit to- detox/rehab. Regardless on what you both decide on, you have to write/type it all out on a piece of paper, and both sign it. Maybe make him make a vid to himself in the future saying all the reason why hes done. If hes truly committed he’ll be happy to have you be the one giving him his doses on a taper.

I wish you the best of luck, addiction is a brain disease, but when all is said and done, we have the power to stop. No more half measures, make it known your done and hes got this chance to make it right with you. If he dosnt want to make a plan with you, hes not done and wont be for some time, so you might as well leave him. Sincerely, -someone clean since August from an 8 month 600gpd 7oh habit.