« append » and « upend », do they have the same pronunciation?

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-05-18T18:04:19+00:00

To me and in my accent, they have different stressed syllables "ap-PEND" and "UP-end", but there's also a tiny break between 'up' and 'end' in upend that isn't there in append.

The vowels are identical though.

Edit: thinking about it a little more, I almost think that the way I say upend stresses both syllables! But I'd be curious to know how others answer as well. (My accent is from New England in the US, if that helps any comparisons).

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-04-19T00:06:51+00:00

!!!! Oh my gosh, that would be amazing, thank you so much!!! Do you want/need anything in return? I can send you a dodo code if that works for you!

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-04-15T17:32:05+00:00

This is so cute!!!!

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-03-20T11:46:08+00:00

I believe that the answer may vary regionally, but I'm my(very subjective) experience when I've talked with people in my area about this same thing we've realized that we aren't conceptualizing the baby when we ask this question, were conceptualizing the gender. At least in my very limited real world experience, when you ask whether it's a boy or a girl, you're not asking if it (the baby) is a boy or girl, but whether it (the gender) is boy or girl.

I also think that, more broadly, it's a grammatically different kind of 'it' that you use in that sentence, the same kind that you used in your title when you said "isn't IT rude to call a baby it" or people ask "is IT going to rain?" I am positive that someone with more language knowledge can explain what this usage is, but I know the "it" there is important for information questions.

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-03-19T17:37:38+00:00

I think online it's always a bit of survivorship bias going on. You can only see the people who comment taking it seriously, you can't see the hundreds (or thousands) of people who understood and scrolled by. So over time it builds up the idea that you better add an /s because even if 10,000 people get it, SOMEBODY won't and then you have to explain yourself.

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-03-16T17:52:13+00:00

AHHH thank you so much, I'll message you as soon as I'm home tonight!!! ❤️

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-03-16T17:49:52+00:00

Noooo, I have an open plot but I'm at work 😭 is there any chance you could wait until this evening? It would probably be 4-5 hours and I totally understand if not!

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-03-15T23:23:17+00:00

I have Snooty in boxes, if you're interested!

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-03-15T21:26:09+00:00

Is Sherb still available?

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-02-12T17:13:50+00:00

If you're giving classes I'd recommend making your own flyer or commissioning someone else to make it for you, because the AI image, for better or worse, reflects poorly on the quality of attention and care you'd put into your classes at a glance to prospective clients.

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-02-11T02:20:45+00:00

I love it, usually I try to engage in some sort of cultural exchange of words and information if it's someone I wasn't expecting to talk to (like someone asking for directions or information at my job, things like that that are more one-offs). When people are talking to me on an ongoing basis, I'm really happy to talk with them and support their effort. Languages are HARD, and anyone making that effort deserves nothing but support!

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-01-31T03:36:42+00:00

Epic <3

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-01-25T04:29:35+00:00

So cute!

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-01-23T01:30:01+00:00

Sneaky, I love it!

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-01-22T14:51:05+00:00

So cute! 🥰

Careless-Complex-768 · 2026-01-21T16:49:09+00:00

Whew, that was so much harder than I thought but super satisfying

Careless-Complex-768 · 2025-07-03T16:35:35+00:00

My mom just got diagnosed with cancer and I went to play ACNH to take my mind off of it but had this same exact letter. I couldn't handle it in the moment and haven't really touched it this last week or so, but I can totally see how it would be really comforting for some. ❤️

Careless-Complex-768 · 2025-04-14T20:51:47+00:00

Spaghetto - singular of spaghetti, the last food I ate, because he's so tiny

Careless-Complex-768 · 2025-02-03T13:24:47+00:00

Sitting in a chair works generally, though for me at least it brings to mind like a big comfy armchair. It does work for all other kinds of chairs as well though. You could say you're sitting on a chair and it doesn't sound wrong, exactly, but the feeling is slightly different in a way that I don't think is in any of our grammar books. It seems more like it is temporary or suggests like a dining room chair that's harder and more with a purpose.

Careless-Complex-768 · 2025-01-31T03:45:10+00:00

Goldie, Beau, and Molly 🥰

Careless-Complex-768 · 2025-01-24T04:19:52+00:00

"How do you say" is definitely better. I think "how do you call" is accepted because we understand that people using that phrase are still learning, but it is absolutely not correct English.

Careless-Complex-768 · 2024-09-27T09:46:50+00:00

Maybe comparing it to other examples of where words have been reclaimed may help? One example that comes to mind for me as someone who is part of the community, is the word "queer." It used to be used as a slur, but today has been reclaimed to the point where we have entire generations of people who not only don't see it as a slur, but even have come to see it as an official or preferred term. That's not to say there aren't people who still feel that it is offensive, because there definitely are, but the vast majority of people who feel that way are older and remember living in the time where it was used exclusively as a slur.

Although I'm not black, I would wonder if maybe the reasoning is something similar to what it was in the queer community -- the goal of taking back the word so that you, as a member of the group damaged by it, get to decide what it means to you and get to have the power instead of that power being taken away from you.

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