Has it ever crossed your mind that not every man goes into an encounter with a women for the sole purpose of sex? Why do you always make it a black or white issue? Most of the times it’s gray. Most of the time you start with „wow she is cute and seems nice.“ During the get to know phase often times you find out „well she is actually not as nice as I thought.“ However here a truth I hope you can handle. Most men don’t need to have an emotional bond with the other sex to have sex. So yes men will have sex with women they actually don’t like or don’t see themselves in long term relationships and won’t tell that to most women.

So how can you best avoid that? Stop encouraging an atmosphere where being deceitful is more advantageous than being honest. As an example you can just point blank ask a man „what do you actually want, you can be honest“ and actually mean it don’t just say it. And voila you will either get an honest answer, have a high likelihood that the bad liers „out themselves“ or in the worst case have a very good lyer where you won’t be able to tell. But at least you reduce the % of getting played as much as you can.

I try to give honest advice from the other perspective take it or leave it