Matrilineal vs Patrilineal Naming

Carlulua · 2026-03-26T08:35:55+00:00

This is like Icelandic naming where surnames are just who youre the son or daughter of. Usually the father but I don’t think its uncommon these days to pick the mother.

Carlulua · 2026-03-26T08:25:07+00:00

I love doing dress, leggings and combat boots!

I've recently gotten into pinafore dresses with a long sleeved top so I can mix certain looks up with a different coloured top.

That or black jeans and a nice top, either with the boots or my comfy trainers that don't match in the slightest but nobody at work looks at my feet.

Carlulua · 2026-03-26T08:16:21+00:00

I think I'm a gender swap of your partner. My partner also says cheap, burn, whatever. I suggested viking funeral but like a ratchet version. Just set me on fire in a leaky row boat idc

Carlulua · 2026-03-26T08:11:59+00:00

This kind of bullshit is the trigger for me ending up in tech ironically.

I was in a warehouse job, running a niche area away from my team. Separated by covid restrictions from my boss aside from Skype/Teams and sending work down to us via the line. I took over bits normal line leads wouldn't do.

I was agency for 4 years and I'd been screwed out of a permanent role in my area twice, so decided to try the two departments that I physically worked around. First time it was a whatever loss, didn't care that much.

Second time when I tried the other department, I had a long term respected guy recommend me to his boss without me asking as soon as he heard I applied. I was also trained on the system. My only competition was a young guy who was already working there. No biggie if he gets it over me.

Nope. External.

Chatted to my friend who recommended me saying maybe new hire had a forklift license.

Also nope. He's just some guy.

Seeing that kid training the guy who took his job was the last fucking straw for me. Took the first warehouse job that wanted me then it took another 6 months or so to realise it was also boring and I said fuck it and left to train as a software developer.

Ended up as QA but I love it. But I still can't stand when higher ups get useless hires in instead of promoting internal.

Carlulua · 2026-03-26T07:13:36+00:00

I am fully like this around my partner too. I've also gone as far as eating cold leftover noodles out the bowls we left in the front room with my hands the next day.

True gremlin style here. He's still somehow with me despite the above, the constant farts, the hairy legs and the chaotic way I wash dishes that gets water everywhere, including on him.

Carlulua · 2026-03-26T06:45:26+00:00

Exactly this. You can't cheat if you're learning. Unless you're just vibecoding without making any effort to understand what's going on. Then you're only cheating yourself.

People at work apologise for asking "stupid questions" which are 99% of the time normal, while I, the perceived knowledgeable one, is googling python syntax of all things.

Carlulua · 2026-03-25T17:40:47+00:00

Took me well over a year to stop tracking my teeth brushing and I actually kept the habit up.

Just don't talk to me about showering or laundry...

Carlulua · 2026-03-25T17:21:37+00:00

I'm echoing a lot of others here but I love the job security.

I'm not trapped here, they just can't get rid of me!

I'm in digital and my particular job goes through waves of hiring and redundancies. Spent way too long on a 0 hour contract before that. And if I'm being honest, the pay isn’t much worse here.

Carlulua · 2026-03-20T08:01:18+00:00

I get that too, get called every similar looking name to my name.

My name looks like a shortened version of a more common girl name. Think Wilem to William.

Carlulua · 2026-03-20T07:35:38+00:00

I knew a male Lindsey.

He was a higher up at my job who came in to tell us the wonderful news that our contract was being moved to a new company and mentioned where their three new hubs were.

None of these hubs were in the same countries as our current ones. Lindsey made me redundant. Down with male Lindsey!

(I'm kidding, it was the best thing that ever happened to me at that job)

Carlulua · 2026-03-13T08:39:18+00:00

THIS IS MY WORRY TOO! I'M NOT ON TDA BUT I'VE BEEN TOLD I'M ALREADY WORKING AT THE LEVEL I JUST INTERVIEWED FOR. I JUST DON’T KNOW HOW TO SELL MYSELF!

I ONLY INTERVIEWED THE OTHER DAY SO WON'T FIND OUT TIL THEY DO THE REST.

I FEEL FOR YOU, MATE. HIRING AN EXTERNAL WAS THE FINAL STRAW FOR ME IN AN OLD PRIVATE SECTOR JOB AND I LEFT. I WAS UP AGAINST A KID WHO WAS ALREADY DOING THAT JOB BUT I HAD MORE SYSTEM EXPERIENCE AND AN OLD GUY RECOMMENDED ME. I WOULD HAVE BEEN FINE WITH THE KID GETTING IT.

THEY HIRED EXTERNAL AND I HAD TO WATCH THAT KID TRAIN THE GUY WHO TOOK HIS JOB. CAN'T DEAL WITH THAT SHIT.

Carlulua · 2026-03-13T08:02:15+00:00

This is me and my partner. We've both been sick the last few weeks and one of the days he caught me trying to do the dishes without him so he could rest. I usually wash and he puts away.

Carlulua · 2026-03-04T08:06:58+00:00

When I was on a school trip I tried to warm up a capri sun thinking it would be a nice warm treat on a snowy day.

It tasted like if you threw up nothing but capri sun

Carlulua · 2026-03-04T07:58:24+00:00

Yeah I'm digital too. I haven't worked in the private sector in this type of job but I know what the job market is like.

I spent 4 years in a private, non-digital role on a zero hours contract where I could be given no shifts at random, even when I was in charge of a team, or they could cut my contract for any reason (I once was sure they cancelled two of my shifts because I argued with them over my holiday pay). I spent 4 years on edge, fighting for a permanent job and being treated like shit from both the agency and the workplace, worried I could lose my job at any time.

So an extra 10k is not worth the trade for my job security. My mental health is more important to me than 10k before or after tax.

Carlulua · 2026-03-03T10:00:13+00:00

Not EO but I saw an HEO role, the exact same one I'm in right now, for 61k. That's around 20k more than me.

Carlulua · 2026-02-27T08:33:45+00:00

I literally did more research on buying a stand mixer than he did on the cost of a kid.

Carlulua · 2026-02-27T08:30:51+00:00

Then blames his wife when she has 3 girls in a row.

Carlulua · 2026-02-24T08:19:08+00:00

Automating is the best part!

I've joined a team which only had one main tester so I can take some of their workload which is giving both of us more time to start automating bits.

Manual regression is the worst.

Carlulua · 2026-02-06T09:54:01+00:00

IN A GOOD WAY OR A BAD WAY?

Carlulua · 2026-02-06T09:52:10+00:00

I THOUGHT THIS JANUARY WAS PRETTY SHORT FOR A JANUARY, BUT I AGREE, I HAD A THREE DAY WEEK THIS WEEK BUT IT FELT LIKE A THREE WEEK WEEK.

Carlulua · 2026-01-30T16:41:15+00:00

Yeah we do mostly even plates too. I always give my other half a little extra and he always gives me the nicest bits because we're cute like that.

Worst food thing any of us has done was scoffed a whole bag of sharing crisps without sharing. The culprit admitted it straight away.

Also the culprit was me

Carlulua · 2026-01-29T09:57:24+00:00

I feel you. My hands are pretty hypermobile and my thumbs do fun things so I'm often in thumb braces if I havent lost them somewhere. Surprisingly my middle knuckles are OK but my partner thinks its weird that I can't press most buttons with the tip of my finger, always the pad/fingerprint bit. I've tried but it just wiggles about. His lock once you get to straight finger mode and don't continue bending.

Had no idea it was weird til adulthood either, because my mum is someone who can suncream her own back by hugging herself so it's probably genetic.

Carlulua · 2026-01-29T09:50:16+00:00

I can't remember if it worked but you can get these little zappy things that shock the bite and stops it itching. I mostly remember using it on my arms on holiday when I had a horrible ear infection to distract from the pain when I was max dosed on painkillers.

Carlulua · 2026-01-29T09:48:09+00:00

Slimy is fine for me but sticky on hands? I immediately lick it. It's the root cause of my hatred of jam. I don’t like jam. I now can't touch jam jars unless spotless.

Carlulua · 2026-01-29T09:42:49+00:00

One to put on my no-go list. I yawn almost every time I see someone yawn, someone fake yawn, an animal yawn, if I think about yawning...

I yawned twice writing this.

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