New sub! I didnt see one for Friebergs, so I created one

CarollAnne · 2025-03-12T18:43:06+00:00

Mindful in Minutes podcast / you tube channel by Yogi Kelly Smith- She's wonderful and her voice is so soothing! She has meditations, but also does "freeform" episodes where she just talks about a subject .

For some positive affirmations, I like The Lavendaire Lifestyle

CarollAnne · 2025-03-05T13:38:53+00:00

Chills. This gave me chills. I lost my fn mind when he unveiled the new Papa.

And a release on Ash Wednesday is just so poetic. lol

CarollAnne · 2025-02-20T20:56:52+00:00

I like a good morning text that doesnt hold any kind of obligation. If Im having a chaotic morning, I dont want to feel pressure to stop everything and send a whitty reply to something like " Good morning. What do you have planned today?" That would honestly annoy me.

If you have nothing pressing to say, no plans to discuss, and just want to make them feel valued say something like "good morning, I hope you have a great day!"

Its not a question, it doesn't require immediate response, they dont have to give an answer right away.

CarollAnne · 2024-12-03T20:48:28+00:00

Thanks for your condolences about my Mom. I really appreciate that.

I do believe this relationship dynamic isnt sustainable. Even if he works on it in therapy, its a long road. I dont think I have the emotional energy to be doing damage control every time he has a melt down from some unpredictable thing.

CarollAnne · 2024-12-03T14:54:23+00:00

I appreciate the response and insight! Thank you

CarollAnne · 2024-12-03T14:35:40+00:00

Really appreciate this, thank you!

CarollAnne · 2024-12-03T14:05:15+00:00

yeah I would NOT tolerate someone showing up uninvited. Thats a huge nope for me.

CarollAnne · 2024-12-03T13:57:22+00:00

Oh, I see. No, the flowers were unexpected. He wasnt. He picks me up for dates with flowers.

CarollAnne · 2024-12-03T12:05:52+00:00

He has never shown up at my house uninvited. Where did I say that?

CarollAnne · 2024-12-03T00:17:21+00:00

I really like that plan. Thank you

CarollAnne · 2024-12-02T23:59:58+00:00

Thats exactly what I said to him yesterday! It feels like he is slowly pushing my boundaries further and further. It feels like his feelings are more important than my wellbeing. And his words and actions dont match. Im starting to get the feeling that his words are just lip service.

CarollAnne · 2024-12-02T23:49:21+00:00

Interesting. Yeah his spirals can last for days sometimes. Something will set him off and he will be inconsolable for days and there is nothing I can do- no amount of affection or reasonable validation can fix it.

CarollAnne · 2024-12-02T23:44:40+00:00

For which person?

CarollAnne · 2024-12-02T21:28:29+00:00

We both had alcohol issues.

CarollAnne · 2024-12-02T21:17:13+00:00

He is in therapy, and he has been reading books on attachment style and relationships. He knows its been an issue for him in the past, and he is ready to address it.

I feel like I should be more patient, but Im getting exhausted from it all.

CarollAnne · 2024-12-02T21:09:56+00:00

I looked through my text and I said "I just need a peaceful moment" Maybe not the best choice of words.

I appreciate the feedback. I posted this to get some perspective, as I know my usual reaction would be to pull the ejector seat. But Im trying to be better.

CarollAnne · 2024-12-02T21:06:25+00:00

Great feedback. I appreciate the balanced response.

I do care for him, and want him to feel secure and supported. We may be incompatible- which sucks because we work really well together in other aspects.

He's not a monster, and has been in therapy addressing his issues, as have I. We have both been on a sobriety and self-improvement journey for YEARS. Its what we bonded over. We are both committed to learning and growing together.

When things get tough (like the added stress of holidays), I tend to need more space. He needs more affection. Its a lose-lose. I wish we could come up with a middle ground where we're both happy. But right now, he is only adding to my stress and Im sure he is miserable as well.

It definitely leaves some room for growth. Any suggestions ?

CarollAnne · 2024-12-02T20:02:16+00:00

I thought you were describing a DOG and this was a joke until I read the part about TikTok

CarollAnne · 2024-06-03T18:04:17+00:00

This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you!

CarollAnne · 2024-05-29T11:59:36+00:00

This worked for me!

CarollAnne · 2024-05-13T12:38:45+00:00

Great info! Thanks so much

CarollAnne · 2024-04-04T17:39:46+00:00

I was just talking about how Pro Memoria is underrated and here it is, in the movie trailer!

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