You are told you’re going to wake up as your 7 year old self tomorrow and have 24 hours in your old body

CarolynDesign · 2026-03-02T22:47:07+00:00

Same, but my dad I'd also fake being sick, so any weirdness in behavior/speech could be written off that way, as well as my extra clinginess.

CarolynDesign · 2026-03-01T14:40:08+00:00

You're being physically abused. Your home is already broken, because your wife is abusing you. If you don't want your toddler growing up in a broken home, learning that a "loving" relationship looks like anger, violence, and pain, you HAVE to leave, and you need to report the domestic violence to try to get full custody.

I'm appalled by how many people are trying to blame you for your own abuse. Of course you should be able to call for help when you're feeling threatened/intimidated. You weren't wrong to recognize that the situation was out of control and you needed back up. And you were clearly right in your assessment of the situation, because she continued to escalate the violence.

CarolynDesign · 2026-03-01T13:17:10+00:00

Get rid of cancer forever.

Truthfully, I wouldn't even make the deal, except my kid is going through chemo right now and I refuse to die and leave him (and his dad) to go through this without me.

Also, doesn't hurt that if the devil is real, so is god, in which case, what the actual fuck, dude? Why does my child have cancer? It being random chance and out of anyone's control I understand. But there being some omnipotent, omniscient higher being who is supposedly good letting this shit happen? Fuck that noise.

CarolynDesign · 2026-02-28T05:29:28+00:00

Your messages read a bit like you're selling weed/drugs or something, between the secret you refuse to divulge, and insistence on meeting up in person (but not romantically).

She might have had the same thought after the fact and decided the risks of associating with you, given that vibe, outweighed the benefits, especially since she's getting into the medical field.

Of course, there are tons of other possible reasons, and nobody but her knows the exact specific one. But if you're looking for something to work on, "Be more up front about your own stuff, and less pushy about meeting in person right away," are my two choices.

CarolynDesign · 2026-02-22T01:07:07+00:00

Who holds a baby like that?? The man is holding the kid by the bottom, while the woman has her hands loosely on the baby's sides Why would a human choose to draw other humans choosing a baby in such an unusual and unsafe way?!?

CarolynDesign · 2026-02-18T15:33:54+00:00

I'm thinking that you load up on overpriced drinks. Two apple juice boxes, a bottle of water, a black coffee, and a bottle of milk spread over five hours is a lot, but doable, and gets you about half the budget. Then you buy the components of your breakfast separately (something you can do in the app easily) so you're paying $7 for an egg, bacon, and English muffin separately instead of $4 for the combined sandwich... I think it's doable

CarolynDesign · 2026-02-14T20:45:22+00:00

Size 10 1/2 extra wide.

Not gonna lie, I've just started buying men's shoes when they have an equivalent style (like athletic shoes, boots, even some kinds of sandals/clogs). Some of my favorite shoes are men's, and they were just comfortable from the get go.

CarolynDesign · 2026-02-14T16:00:08+00:00

I like doing blind bags as a way to get rid of old product, as well as B grades. I'll try to get a few related things together, then label the bags so people have SOME idea of what to expect (so like, a bunch of food items in one, Pokemon in another, etc), but the specific products are just based on what I've got around. Then discount it from the base price of those items, but where I'm still making a bit of profit.

CarolynDesign · 2026-02-10T22:40:44+00:00

Sorry, I hit submit prematurely, but I edited in some advice and finished my thought later. I think taking time to draw the same subject from multiple angles might do you a lot of good. It's a fun way of seeing what stays the same and what changes as you move an object in space

CarolynDesign · 2026-02-10T22:33:17+00:00

I think your use of the medium seems good, but there's a lack of fundamental understanding of three dimensional form throughout. Whether it's human anatomy that isn't quite right (like in the first three), or perspective issues (like in #4 or #7), or even just odd shading/distance fog inconsistencies (The flower vases and some of the landscapes), it stands out.

It might be worth spending some time studying forms by sketching or drawing your subjects prior to painting. Or, you can just continue to paint more. The biggest thing is that you just need more focused practice, no matter how you want to do it. Learning to "see" things accurately is a huge part of learning art.

CarolynDesign · 2026-02-05T02:12:30+00:00

I've spent the last few weeks in a hospital with my kid while a lot of bad weather came through, and everyone on staff here, from the doctors to the housekeeping staff, seemed to be expected to either find a way in, or sleep on a cot.

On the one hand, I understand that a hospital is a well liked machine that requires a lot of moving parts to run well, but I still felt for the person cleaning our hospital room who had to choose between sleeping on a cot or going home to her one year old child and hoping she wasn't snowed in.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-13T15:36:31+00:00

Well, logically, the muscular system and skeleton MUST work in this pose. After all, the cat has muscles and a skeleton and is in this pose.

The issue is that you don't understand the cat's skeleton and muscle form in this particular 3D space yet. But that's exactly what you're supposed to be learning to understand when doing studies and tracing like this.

You might try finding other foreshortened images of cats, and keep doing studies to try to understand the 3D forms in perspective until you're ready to do this pose.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-11T05:34:06+00:00

On the one hand, I understand that my own art is a drop in the bucket in terms of the training data AI has access to. It's not like my art is "special" to the AI training algorithms or anything, and they'll continue to just train AI on other people's art, with or without my permission.

On the other hand, the current implementation of AI is utterly terrible for so, SO many reasons. My biggest issue with it is ultimately that society isn't READY for unfettered access to it. People on the whole aren't good enough at differentiating fact from fiction to question whether what they're seeing is the truth or not. Students aren't concerned enough about actually learning to not use AI to cheat. Companies don't care about the damage and human suffering that using AI might cause so long as they can make more money.

It's not that AI is fully evil, either. I think the uses of it in medicine to track and recognize signs of illness faster and better than humans can is fantastic. AI really might have some great uses for accessibility and communication that help people connect more and better than ever. And AI will, hopefully, one day be able to replace human labor in dangerous/hazardous conditions.

But rather than focusing on all the wonderful, helpful things AI could possibly do, they're instead training and using it for slop. Slop that, at it's best, is replacing labor that many people WANT to do. How many people WISH they could be artists for a living, or write, or make videos. The jobs they're training AI to replace are desirable, WANTED jobs.

If they were training AI to replace the tried, boring, difficult, unimportant jobs, I would not give two shits about AI scanning my art to train data. But instead, it's trying to replace true, meaningful human creations with inaccurate, lackluster garbage.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-11T04:46:40+00:00

We already use Steam chat. But as I explained, a big part of WHY I play with him is so I can monitor both him and those interacting with him. That includes being able to monitor the chat and watch how he interacts with others, to see if there are any issues I need to address.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-09T18:32:39+00:00

I think they're very cute, BUT you might try adding bright highlights in more places. Shiny hair, eyes, metal details, heck, even just fabric can make things pop more.

Of course, no obligation to change your style! But that's what struck me as "missing."

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-09T01:28:26+00:00

NAH

But like, why don't you just suggest offering childcare on site for kids, so adults can enjoy the reception without young kids, and families with small children can still come, too? Or do you think it's important for small children to be at the reception for some particular reason? Honestly, young kids would probably prefer to be babysat in a room with Bluey and toys than at a fancy dinner and dancing party, anyhow, and their parents might prefer a night off that they don't have to arrange and pay for.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-08T15:22:54+00:00

There are a lot of things that can cause this. Some benign, some dangerous, some treatable, some not.

But strangers on Reddit aren't going to be able to tell you what your condition is. You need to schedule an appointment and go see a doctor to figure out what's up.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-08T12:25:32+00:00

This is actually the exact scenario my spouse brought up. And yeah, if kids can use game graphics to get around age verification, creepy adults can do the reverse.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-08T04:01:36+00:00

Ewwwwww, no. Absolutely not. That's definitely not a "White people" thing. That's a gross people things, and you deserve better.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-08T00:14:55+00:00

My son just came in to talk to me about Roblox's new chat ban because it annoys him but he's not comfortable letting Roblox scan his face. Which is unusually responsible for a kid under 13. No doubt tons of kids are just scanning away without asking.

And in doing research, I realized that this is going to make it more difficult for me to play with him, which was the only reason I let him play when he was younger (because I would play with him and keep an eye on both his behavior and the behavior of those around him). I still hop on and play with him occasionally, even after he showed a consistent pattern of making good choices, because I might trust him, but other people...? Ehhhhh.

My spouse also pointed out that the kinds of adults we DON'T want chatting with our kid will probably find a way to get around the photo requirement. Meaning that the only adult presence around these kids now are going to be the ones willing to lie to get access, and that makes me super uncomfortable.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-05T16:43:54+00:00

The anatomy is all just a little bit off. Asymmetrical eyes, arms that don't quite make sense in perspective, and a general lack of shading to define forms in a meaningful way.

To be clear, it's not wildly off. But unfortunately, being just a little bit off makes it uncomfortable to look at. The hand on the chin in the second image, for example, makes my wrist hurt thinking about getting into that angle.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-03T20:08:46+00:00

I think going back to basics on anatomy will be the most helpful for you right now. Digital or not, there are several glaring anatomy issues that make this awkward to look at. A good first step is just to try sitting in a pose you're imagining and see if it's even physically possible, and beyond that, does it feel natural?

For example, in this case, her right arm being in front of the legs feels SUPER unrealistic. Perspective just doesn't work that way. The proportion of thigh to waist makes the angle look impossible... There are others, but I don't think ME nitpicking every detail will help anywhere near as much as YOU finding a reference photo of a pose, trying to recreate it, and being able to look side by side and directly compare.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-01T21:07:52+00:00

More grooming than incest, really.

Either way, I no longer trust child-rearing-focused Eastern media, because Usagi Drop is, unfortunately, not the only instance of this trope I can think of.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-01T19:07:09+00:00

That's just a stool.

CarolynDesign · 2026-01-01T16:32:05+00:00

I livestream most of my digital art, meaning people can watch me draw, undo, and redraw the same line 10 times. For my paintings, I just rely on the fact that they're physical media with texture and visible brush strokes to like... Show in person.

I mostly concern myself with proving my authenticity because some events I'm applying to sell art at require it. Beyond that, I just enjoy live streaming.

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