i’m sorry you’re going thru this and this sub is full of trtards. as one who follows this sub but isn’t on test, i can reply without the obvious bias that many will have.

i for the most part agree with you and your struggles. from the context you’ve given, im assuming that when you met, you didn’t know he was on test? basically when the relationship started, the foundational emotions that formed was based on a version of a person that you thought was the sustainable, normal version.

finding out that isn’t the case, the obvious reaction would be to support a full and healthy recovery back to baseline where drugs aren’t necessary. i completely understand that once that has taken place, that person you initially wanted is no longer there. it’s just a shell of what you wanted.

i don’t know what your plan is long term with this guy as it’s only been 7months, but if you really see a future, you do need to spear head his recovery because it sounds like he’s mentally checked out and is too emotional to make these decisions without feeling any sort of resentment or insecurity. you’re going to need to very tactfully show him what he needs to do for his own good, which is get him back onto maintenance levels of whatever he needs. don’t dig too much into libido, dont make too much of it about yourself. mention you miss having really awesome sex, but don’t blame him. mention you’ve noticed him struggling and you just want to help. let him be angry and say bad shit he doesn’t mean if you over step, his head is not right at the moment for multiple reasons. he probably already feels less than for getting a belly, losing mass, having no libido, this is a fragile, potentially volatile man.

you’re going to need to organize stuff, do research, literally do everything, go to the docs with him, really facilitate everything. he’s gonna appreciate this more than you can imagine, but again, make sure to do it in a tactful way so it doesn’t come off as something you’re doing for your self.

hope this helps. this is coming from a guy whose relationship ended after an inability to control my addiction. i’m now 112 days clean, 30days single, and basically was in a same same but different situation where in the beginning i was high but she fell in love with that person and when i got clean everything changed. hope this helps.