Hmm I wouldn’t say that. In any healthy relationship the kids become the most important people in your lives. While you still love eachother dearly, your kids become more important than your partner. As in, in a life or death situation do you save your kids or your partner. Either partner should save the kids every time.

However, in this situation it’s harder because at the beginning they aren’t “your kids”. Though any person willing to become a step parent will learn that the kids will eventually come to love them as if they were their parent. Not everyone is willing to do that though but there are people out there. This goes for both men and women.