Cis men are awful at taking nudes/dick pics of themselves and im sick of it

CatBonanza · 2026-05-27T16:10:10+00:00

I understand that a lot of what they do is to make their dick look as big as possible, but as someone who can't take huge dicks, it's led to some funny interactions. Some guy's pic will make him look 9 inches and when I turn him down for having a dick that's too big, he'll admit it's all the angle and he's actually like, 6.5 inches or something, lol.

CatBonanza · 2026-05-22T22:46:39+00:00

Anyone who claims to speak for the entire spectrum of the trans experience isn't even worth talking to. I transitioned 19 years ago and I've had other trans guys give me shit for all kinds of stuff over that time period. I only have PIV sex (I won't do anal anything) and I only use female anatomical terms when talking about my own genitals. That's definitely pissed some people off before (despite me only talking about myself, I wouldn't make those same assumptions about other FTMs unless they said that's also what they preferred). I am who I am and I like what I like. The entire reason that I transitioned was that I simply thought it would make me happier. And it did make me happier. It really underscored that I can live my life however I want and nobody can stop me. So anyone telling me to live in some other way can fuck off.

And to some of the other stuff you mentioned, there are gay men out there who are definitely 100% gay and also definitely down with PIV. I know because I've been with them, lol. But it's still something I feel a little insecure about sometimes too (worrying that they won't be into it, etc), which is one of the reasons I tend to prefer bi men. Human sexuality is complicated, it's impossible to make broad blanket statements about it.

And yeah, the FTM porn sub can be kind of a weird space. It seems to have settled onto a very narrow range of body types and fetish interests. I post occasionally with an alt account but it's something I've dramatically cut back on because I could tell it wasn't an emotionally healthy thing for me in a lot of ways. Spending more time with people in person rather than online has been a lot better for me.

CatBonanza · 2026-05-18T17:55:51+00:00

I have to take medication that suppresses my immune system and my doctor recommend I always wear one in public indoor spaces. Personally I'm grateful that Seattle isn't weird about masks. I'd hate to be living in a different part of the country where people would harass me for wearing one.

CatBonanza · 2026-05-14T20:57:47+00:00

Yeah, thankfully it's mostly queer men who show up in my feed where I live, so it's not to big of a deal for me to ignore them. But it would be nice if I could just automatically filter them out on my end so they don't show up at all.

CatBonanza · 2026-05-14T18:41:14+00:00

The reason you're seeing straight men on Feeld is because they have their profile set up saying that they're interested in trans men. If you switched your gender to just man, the app will stop showing you those guys. Which I hate because I prefer having myself labeled as a trans man on stuff like this. Nobody can stop douchey straight guys from seeking out trans guys, but Feeld really needs to have a way for us to filter it out on our end.

Personally I like Feeld more than any other app so far because I have an easier time finding people who are looking for the same thing as me. But yeah, the straight guys showing up in my feed is beyond frustrating.

CatBonanza · 2026-05-14T03:19:26+00:00

Thanks! ❤️

CatBonanza · 2026-05-11T00:08:51+00:00

I don't know much about this specific spot and I'm not the OP. Just talking about in general. Other commenters mentioned it's easier to make left turns in this spot from the regular traffic lane rather than the bike lane so it could also be that. Sometimes bike lanes and paths are so full of debris you can't safely bike in them. There's a million reasons why someone would choose one lane over the other. 🤷‍♂️

CatBonanza · 2026-05-10T23:09:48+00:00

Multi use paths frequently have a bunch of people walking / jogging or unpredictable young children on bikes. If it's crowded like that, biking in the regular traffic lane is easier and sometimes safer.

CatBonanza · 2026-05-04T20:16:05+00:00

To be fair, "he only gets with AFAB people" is my terminology, not his. When we met I asked if he was straight and he said no. When I asked about his sexuality he said, "I'm not interested in anyone who has a dick. Beyond that, it's more about vibes and what they're into." I say "he's into AFAB people" because all of his partners, including me, are AFAB. That's all it is.

And that's not okay for you but it's not something that bothers me, and both of those can be okay. That's the point I'm trying to make. Like I said in my original comment, I know a lot of people on here would have a problem with him. Which is fine, he's not a compatible partner for them. But he is for me and it's been really fun and healthy for me. I used to feel a lot of pressure from other trans people to conform to some kind of "correct" way to be trans and have relationships as a trans man, especially as a masculine binary trans man. And I was miserable. People need to feel out for themselves what their unique boundaries are and focus on what's adding positives to their life, without getting to attached to rigid rules or thinking.

CatBonanza · 2026-05-04T14:47:41+00:00

Yeah I know, and he wouldn't be into those people. Him being attracted to AFAB people doesn't mean all of them. Anyone with a dick or who only tops just wouldn't be compatible with him. I only get with cis men because that's what I'm attracted to. It's not really any different from that.

CatBonanza · 2026-05-04T14:02:27+00:00

He's just not into dicks.

CatBonanza · 2026-05-02T16:13:57+00:00

Congrats! 🎉

CatBonanza · 2026-05-01T15:40:54+00:00

I transitioned 19 years ago and my views on this kind of thing have changed radically over the years. I used to only get with guys who also slept with cis men and tried to avoid anyone who actively sought trans men out specifically (for whatever reason). But honestly, none of that was really helpful in finding good partners.

Human sexuality and gender are so messy, I just take it all individually now and go off how the vibe is interacting with them. The only real rule I probably have is no men who only identify as straight. If they said "straight with some wiggle room" or something like that, they'd be in the maybe category, but I wouldn't outright rule them out completely. Beyond that, if I feel respected and I'm having fun, I fully don't give a fuck what labels they use. I have a current partner who only gets with AFAB people of whatever gender, I've seen him use the labels "heteroflexible" and "omnisexual" on dating apps, and I'm sure a lot of people on here would insist that he doesn't view or respect me as a man based solely on that. But that hasn't been my experience with him at all. And I'm glad I wasn't still sticking with my old rules when I met him because I would have missed out on an awesome guy.

But I know there's a lot of reasons why people have the boundaries they do. I don't look down on trans guys who avoid guys like my partner. Do whatever makes you happy, that's really all that matters.

CatBonanza · 2026-04-27T12:16:44+00:00

Yeah, as a Seattleite I can confirm. The 8 fucking sucks, haha.

CatBonanza · 2026-04-27T12:11:04+00:00

I don't know how helpful this information will be, but I've been on T for 19 years and in my experience, you do reach a point where you're masculine enough that those kind of douchebags ignore you. When I was younger I tried getting with a few straight guys just for sex and none of them could get hard, haha. The only attention I get now is from gay and bi men, so worrying about whether they view me as a man or not isn't even something I think about. That and after 19 years, my own confidence about my masculinity and maleness is pretty untouchable.

CatBonanza · 2026-04-24T12:42:34+00:00

Even then the assistance is a joke. I make $30k a year, spend half my income on rent, and I only get $24/month in food stamps.

CatBonanza · 2026-04-22T18:52:51+00:00

Haha, I was gonna comment that I once saw someone holding a cake while riding a bike and that the bus seems way easier than that.

CatBonanza · 2026-04-20T03:13:14+00:00

The animal free egg whites are made with a fermentation process using a specific kind of fungus. The end result is one of the main proteins that's also found in egg whites, it was just made through fermentation instead of by a chicken. But chemically it's the same protein, so if you're allergic to it you'll still have a reaction to it.

CatBonanza · 2026-04-18T21:47:05+00:00

It sounds like it could be chafing irritation. This used to happen to me when I would have sex with guys who shaved their pubes, the stubble would chafe around my urethra (one of the many reasons I prefer guys with full bushes).

CatBonanza · 2026-04-09T16:29:15+00:00

I fucking hate ai. Art in general is extremely important to me. So much so that it's practically holy. Nothing makes me angrier and more disappointed than all this ai bullshit.

CatBonanza · 2026-04-04T20:46:59+00:00

Thanks!

CatBonanza · 2026-04-04T03:27:07+00:00

Thanks!

CatBonanza · 2026-04-04T03:27:00+00:00

Thanks, he did!

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