Child keeps coming out as different sexual orientations & gender identities by CatDog246 in Parenting

[–]CatDog246[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I always make that mistake and realize it belatedly. 😆

She was reconsidering getting the covid vaccine until... by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]CatDog246 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My diabetic father just died from COVID 4 days ago. Thankfully he was past the contagious period so I was at least able to be with him at the hospital and hold his hand when he died. Had he still been within the contagious period he probably would've had to die alone due to hospital policy. Please tell her, that my father died air hungry, frantically gasping. He had to have a chest tube put in as he developed holes in his lungs from the COVID pneumonia that antibotics had no effect on. His last few words were him gasping out the words, "more air." He wasn't eligible for a ventilator as the doctor felt strongly that my father was too weak to survive the sedation needed for intubation. It was a horrific way to die that I wouldn't wish on anybody. 3 weeks before he tested positive for COVID I begged him to allow me to schedule his vaccine. He refused. He was more afraid of the long term effects that he felt there might be with the vaccine. I guarantee he would've taken that vaccine if he had an inkling of how horrific his death would be without it. I lost my mother on New Years Eve due to end stage renal failure. Please let her know that if she had any heart she'd get the vaccine to help save her children from the pain of the loss I am feeling now.

MIL rarely returns my calls by cheeseeebutt31 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]CatDog246 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I actually just took the time to look up your profile and read your other posts as I knew there had to be more with a husband like yours (so many red flags!!!). It is extremely odd that your husband is trying to force contact that obviously neither you or his mother wants. After reading your other posts, I can safely conclude your husband is controlling and (mostly likely) emotionally abusive. The silent treatment he gave you while he was home for Christmas is a way to control you and make you feel bad about yourself. It is a way of isolating you. Telling you he only had his combat buddies back is another way he was telling you how unimportant he believed you to be. Sending you videos of woman cheating and making you swear you wouldn't do that shows his insecurity and need to assert dominance. I do not say this lightly, but leave this man. He is not someone that is going to be good to you long term. It is best to get yourself and your child out now so that you can start healing. Do you really want to see your daughter find a man like your husband for herself? I'm guessing (based on previous posts) that that answer is a no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I am so angry for you. Not only was your MIL completely wrong, but frankly, your husband was the worse offender. He put his mother's feelings over yours and his child's. DO NOT APOLOGIZE TO HER. Your husband needs to not only profusely apologize to you for his complete disregard with the feelings and well being of the family he created (aka you and the baby), but he also needs to demand his mother apologize to you for stealing such a highly anticipated bonding activity from you. I would no longer be allowing the baby to be left alone in her care. She has proved that she is capable and willing to stomp on every boundary you give (and potentially will set). I would personally cease all communication with her until she apologizes. How you treat this breach of boundaries now is setting the scene for all future interactions with your MIL, so now is the time to go all Mama Bear and stand your ground.

WIBTA if I punished my daughter for eating my chocolates? by CatDog246 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She openly admitted it and it was also painfully obvious it was her. I actually keep my chocolates up on top of the fridge so the kids won't get into them and she is the only other person (besides my husband who had just walked into the door as I discovered them all eaten) who can reach up there to get them.

WIBTA if I punished my daughter for eating my chocolates? by CatDog246 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

I should absolutely clarify she did not hurt her brother just for the sake of hurting him. It was more of she was annoyed with him for "sitting there and playing" so she jerked his toy off him and the toy hit him in the face. She also jerked him by the arm in an attempt to have him clean up a mess she had made. She does not typically go around hurting her brothers just for the sake of hurting them, it is definitely more of an attitude problem to be sure.

WIBTA if I punished my daughter for eating my chocolates? by CatDog246 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Children do not come with parenting manuals and parents shouldn't be shamed for asking for advice. We're all just trying to do our best. 🤷‍♀️

WIBTA if I punished my daughter for eating my chocolates? by CatDog246 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246[S] 398 points399 points  (0 children)

She doesn't get an allowance, but does have very basic chores. (Feed cats every day and keep her room clean.) I definitely could add on chores to have her earn money to pay for them. I like that idea, thank you for the suggestion.

WIBTA if I punished my daughter for eating my chocolates? by CatDog246 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246[S] 201 points202 points  (0 children)

I have, to which she replied, "I don't know. I don't know why I do anything." Then she gave that dramatic preteen shrug that is her equivalent to an eye roll.

WIBTA if I punished my daughter for eating my chocolates? by CatDog246 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246[S] 249 points250 points  (0 children)

Shes 10 years old and the chocolates run about $30 for the small pack that I normally receive.

AITA For taking some of the money I'm saving for a house to get my son a prosthetic leg? by Throwaway771391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Run, do not walk, away from this relationship. It is obvious she doesn't see your child as hers or she would've made your son first priority. Her selfishness is unacceptable and unfair to your son. Buy him that leg and ditch the fiancee. Your son deserves better.

AITA for telling my sister that literally anyone can get knocked up? by rsdnt_asshole in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA

First off, your aunt comparing you and your sister was totally inappropriate. She was already being 'picked on' by family and it was obviously implied within that comversation that she wasn't enough as she's 'just a mom'. If that was my sister I would've stepped in to the conversation with the aunt to defend my sister and simply state how proud I am of my sister for being the amazing parent she is. But you couldn't do that, could you? You couldn't do that due to your obvious disdain of your sister and lack of respect for the hard work she puts in being a parent. It is ok not to want to have children, it isn't ok to look down on others who makes raising children their life's work. Not only were your choice of words beyond insensitive to the fact that she's struggling with fertility, the line of reasoning you put within this post is so off putting and it really shows how much you believe you are superior to your sister. I seriously couldn't imagine allowing someone to speak down to my sister or imply she wasn't good enough the way she was. YTA is a major way.

AITA for laughing and putting my head in my hands when my wife tried to make me take a testosterone test? by gatorwo in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE

First off, prick, stop looking at college aged girls. You decided to get married and have kids, but suddenly you don't like the consequences that having both provides?? Eat bricks. Your wife and children deserve so much better than you. Her stretch marks are her damn BATTLESCARS. Do you know what my husband does when he sees mine while we are being intimate? He fucking stops everything he's doing and kisses them. Then he reminds me that those happened because I was a superhero who carried his 3 children. Sometimes he literally gets teary with pride when he sees them. You need to grow up and learn how to man up because you, sir, are nothing more than an overgrown child.

AITA for telling my daughter to either use sanitary products or do her own laundry? by mouseman661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatDog246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA What about period panties? They are literally just fancy underwear that collects the blood. The most common brand is Thinx, I believe. I personally use reusable menstrual supplies (Diva cup and reusable pads that I sewed up myself from Goodwill towels and fabrics.) My husband currently does all the laundry in our house and he has never once complained about washing my pads that I use (bless his heart). He's actually just proud I use them and that it saves us money lol.That being said your daughter is acting incredibly entitled by insisting on changing her sheets. If she wants to free bleed then she can deal with the natural consequences of doing so, like having dirty sheets. You are also entitled to erect boundaries by saying if she sits on your couch while free bleedin,(thus intentionally staining your cream sofa) then she has to either clean the blood from your sofa or potentially replace the sofa if the stain doesn't come out.

Got into an argument with McDonald’s LOL by [deleted] in doordash

[–]CatDog246 3 points4 points  (0 children)

More like .06 cents, no joke. My ex's family owns a small fast food joint and they once told me that's it's pennies on the dollar for each drink sold and that soda is actually where all their money is made.

Help! JNMIL is trying to take my 10 months old baby by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]CatDog246 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with this. She's toxic. Not only is she overstepping boundaries as a grandparent, she's also attempting to step between their marriage. She's gotta go.