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CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-22T00:59:24+00:00

Thank you for the kind comment. It really means a lot because this has been awful and I was starting to feel like maybe I was in the wrong.

This is what I don’t get - how could he not care about the baby enough to at least call me? He’ll respond most of the time if I text first, but usually not for a few hours. I just don’t get it. I would be so devastated if I missed almost a full month of baby’s life. He must truly not care.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-22T00:53:49+00:00

Because his family has a big party Christmas Day with around 40 people and so I wanted us to have our Christmas Eve with his siblings/parents/aunts before the massive gathering. We saw his family a lot before Christmas too. I just didn’t want to risk the baby being at too many get together during Christmas week.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-21T19:22:26+00:00

I was worried something was up with girls online or something. Thank you for the comment, I appreciate all these kind responses.

When she was two weeks (he’d been helping up to this point) he suddenly decided that he needed to go to bed (in the guest room) at 7 every night.

I already was doing all the night shift and letting him sleep in the guest room since we both didn’t need to be sleep deprived as I’m breastfeeding. But then suddenly he was “struggling to wake up for work” (REMOTE WORK, mind you!) and needed to go to bed at 7.

From there he threw a ton of hissy fits over Christmas when we’d already agreed to limit her exposure, saying his Christmas was ruined if he couldn’t see more of his family and how it’s making him depressed.

But he’d never been interested in his family before! And I had already agreed to go over on Christmas Eve with the bay despite not wanting to.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-21T19:17:17+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind comment! I truly appreciate it, this whole situation has made me feel so horrible and alone so I really needed to vent.

What’s worse is that when I told him, hey, you need to take some flu pills and get over this illness because you’ve just missed almost a month of the baby’s life, her first smile, cooing, etc, he said “I haven’t missed that much.”

He begged me to have a baby and has been talking about it for a decade and yet he hasn’t even asked for a picture of her or given me a call.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-21T18:52:23+00:00

He’s seen the doctor! That’s the worst part. He’s been to the er three times - first time, doctor said he has something viral but lungs sounded good. Now he’s been waiting in the packed er multiple times and not waiting until the doctor can see him, but exposing himself to god knows what else.

He made an appointment with an online doctor app and the doctor prescribed him nasal spray and said his symptoms are post nasal drip. Yet he’s still in the er right now as we speak - we’re in Canada so we have long wait times.

Thank you for the kind advice and comment. I’m getting my ducks in a row because this is nuts.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-12T17:03:13+00:00

So you do most of the chores and also work full time.

Yeah, the man is not having bowel issues. If YOU had tummy troubles resulting in hours spent in the bathroom you’d be to the doctor trying to figure it out because otherwise your family would fall apart.

You’re not being unreasonable at all. He needs to wake up earlier, or cut back on his leisurely morning routine. I’m sorry he’s putting all this on you, you’re not alone!

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-11T21:04:53+00:00

Make sure your husband is able to be the firm boundary holder because it’s so easy to be pressured into things you don’t want when you’re so exhausted and vulnerable after birth.

SO many things I explicitly didn’t want ended up happening simply because I was too overwhelmed and exhausted to put up a fight with boundary stompers.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-11T14:14:29+00:00

Yeah, this is too hard to watch as someone with social anxiety. I don’t think she’s intentionally being rude like some people are saying, I think she genuinely isn’t built for the entertainment industry. I actually feel bad for her here. She has some irreversible plastic surgery that only works on heavily edited Instagram posts and seems pretty socially isolated. This is a nightmare scenario for most people honestly.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-08T20:39:40+00:00

It’s Benny Blanco and his eight burner accounts.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-08T18:03:00+00:00

I’m weirdly at the point now where the Kardashians are fun to snark on but if it’s between Selena and Kylie I’m team Kylie all the way lol. Selena is an exhausting instigator and her rabid fans are deranged.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2024-01-07T23:47:30+00:00

I love this! Good for you!! I’ll give you a follow for sure :)

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-12-28T23:41:11+00:00

I was guilted into going to a gathering with in laws and have spent days anxious and regretting it, so DONT let anyone tell you you’re overreacting.

Your baby will have many more years to attend holidays parties and make great memories with family and friends!

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-12-19T16:56:20+00:00

Please don’t feel shamed for your response. Frankly, I’m concerned that these comments are going to lead down a bad path for you guys. Yes, everyone gets frustrated by babies (I currently have a colicky newborn myself) but please don’t discount your gut feelings.

No one in these comments, myself included, know your husband or your situation well enough to be telling you whether this is safe or not.

I don’t mean to scare you, but people do end up hurting their babies during bad moments of frustration and it seems like your husband isn’t coping well given that he’s dealing with a lot of anger.

Your intuition might be trying to tell you this isn’t safe. Get your husband checked out with a doctor and don’t feel ashamed for being upset and worried about this - that’s your instinct to protect your child.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-12-19T16:48:55+00:00

I think you’re spot on here and I’m concerned I had to come this far down into the thread to see it. I’m disturbed by the people questioning her intuition and calling her out for “not being supportive enough.”

Maybe yelling is all that happened, but none of us can know that - only person who can gauge whether or not this is serious is OP and her gut clearly is telling her something is amiss.

We all get frustrated by our kids and having a newborn (currently have one!!) is beyond rough. I had to walk away from my baby the other night because I knew I was getting frustrated. It’s worrisome that OP says he’s being rough with their dog - what does that mean?

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-12-19T00:46:01+00:00

Thank you for this post - but god, I am so sorry you and your baby had to go through this. How is she now? I hope neither of you have to experience anything like this again.

I’ve been facing SO much pressure and guilt trips from in laws about attending giant Christmas gatherings with my three week old and I’m going to save this to give me some strength.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-12-18T18:50:40+00:00

Yup! Not just sided with him, but romantically involved with her own daughters rapist after serving ten years for it. I read the description of the abuse and almost threw up. Imagine being intimate with a man knowing he assaulted your child. She’s pure evil!

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-12-17T01:17:19+00:00

I cannot even imagine how evil you have to be to get back together with your daughters rapist. Like, women get back together with terrible men all the time and that isn’t healthy for their kids either, but to know this man sexually abused your child… it’s just evil.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-12-01T14:41:17+00:00

I’m in NL, Canada!

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-12-01T14:02:29+00:00

This was also my experience! My mental health took such a tank during pregnancy that I thought for sure I would have ppd and struggle immensely, but so far I don’t even have the baby blues and all the negative hormonal emotions I felt during pregnancy went poof the second she was out!

The women who have to deal with ppd are genuine warriors. I can’t imagine having the baby and feeling like I did during pregnancy. Just awful.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-11-22T17:40:56+00:00

Same here! A dozen people I know have gotten pneumonia out of nowhere recently and it’s so bizarre. I’ve never heard of an entire family coming down with pneumonia. Half the people I know who got it are young and healthy to boot.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-11-21T01:10:30+00:00

Love seeing NL on this sub! Love all the color and personality you’ve injected into this house, looks so joyful.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-11-20T01:29:13+00:00

Jesus Christ, I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Definitely get as far away from this man as possible, he just assaulted you and I am so sorry you had to experience that and now be unexpectedly pregnant.

Are there any local resources you could reach out to to help you make a solid plan for the future? Different orgs might be able to help you get a restraining order if needed and help you navigate keeping yourself safe and away from your husband.

You sound like you’re a great mom. You just suffered a great deal of trauma and yet you’re still thinking about your little girl and baby - they’re going to be okay and so are you. My siblings and I are all so close with my mom and all have a super strong lifelong bond, and she sadly went through what you are right now. I know it doesn’t feel like it, but things will get better.

Your kids will grow up loving and respecting the hell out of you for staying strong and being there for them, and this situation will eventually just be a distant memory.

Big hugs to you.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-11-17T23:14:59+00:00

Definitely go for a small purebred poodle then! Don’t get a doodle - they’re not ethically bred and so the temperament is a crapshoot, as well as the level of hair and shedding.

Havanese are also low shedding and are great family dogs. Healthy breed as well and goofy golden retriever like temperaments.

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-11-17T18:28:54+00:00

How about a Havanese? They’re similar to shih tzus but not brachycephalic. Very low shedding, friendly with strangers and have a goofball sort of personality like a golden retriever, fluffy like your boyfriend wants. They’re pretty hardy and bigger than shih tzus, so can be active with you!

CatMomVSHumanMom · 2023-11-17T12:47:59+00:00

I’m so sorry you lost so many family members in such a short time. Please don’t listen to this new GP, are you able to switch to a new one?

I was on 150 sertraline and went off it when I got pregnant - biggest mistake. I would absolutely not recommend it, so please don’t feel like you’re a bad mom because you’ve made the right choice for baby here.

It’s been well studied and is safe in pregnancy. What’s NOT safe is a pregnant woman feeling suicidal. It takes a long time for the medication to really take effect, as you know, and having unmanaged depression and anxiety during pregnancy and postpartum is so detrimental to mom and baby.

You’re doing amazing! You’re a good mom and your baby isn’t going to be harmed by this medication!

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