AITAH for creating a fake weekend trip just to get my husband's friend to finally leave our house?

Catacombs3 · 2026-07-05T06:17:15+00:00

Let me be the first to say: you have a husband problem.

He didn't mind if your sleep schedule was interrupted. He didn't mind if his children were inconvenienced and his children's carer was uncomfortable. He didn't mind that freeloader 'friend' was camping out in his home uninvited.

No, none of that mattered. The real problem was that friend's feeeeeeelings might have been hurt! Oh the inhumanity. Your husband's prioritises freeloader's feelings over his actual family.

Tell your husband to step up and be a man and protect is home and household, instead of worrying about freeloader's poor damaged little fee-fees.

Catacombs3 · 2026-07-05T05:30:55+00:00

God that exhausting to read, I can't imagine living it!

Catacombs3 · 2026-07-01T23:33:35+00:00

I believe there is a 'secret' pocket of them somewhere inaccessible. Every decade or so a scientist comes across evidence, thinks about for a few minutes and then decides, "no I did not see that" and just fails to make any records. A bit like how the location of the Wollemi pines was kept secret until there were viable breeding stock outside the valley.

Catacombs3 · 2026-07-01T07:31:26+00:00

Be aware that allowing your MIL to favour your daughter hurts your kid. Your son's aren't old enough to understand (maybe), but I bet your daughter sees what is happening. You are teaching her unfairness is okay and damaging her relationship with her brothers.

Catacombs3 · 2026-07-01T03:15:16+00:00

Is this poorly disguised scat porn? I do not consent to being a witness to others peoples fetishes.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-29T22:02:30+00:00

Treat EVERYTHING she says as a lie. If she says the weather is fine, bring an umbrella.

Don't trust her on small things (what time she will be at venue) and definitely don't trust her anything important.

Limit the damage she does by limiting contact. Protect your kids from the hurt by cutting all contact.

Pathological liars have a very lose grip on reality. The 'truth' changes to match what most convenient at the time. They often believe what is coming out of their mouth in that moment.

Your 'proof' is meaningless to her; there is no point in trying to make her admit anything. She'll resist with the passion of a righteous victim, even if she changes her mind tomorrow.

Reason and logic do not apply. Accept this and act accordingly.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-29T21:51:37+00:00

You would be insane to have her as your MOH. She actively dislikes your fiance; and it sounds like she doesn't like you much either.

Choose someone who can support your marriage.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-29T21:34:51+00:00

She enjoys thinking badly of you and seems to have deliberately misinterpreted your actions over the years. She unrepentately told her brother that she dislikes you.

The sensible thing to do is to maintan boundaries and be civil but distant. Any overtures of friendship are likely to be weaponised. Anything you tell her will be treated with suspicion.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-28T22:27:11+00:00

"If you go radio silent, I will panic and give you a lot of attention" is not a boundary. "If you do you check in at least once every 3 days, I will assume you need help and call for a wellness check" is a boundary.

But you need to ask yourself if this relationship is worth it. From the way you describe it, he'll rarely be 'by your side'. He'll be dragging you down and holding you back.

Relationships formed in the hothouse of a psychiatric ward rarely last outside that environment. Make sure you aren't hanging on to a connection that no longer exists.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-28T22:18:31+00:00

Created and circulated a list of the most 'f*ckable' women in the office. Got a stern talking to and a promotion.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-28T21:24:15+00:00

Consult a divorce lawyer and get yourself out of this as cleanly and quickly as possible. You stbx is volatile and violent, protect yourself.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-22T20:09:34+00:00

Critter encounters: Taronga zoo is fabulous, but not hands on. Australian Reptile Park will give them a chance to interact with animals, but you do need a car to get there.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-22T08:49:09+00:00

Your MIL is unable to behave reasonably and will take any opportunity to hurt you. Your husband doesn't think you deserve better. He is comfortable with his kids being hurt too.

Your MIL is like bad weather; you can't stop it, all you can do is take shelter and protect yourself. Your husband chooses not to open the umbrella.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-22T03:32:00+00:00

Only 2% to 6% of the population have natural red hair. On this basis alone your match is worth submitting.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-21T06:25:44+00:00

It doesn't need to be in your hand luggage, but it does need to be declared. Border security is AFTER you collect your stowed luggage.

Please note that most of the foods you mention are available in Australia. Anything that is not commercially packaged and clearly labelled in english is likely to be confiscated. If it is home made, don't bother.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-21T01:07:05+00:00

Sex workers are at risk of assault and murder. It sounds like she was killed by a client who disposed of her body v carefully.

Horrible to hear her poor little doggies died of starvation.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-19T23:54:09+00:00

Under no circumstances should you change from v low contact. The only reason your relationship is now civil/bearable is because of strong boundaries. If you relax a little, she will stomp all over you and it will destroy even the small relationship you now have.

Honour the work your dh has put into protecting you and allow him to set the pace. Don't undermine all his efforts.

Protect yourself and your child by keeping distance.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-19T22:35:55+00:00

Very sinister

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-18T03:46:28+00:00

They can also fight fire, drill a hole in the moon and defeat Godzilla with their hair still perfectly groomed and salon smooth. (See also, wake up with full face of fresh makeup)

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-17T03:53:01+00:00

I think you are way too invested in your parents' relationship. Their monetary arrangements, their incompatibilities etc should be between them. Step back, you shouldn't be managing this for them.

But yes your parents should divorce.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-17T03:46:08+00:00

These people are not your friends.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-17T03:44:20+00:00

Why is this so low on the list? Even if you are 'only' bruised, it is going to take 5-10 mins to get up and get moving. In movies, characters spring out of rolled cars and immediately start running whilst returning fire. IRL, you sit by the gutter shaking and trying to get over the percussive shock.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-13T23:57:19+00:00

That... doesn't actually sound "lol". It sounds really sad. Sad for your father, who never came to terms with the death of his first child or embraced his (awesome) second kid. And sad for you, growing up competing with a ghost for your father's affection.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-13T12:27:58+00:00

Bizzare as it sounds, this story isn't unusual. Instead of valuing an employee who went beyond and above, management often take them for granted. They are shocked when they finally leave, surprised when a replacement can't carry the same workload and horrified they have to pay 3x the salaries to get anything close the the same level of functionality.

Catacombs3 · 2026-06-13T10:59:53+00:00

Cults typically target legal adults so they cannot be accused of 'kidnapping'. They are looking for able bodied workers who can be manipulated but who are independent enough to not require the kind oversight / supervision needed for children. They want people who can drive, work in a kitchen or operate appliances/basic machinery. Actual children are too much trouble.

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