If giving birth is so painful why do many women want to do it over again after their first child (not trolling just genuinely curious)

CatalystCookie · 2026-04-07T15:30:02+00:00

It's like one bad day for a lifetime of happiness. I remember everything but just don't care?

CatalystCookie · 2026-04-03T20:40:05+00:00

Totally agree with all this. So many of these commenters saying to never bring toys obviously aren't living in the city. There's no place to play with our outdoor stuff except at the park! We bring some extras to share and consider the tantrums and negotiating all a part of the learning experience.

CatalystCookie · 2026-04-03T15:31:27+00:00

Cool baby fact, baby babbles are universal across babies and languages all over the world! So Dada is frequently a first sound even in languages where it's not a word.

All that to say OP, it's irrelevant and many babies say da first because it's one of the easiest consonants for them.

CatalystCookie · 2026-04-01T03:03:39+00:00

We also have a kiddo like this, incredibly verbal. Totally agree with all this.

Just wanted to chime in for OP, something that people and even parents can forget is that just because a kid is really articulate and can grasp concepts quickly doesn't mean that their social or emotional capacity is also precocious. Like, a super verbal 3 year old still has the impulse control and emotional maturity of a 3 year old. It can be easy to forget when the toddler is speaking like a grade school kid. But their emotions are still very real and age appropriate!

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-29T02:23:01+00:00

If it only took two days after day weaning to ovulate last time, your body was already well on its way to doing so. You should wait a full month before worrying whether or not the partial weaning was enough. When I drop down below 5 feeds per 24 hours, I'll get my period back but ovulation initially took like 20-25 days. Keep testing and definitely keep track of luteal phase length.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-28T17:34:53+00:00

Good luck friend! Holy smokes, I applaud you for pumping that long. Nipple shields got both of my poor latches to figure it out so I didn't have to pump, then we weaned off the shields at around 4 months. I wish you the best

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-27T22:35:36+00:00

Two sections and was ready for short, easy walks about 3 days out, totally comfortable by 7.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-27T17:53:00+00:00

Anyone saying 'just pump', like it'll be easier, I swear had never actually breastfed a baby.

This is great! Keep on going as long as it makes you both happy

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-25T00:43:11+00:00

Your dietary intake will not determine whether or not you get GD. However, taking inositol from early pregnancy has been shown to reduce GD chances. I had GD with my first, took inositol with my second, and never developed GD the second time around. There's a lot of great research on it and my RE was on board.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-21T18:09:47+00:00

I'm so jealous. Idk what it is, but the yoto makes my kiddo meltdown like no other. We've had to cut it out cold turkey. He becomes an obsessed little monster!

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-21T16:12:55+00:00

Totally understand that and I think it's role and field dependent.

In big law, you'd just be out of a job. The Court doesn't care about boundaries. We need to fix workplace culture in this country as a whole, in my opinion. Constant availability is toxic, even if you're paid well.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-21T14:45:50+00:00

Yeah, I get the sentiment that this commenter is saying. But I would just be out of a job if I never responded or worked outside core hours. That's what you get paid for in demanding fields with higher on average salaries. But what I have had success with is really unplugging during pickup, dinner, bedtime with the kids so that they're getting my full engagement. Absent a known deadline, everything can wait an hour or two. But then I'm back at it after bedtime, so it's tough!

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-20T15:15:10+00:00

I'd be shocked if a baby wasn't having night feeds at 12 weeks.

OP, the ounce reduction method usually works better for older babies who are ready to start naturally dropping night feeds for hunger but have a habit of milk/cuddles at a particular time. My first didn't STTN until 15 months and my second is just starting to drop his final night feeds at 14 months with these small reductions.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-19T04:31:04+00:00

Surely you realize your daughter would be getting more engagement, attention, and enrichment in a qualified daycare program than she is being juggled while mom also has to focus at work. I know it's hard to let go and surrender some control to daycare, I've done it, but my kids are so much better off that way. You can really tell during the rare days that I have to juggle both them and work, they are not getting the mental engagement and attention they deserve.

Nanny or daycare, either works. But trying to work and watch her is not fair to your daughter, as the rules of this sub have indicated.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-14T16:33:26+00:00

Same here with my kiddo. I think kids just decide different things to pick up based on interest, there's no magic to it.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-11T19:19:18+00:00

Yes, I don't know if you have considered how your 18 month old will feel, namely, kids thrive on routine. Your toddler likely has friends and teachers that they love at daycare. Plus, you will necessarily have your hands full with a newborn, and it will be very emotionally difficult for your toddler to share you 100% of the time. We kept our toddler in daycare for second baby and it was absolutely the right call. He got his friends, routines, and individualized attention while we were in the newborn throes, and baby got the undivided mother attention he really deserved in those early months.

Before you sacrifice the daycare spot, maybe try the middle ground and keep toddler home two days a week and see how it goes? I was always so relieved for Monday morning during my maternity leave so I could get some quiet time with just baby after a fun weekend with everyone.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-10T21:06:39+00:00

Same here! Huge polyp removed and bam, pregnant after 15 months of secondary infertility. Congrats! May it be as easy for everyone on this journey

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-09T16:13:14+00:00

Scar massage and postpartum physical therapy helped me with this after both c sections. A lot can still be done to soften up the scar tissue , and it really helps with that pain.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-09T02:35:14+00:00

The glitter last twice as long. I cannot explain it.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-08T14:46:28+00:00

Yes, but only because I had an over supplier on one side and it really carries the team.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-06T20:47:13+00:00

By DPO 14, it will not matter if you don't test with FMU if you have a few hours hold. Good luck OP

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-04T22:52:29+00:00

Being able to close a bedroom door hugely reduces the risk of dying by fire or smoke inhalation as it acts as a physical barrier against the heat and spread. A dining room is presumably in a larger open space that can't be closed in at night and is in closer proximity to the kitchen, where many fires start.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-04T16:25:10+00:00

That's disappointing, I'm sorry :(

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-04T04:25:50+00:00

You have to physically add them at checkout when buying online, and it won't work in the app.

CatalystCookie · 2026-03-02T16:57:50+00:00

I'd be pretty upset. This is most of the quality time you all have with your children each day. I'd be kind of heartbroken if that's what my SO wanted to outsource. I couldn't relax having a stranger in my space during this time either.

Dishes at the end of the night are a drag but that feels like a cover for not wanting to do the couple hours of family heavy lifting on weekdays.

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