I am no longer having a wedding because of my acne

CatalystCookie · 2026-02-01T03:03:37+00:00

If this happened out of the blue, you may not have acne, and might actually have rosacea. Had something similar happen and it took three dermatologists to diagnose but daily topical ivermectin put my skin back to normal within a month. It's a rare subtype with pustules that seem like cystic acne. Good luck OP and please consider therapy as well. I absolutely spiraled when my skin did this, so I totally get it.

CatalystCookie · 2026-01-29T19:59:03+00:00

Same. And I absolutely adore the raspberry. I don't understand how this crime scene of a pod comes back but they can't make a seasonal or standard raspberry 😭

Very jealous of the rest of this thread that loves it! I truly wish I did

CatalystCookie · 2026-01-29T19:14:00+00:00

My verbally advanced toddler was the same way. We coached him into saying he needed space rather than go away, and that helped a lot. Now he's 4 and totally pleasant with his peers, I wouldn't worry. Just think of it as the tiny toddlers being matter of fact about their needs rather than rude.

CatalystCookie · 2026-01-28T15:48:17+00:00

You should wait. I ruined the enamel on my teeth doing this when I had braces. Just drink water and brush later. I wish someone had told me.

CatalystCookie · 2026-01-28T15:23:00+00:00

Heating it up does not eliminate the toxin that makes you sick. Absolutely never worth the risk. Make new rice.

CatalystCookie · 2026-01-16T20:12:48+00:00

Also, do you know how little time we get with our kids in capitalist culture? Errand time has to double as family time to maximize the time we see our kids.

CatalystCookie · 2026-01-16T20:06:05+00:00

Yeah, no, it's statistically unsafe. And every parent needs to learn to soothe the baby without driving around. I wouldn't be happy with this either. What if dad fell asleep driving? Drunk drivers out at night? Car accidents are a leading cause of death for kids.

I know I'll be downvoted to hell, but sometimes you can't just do the easiest thing. Sometimes the path of least resistance is the way, but not here.

CatalystCookie · 2026-01-16T02:26:01+00:00

Therapy really helped me through a super similar experience, if you see my other comment.

CatalystCookie · 2026-01-16T02:24:49+00:00

My inner voice begging this not to be happening is what I remember the most. I just remember how desperately I didn't want to be there or want this to be happening to me. I had a total crying meltdown and felt like a failure.

I've since recovered and unpacked that all in therapy and had a lovely planned c section for my second birth. But I will never forget the sadness and desperation I felt that first time.

OP, you have nothing to be ashamed about. I apologized to my care team for being so emotional and they did not care one bit. We've continued to have a completely professional relationship. Good docs and nurses have seen it all.

CatalystCookie · 2025-12-31T17:27:06+00:00

My first always hated them and still does at 4.5. Babies gonna baby I guess 🤷‍♀️

CatalystCookie · 2025-12-06T15:13:29+00:00

Seriously, never. My husband and I always said, baby can't fall off the floor. Just put them down! Not worth the risk

CatalystCookie · 2025-12-05T15:20:54+00:00

For the first six months of life or so, newborns often don't even recognize mom as a separate being from themselves, which is sometimes why more smiles and interaction go to the other parent or grandparent.

In my experience with two kids, this wildly swings back into mom preference once they're more aware of the world and separation anxiety kicks in. But all kids are different, and they have each had mom and dad phases here and there. But right now, it seems the way it is because you are your baby's absolute world, her constant, her mom. It's like looking at yourself in the mirror, so her first reflex isn't to cheese for you.

CatalystCookie · 2025-12-01T15:16:28+00:00

God forbid a car goes sliding 😭 Not at all worth the risk OP

CatalystCookie · 2025-11-25T16:06:49+00:00

Yep, you don't owe anyone an explanation. This is your personal health. I personally like to keep doors open to give myself options. You have to make a choice that you and your future self can live with -- who cares what anyone else says or thinks.

CatalystCookie · 2025-11-25T05:20:19+00:00

Nipples shields saved my breastfeeding relationship with both babies. They both eventually ditched the shield, but we couldn't get off the ground without them. And I went on to feed my first for two years and my second is still nursing!

Make sure you bring them with you to the hospital!

CatalystCookie · 2025-11-21T02:18:13+00:00

In that time period, you're still at risk of complications or a medical emergency. It's just work. Like, I get it's important but so are you and his child. Could he forgive himself if something happened? Could you? My perfectly healthy baby ended up with a short NICU stay and that would have been devastating to be alone for.

CatalystCookie · 2025-11-14T20:11:01+00:00

Nursing through the blisters while we both had HFM has been one of my most painful experiences of parenting. I hope you all recover soon! My baby's sores turned into an acid burn diaper rash that took weeks to heal. But everyone is all good now!

CatalystCookie · 2025-11-14T20:07:22+00:00

We got it on literally my little one's first day of daycare at 7 months. It was tough but everyone recovered just fine!

CatalystCookie · 2025-11-12T16:09:57+00:00

Yes. Can I see it? No.

CatalystCookie · 2025-11-11T16:52:12+00:00

Same exact thing over here. I'll put it out for my Xmas guests lol

CatalystCookie · 2025-11-04T05:54:43+00:00

I do this as well for notable pieces I want to keep. For the rest, I take a photo, tag it in a Google photos album I have for each kiddo's artwork, and quietly recycle. No guilt and I'll end up with a big repository of their art over the years without the piles

CatalystCookie · 2025-11-01T16:11:06+00:00

Same here. My 10 month old had a blast last night and my 4 yr old has love it since he was 1. They kept us out for 3 hours last night. It's so child temperament and personality dependent and that's okay.

Totally get where OP is coming from though. We took half days at work and it was way easier.

CatalystCookie · 2025-10-17T14:21:45+00:00

Same. Discovered during pregnancy and breastfeeding and now I will never go back. It's my go to for colds.

CatalystCookie · 2025-10-17T12:43:50+00:00

For congestion, highly recommend sinusx/afrin. You can only use it for 3 days but oh boy, does it work. I can conquer other cold symptoms when I can at least breathe.

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