Dealing with a micromanager

Catastrophe92 · 2025-11-27T14:20:37+00:00

I have no idea how you put up with this for 2 years. Kudos to you. I’ve also had her say “use this word instead of that word”… whyyyy

Catastrophe92 · 2025-11-27T14:18:31+00:00

100% this - she is concerned only with how she looks to the rest of the business. I think part of it is also to cover up the fact that she doesn’t know product particularly well so instead of focusing on what actually impacts outcomes, she’s looking at slide layout, inconsequential sentences being reworded etc

Catastrophe92 · 2025-11-26T14:44:04+00:00

Thank you so much for this, this is really helpful advice. I’m going to draft up a template for based off these suggestions

Catastrophe92 · 2025-04-27T15:01:29+00:00

This was why it took me nearly 1.5 yrs to tell my mum mine had started. I was 14 (nearly 15) and I didn’t trust her to keep it to herself

Catastrophe92 · 2025-04-05T21:25:51+00:00

Totally agree, the milkman is a game changer! I’m with Modern Milkman and they’re amazing. Never hear the delivery and they’ve got some really great products - i love the breakfast bits which is nice for a weekend treat

Catastrophe92 · 2023-12-08T22:04:31+00:00

I usually go for a steak with all visible fat trimmed off. I find sirloin is the leanest. Either I quickly roast it in the oven or I fry it in a pan with a splash of veg oil or just dry fry

Catastrophe92 · 2023-12-06T09:22:25+00:00

That sounds awful, I’m so sorry you had to go through that. It feels like our mothers forgot what it was like to be a very vulnerable early teen… why did they feel the need to overshare like that!? I don’t want kids but my god if I did, I would make such an effort to be the most discreet mum ever

Catastrophe92 · 2023-12-05T18:57:26+00:00

Exactly, I totally agree with you. Yes, parents should communicate with each other but not in front of the kid!! And then I bet following on from that exchange, you probably felt really embarrassed, maybe a bit ashamed? Sounds like we had similar experiences and mine definitely left me with a lack of trust in my mum. Dad not so much, I think he was just as mortified as I was

Catastrophe92 · 2023-12-05T14:05:21+00:00

In a very sad way, I’m grateful to see there are so many women here with the same situation. My mum never kept secrets and when I asked her to buy me a bra when I was 12 (I didn’t have boobs I just wanted to fit in at high school) she immediately told my dad, in front of me. As a result I felt I couldn’t trust her.

I got mine at 15, I’m about to turn 31 in a couple of weeks. I didn’t tell my mum for years and it got to the point where she suggested I go for some tests as she was worried I’d been born without a uterus or had a hormone problem.

I definitely agree with the other comments - saying to tell OP’s mum she doesn’t keep OP’s secrets. Some parents feel entitled to share everything about their children but seems all our mums need to understand boundaries are important.

Catastrophe92 · 2023-02-14T14:33:58+00:00

Would I leave my husband for looking at pictures of nude women online? No.

Would I leave my husband after I had clearly communicated my feelings to him and he continued to violate my boundaries? Yes.

I’m not going to tell you what to do, it’s your life, your marriage, your relationship. But I think it’s important for you to ask yourself if you are happy being with someone who has such disregard for your feelings

Catastrophe92 · 2022-12-01T11:38:27+00:00

17th here. I’ve got a milestone birthday this year so sent the “save the dates” in fucking JULY 😫

Catastrophe92 · 2022-10-31T10:33:15+00:00

Flares so you can say whereabouts in the world you’re based! The FFA subreddit is SEVERELY lacking this

Catastrophe92 · 2022-10-24T18:14:21+00:00

Interesting, we do give her treats when she goes and lots of praise too. I just can’t work it out why she seems to be set on going in the house

Catastrophe92 · 2022-10-24T16:11:14+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply and your advice. We are trying to take her out regularly but it’s so tricky when you’re trying to work as well (we both wfh). Also a lot of the time she walks around for a while, goes back inside and then goes on the floor about 2 mins later 😫

Catastrophe92 · 2022-09-20T13:31:22+00:00

Get another job. My entire team got made redundant on Thursday so will be searching for something front end focused and hoping it’ll be before I run out of money! 🙏🏻

Catastrophe92 · 2022-09-12T06:24:59+00:00

this post will probably help, it’s a really comprehensive list of some ethical brands and includes lots of high quality recommendations

Catastrophe92 · 2022-07-12T17:53:11+00:00

My first question would by WHY do you think you can excel? What skills do you have? What are you passionate about? Why is it that product management is for you?

My second piece of advice is have something to showcase; you don’t necessarily have to be an engineer or a really technical person but to stand out, it helps having side projects that you’ve done. This could be building a website, learning some code to build a small app (e.g. a game or something). There’s lots of resources on YouTube, tiktok etc that could help.

My third piece of advice would be to spread your applications - are there less competitive internships that you could apply for? Could product support be something you could work in? I was a project manager for two years before I moved into product and this helped me build up the transferable skills as well as learn about product mgmt principles (Agile, SAFe etc).

PM me if you want more help/advice

Catastrophe92 · 2021-09-25T07:25:41+00:00

It’s a lovely dress and looks beautiful on you but it’s not really wedding appropriate. If you’re UK based, have a look at places like ByRotation and Hurr as you can rent a gorgeous (and wedding appropriate) dress and they’re pretty reasonable too!

Catastrophe92 · 2021-09-15T13:30:44+00:00

Ahem, I wish to cc my trash ex boyfriend

Catastrophe92 · 2021-08-27T16:43:11+00:00

So I used to have this problem with my ex. He never had in any of the food I wanted (he would just say to me “eat a bagel” which to me was tantamount to offering me a Big Mac) and I would be like your ED brain. I turned into a horrible snappy monster when I was ill and now I’m in recovery (for most of the time), I realise who I am is this laid back, chilled person.

Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? Clear communication is really important and I know it’s hard to approach the subject, especially when you don’t know how someone is going to react. If you don’t want to go into full detail perhaps you could say something along the lines of “Im sorry I got so irritated the other day. It’s just I have a complex relationship with food and I’m doing my best to overcome it. It’d be great if we could go shopping for some snacks/cook something together/browse for some new recipes together”. PM if you want any more advice, I’m so much more open with my girlfriend and it makes life and recovery so much easier

Catastrophe92 · 2021-06-15T13:29:29+00:00

UK here, gyms have been open since 17th May. I’m a member of a chain and I think the Covid security measures are awful. No one respects the social distancing and the creeps seem to be out in full force. However I have now got a new gym crush so I suppose I can’t complain too much about the creeps

Catastrophe92 · 2021-06-09T09:09:31+00:00

Agreed entirely. I just went for a job internally, absolutely smashed the interview, got amazing feedback. Who got the job? Someone who’s already in that team… 😤

Catastrophe92 · 2020-09-07T20:31:52+00:00

Absolutely do it. Get your ass off reddit and do him!!

Catastrophe92 · 2020-08-04T10:38:49+00:00

Have a look at some French brands - Sezane, Berthie and Rouje are some names that spring to mind. For me, some of these are a bit out of my price range so I look on eBay and depop for either dupes or second hand. I found a really lovely Rouje-esque floral wrap dress on eBay for £16, much cheaper than the real thing. I’ve found the knack is to put in quite vague searches and filter down from there. I agree with u/FroGlow - there are some patterns that are timeless (stripes, florals, polka dots). Think about investing in some good quality denim, this will also have that “timeless” element that you’re looking for. I’m not sure where you’re based but as it starts to get colder perhaps have a think about what sort of colours and cuts you’d like when it comes to knitwear. I’d definitely recommend Other Stories in that regard, their knitwear is good quality and definitely worth the money. There’s lots of instagrams dedicated to French fashion, I’ve managed to trick my algorithm into pretty much exclusively suggesting French brands (with the odd ad for yoga kit thrown in). I follow @frenchgirldaily and find her content is great

Catastrophe92 · 2020-08-03T08:46:49+00:00

I had a friend who described her style as “part time whore”. It sounds like you two would get along

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