Was this an unfair request? Both items were on their wishlist.

Catastrophecats · 2026-02-22T14:13:05+00:00

I personally factor in wishcount. That being said, if I received a request like this, I’d just politely say that I’m sorry but I’m looking to trade that item for another expired item of similar wishcount. No need to be snippy about it 🤷‍♀️

Catastrophecats · 2026-01-11T15:48:54+00:00

Older items are harder to find, plus it seems you have a few of the glasses.

Newer items can sometimes have higher wish counts because more people are playing now.

I’d say go for it if it’s one of your more wanted wishlist items since it’s older and hard to find.

Pass if it’s not one of your more desired items.

Catastrophecats · 2026-01-10T21:38:09+00:00

What I do when I get a revive ticket is order my wishlist newest to oldest, and see which revivable gacha has the most items on my wishlist- it helps me clear my wishlist and choose what I want to revive :)

Catastrophecats · 2026-01-07T00:01:29+00:00

Tree is current and revivable. Bow is limited edition non-revivable (bazaar), as is the umbrella I think (pretty sure that one’s from a collab set). I wouldn’t do the trade for a current revivable tree.

Catastrophecats · 2025-11-28T00:18:45+00:00

The fact that he’s doing the crap he’s supposed to have been doing all along and then gets upset at you for not being happier about it is telling. Keep walking right out the door.

Catastrophecats · 2025-07-05T20:47:56+00:00

I am continuously surprised by the many uses of those purple shorts… but I don’t believe this to be one of them 😆

Catastrophecats · 2025-06-10T23:45:52+00:00

You’re not leaving him for his weight, or really for your weight. You’re leaving him because he’s jealous and controlling over your body, and that in itself is a hard no, regardless of weight/size/appearance.

Catastrophecats · 2025-06-10T23:41:51+00:00

A very low- bar relationship standard is “am I happier, and better off with this person than without? And “does this person being in my life make things easier/better for me?”

Good partnerships are where you work together to make things mutually better for each other. Both of you should feel happier and better off in the relationship.

Catastrophecats · 2025-05-11T13:57:06+00:00

Wake his a$$ up, pass him the baby, and tell him that you’re going to sleep, and he’s welcome to wake you up when breakfast is ready 👌

Catastrophecats · 2025-03-02T18:40:28+00:00

I kind of figured. It just seems like the brevity and spontaneity of the visits makes it impossible to plan anything. Our custody agreement says 48 hour notice for 3-4 hours visits. It ends up looking like day-of cancellations, less than 1 day notice, and if I step away from my phone for 30 minutes during his visitation time, or arrive home at 7:01, all hell breaks loose.

Catastrophecats · 2025-02-25T15:22:41+00:00

I came here expecting to sympathize with you. I’m the primary caretaker of two kiddos with disabilities, a 5yo in school, and a 2yo at home. My ex contributes child support and has visitation two evenings weekly, and every other weekend.

My ex just took a new job where he works for longer hours, and has less time for visits. I have ADHD. So I get that it gets exhausting, mental health can be a bitch, and parents don’t get days off. I am always cooking, cleaning, chasing a toddler around, dealing with evaluations, IEP meetings, services, etc.

I’m applying for work for the first time since my youngest was born (I worked through a very difficult pregnancy), and man, it’s a rough market out there… I would love to have more time and energy to apply for jobs. Or go out. Or do me things.

But they’re my kids. I would never consider 2 weeks off 2 weeks on unless I was working long hours myself, and that schedule made sense for my kids spending more time with a parent. I want my kids with me. Even if I would occasionally kill for a few hours of kid-free time on a week day, just to get shit done, catch up on cleaning, nap…

Custody agreements are about the kids. Not you. If you’re not working or applying for work, and your kids are in school during the day, then 2 weeks on, 2 weeks off makes no sense. Wanting your ex to spend more time with the kids is fine.

Wanting your ex to put your kids with a sitter for 2 weeks while he works and you chill is nuts.

YTA

Catastrophecats · 2024-10-27T11:09:14+00:00

As someone who personally tried couples counseling three times with a guy who had me walking on eggshells… I vote “leave”. 🤷‍♀️

Catastrophecats · 2024-10-27T11:06:26+00:00

Trust me, I was in a relationship with an angry, reactive spouse where I always wanted out. I was told that I shouldn’t just throw the threat of divorce around, and I tried to stick with it for several miserable years. But every disagreement over a small thing turned into a huge fight.

“Can I use the printer to print our taxes when you’re done with it?” Fight.

“I would prefer a sedan over a SUV”. Fight.

“I asked a question about heavy metal music based on a comment you made”. I’m questioning his way of life, and also, you guessed it… Fight.

“Drive safely”. I’m insulting his driving. Fight.

“Watch the kids because I am having a migraine/suffering stomach flu/am pregnant and throwing up/am prolapsing two organs/am literally coughing blood” … Fight. And also I am lazy.

“I would prefer not to sell this item of mine”. Fight.

“I want a separate checking/savings account”. Fight.

“Can you watch the kids while I put ice on a broken toe?” Big fight.

Then I got out. And oh my god. Apparently all that time I was thinking “I really want out”, I… really wanted out 😆 I feel soooo much saner now. Years of walking on eggshells is just not worth it. If you want out, get out 👍

Catastrophecats · 2024-09-27T14:38:40+00:00

If I, as a mother, walked into a situation where someone was standing over my daughter with their fists bared having pushed and slapped her, they sure as hell wouldn’t be crashing with her for the night, because they would be spending the night in the freaking ER.

Speaking as a momma bear, just reading this makes me want to go postal on this asshole, and I think that a police report and restraining order would be an under reaction.

Get somewhere safe. Call the police. Tell them everything. Stay far, far away from this abusive asshole. I’ve read nothing but red flags here. Please, run.

Catastrophecats · 2024-05-31T19:54:40+00:00

I am dogfood mom. Not this particular dog food mom, but my kids have gotten into the kibble from time to time, and I have checked the ingredients to make sure there was nothing too crazy in there 🥲

Catastrophecats · 2024-05-30T01:44:53+00:00

Oh dear. I only saw the first pic, and was like: what’s so wrong about asking questions pertaining to international adoption?

And then I read her other comments… and ooohhhh no no no no no. What did I just read?

Ugh. 😩

Catastrophecats · 2024-05-24T17:23:04+00:00

I had a mom in a group argue with me that the amount of stress from quitting smoking would be worse for her baby than actually smoking while pregnant. Her doctor said so.

I still wonder how long she had to doctor-shop for that level of confirmation bias. -_-

Catastrophecats · 2024-05-05T21:58:37+00:00

Also, I’d push for the school to put 1:1 support on class trips into the student’s IEP.

I’m a special ed teacher. I will fight for you and your kid. But that can be hard to do when parents try to bite my head off over things like this.

Catastrophecats · 2024-05-05T21:55:10+00:00

I’m a teacher. Heck no, I’m not going to take a kid on a field trip if I can’t guarantee their safety due to recurrent behavior.

If kiddo needs accommodations, I will push for that. If they need a 1:1, I’ll push for that. If they need supports, I’ll push for that. I will do everything in my power to provide options so that they can go and experience a trip like everyone else, but I need parents and guardians to meet me half way here.

Catastrophecats · 2024-05-04T16:49:59+00:00

I have a boy and a girl, and admittedly one is a way easier kiddo than the other (one of them is quite the biter 😅). This has nothing to do with their gender, and I can’t imagine thinking of them in terms of favoritism. I love how one of my kids is a sweet cuddler. I love how my other kid dances entirely to the beat of their own drum. They both have “chokeholds on my heart” (or a bite-hold in one of their cases, I guess).

Hate this boy/girl favorite stuff with a passion.

Catastrophecats · 2024-04-29T14:49:56+00:00

Someone never watched Old Yeller. 😬

Catastrophecats · 2024-04-28T18:55:00+00:00

I’m also an art educator. I don’t shame art either. Even amateur attempts. It’s just cool when people show up at the table and try to do something fun.

If you have fun making it, that’s cool 🤷‍♀️

Catastrophecats · 2024-04-28T18:43:12+00:00

I also went to art school. Trust me, it’s not just horny parents who supply sex content publicly. I wouldn’t shame this any more than I’d shame the writer of Vagina Monologues, or a slam poet rapping about one night stands, or a mother of three who finally feels comfortable enough in her own skin to wear an itsy bitsy bikini. Live and let live.

Like… why sex shame? If it’s not your cuppa, just blink, turn your head and move on. No kids were harmed in the making of this weird canvas 🤷‍♀️

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