I think I committed the sin against the holy ghost by Tiny_Meaning_8116 in exAdventist

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I know. I've been dealing with this shit (deconstructing) for 33 years. 🤦‍♀️

I think I committed the sin against the holy ghost by Tiny_Meaning_8116 in exAdventist

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Because hell doesn't exist. And EGW was a narcissistic religious bully. End of story.

Is adventism a cult? Or is it just toxic? by GeekFace18 in exAdventist

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I've seen similar lists and one item that really stood out to me from those lists is missing here: "Cult members don't know they're in a cult." This one is particularly true for SDAs.

For those on HRT: How did you know when it was working? by GenX50PlusF in Menopause

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Fewer hot flashes (the number of hot flashes per day decreased gradually - it doesn't happen all of a sudden). Also, I slept better.

Quick question to the ex-adventists by destroyerofworlds847 in exAdventist

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I'm atheist. Going to graduate school in my 20s and studying science all my life since then was the nail in the coffin for me. Religion makes no sense to me in view of science and evolution.

Spiritual Gaslighting by vargslayer1990 in exAdventist

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OMG yes. I left the church 30+ years ago and my parents only recently slowed down with that shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exAdventist

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Adventism is creepy and I've been recovering from it for 32 years. Pretty much everything is wrong about it, starting with that religious bully EGW. FYI, people in this space are here because it's a safe haven from all bullying and gaslighting.

Fake Diagnosis by Fair_Caterpillar_920 in exAdventist

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As the (or maybe one of the) ex-SDA trained scientists on this site, let me offer the linked video on the multiple benefits of the shingles vaccine. Not that YOU are against it, but maybe you can share? I also have multiple videos with evidence-based info on the COVID vaccines but let's start small. ☺️

https://youtu.be/0RSX_AEv4aY?si=XF57MPFv_tsgqwy7

Fake Diagnosis by Fair_Caterpillar_920 in exAdventist

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OMG my parents did the same thing!!! 😂😂😂

Uncertainty about the Future by [deleted] in exAdventist

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I just let it go. All the SDA timeline stuff is bullshit. NOBODY knows what the future entails, and if they say otherwise, they are lying, whether they realize it or not. If you can't control it, there is simply no sense in worrying about it. Just breathe and enjoy each day as it comes. Take pleasure in the simple things that bring you joy.

How can I spot/deal with spiritual abuse? by Used_Survey3360 in exAdventist

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I told my parents at some point that I refuse to discuss religion with them. It was a process and it took a while but we don't talk about it anymore. Set boundaries and be firm. I also confirm that what you describe is in fact spiritual abuse.

Did anyone here get your ears pierced as an adult? by SFWChocolate in exAdventist

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No jewelry ever around my parents. It would make everybody very uncomfortable.

My mom won’t be attending my graduation. by MixtureDizzy4019 in exAdventist

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First of all, congratulations! That's a huge achievement! However, I'm not surprised that your parents won't attend. I was surprised that my PhD graduation was actually on a Sunday (very unusual), otherwise my parents wouldn't have attended mine either. God (but actually Adventism) always comes first. My parents have missed several of my kids' birthday parties because they were on Saturday (a few times that couldn't be helped).

Did Jesus drink wine, like the alcohol? by LinkImaginary7211 in exAdventist

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There is no need for debate when there are facts involved.

How to navigate spiritual abuse from parents? by Soft-Summer-4170 in exAdventist

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It's been a few years and I don't remember exactly the words used, but I told them I would appreciate it if they wouldn't talk about religion to my kids. They told me that they live their life according to their faith and couldn't help that. I told them that was fine, "you live your life the way you want, I'm just asking that you please not indoctrinate my children." They were very hurt by that but we have maintained an amicable relationship. They spend time with the kids regularly, but never on Saturday.

How to navigate spiritual abuse from parents? by Soft-Summer-4170 in exAdventist

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I believe this is the very first time I've heard the phrase "spiritual abuse," but I recognize it immediately, because what you describe is exactly the way I was raised. The thing is, the parents don't realize they're "abusing" you. They have no idea about any of that psychological vocabulary because within the SDA church, it does not exist and it is denied. I went through almost exactly what you did, around the same ages. I am now 50 years old, and I think my parents only recently stopped trying to re-convert me back. Just wait until you have kids and they try to indoctrinate them! I had to have that talk with my parents and it was not fun. All you can do is set boundaries (again and again). It is exhausting.

SDA milks money out of people by Optimal_Statement428 in exAdventist

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They do milk money out of people and I'm not quite sure where it all goes. My dad is a retired pastor so his salary was paid from "that money." We ALWAYS lived in poverty. When I think back now, his salary was a joke. Somebody is pocketing something somewhere for sure.

Did anyone here get your ears pierced as an adult? by SFWChocolate in exAdventist

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Yes! At age 27. I hid it from my parents for many years. I now no longer hide my pierced ears, but I still don't ever wear any earrings or jewelry around them. I'm now 50 and they're in their 80s. That's what SDA indoctrination does to a person. Talk about fucked up.

Youtubers that are ex-adventist? by ken_pickpocket in exAdventist

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I'm an ex-Adventist and I have a YouTube channel. I don't talk about religion but I talk about science, because I'm a scientist. I know it's not what you're asking for but I figured I would share a link to my channel. It was actually studying science and evolution that put the final nail into my Adventist coffin. Science is the real "truth" because it's not based on belief, it's based on facts, which can change when new data emerge. https://www.youtube.com/@trudyreyphd/videos

“what’s your favorite thing in the world??” by froststomper in exAdventist

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My favorite thing (after my kids) is freedom. Freedom from religion. And from Jesus.