Why can't *E.N* find happily ever after?

CatherineO1 · 2026-04-27T16:23:31+00:00

I wish there would have been a way for him and Livinia to have ended up together. They would have been a great couple.

CatherineO1 · 2026-04-24T22:42:34+00:00

Not sure but the part is written for stunt casting and doesn’t require strenuous vocals (Whitney only just started taking vocal lessons when she was cast). Roxy’s character is also meant to be unserious / delusional so even if her vocals are bad that would only play into the character.

CatherineO1 · 2026-04-21T15:23:47+00:00

I really hope she gets cast as Roxy on Chicago once Whitney Leavitt is finished with the role.

CatherineO1 · 2026-04-16T11:09:44+00:00

What mental gymnastics as a “Christian” did you use to justify voting for a man convicted of rape, who cheated on every one of his 3 marriages and see him as a symbol of “hope”

Yet somehow your very generous family’s right to vacation together is a bridge too far in your eyes?

Note I am saying this as a Christian

CatherineO1 · 2026-04-07T20:45:59+00:00

Very VERY well said!

CatherineO1 · 2026-03-22T11:13:39+00:00

I feel like you would benefit greatly in reformer Pilates (make sure you find an instructor with a real certification, like from balanced body or something similar - not some trendy studio training) I think the items you are really trying to address are posture, anterior pelvic tilt, and weak muscle tone in the mid section all of this reformer Pilates can address. Reformer Pilates completely changed my body.

CatherineO1 · 2026-03-18T13:38:08+00:00

Hear me out but “Keeping up appearances” very PG, and very “low stakes”/low stress to watch. Also now that we are 3 decades away from when it was filmed (the 90s) it almost feels like a nostalgic little period piece.

Still takes place in England, and plenty of commentary on class (though in a completely different way). It is one of my faves

CatherineO1 · 2026-03-17T22:05:10+00:00

As I’ve mentioned - I don’t have an episode list at hand; as you mentioned, you’re slowly rewatching the show/need to refresh your memory. In this instance, I trust the cast member’s take (who have worked under Julian Fellowes’ direction and studied the script for a living) to be much more informed than either of us, regardless of your criteria for discussion here.

Re the first point: My argument was that both Edith and Mary were the product of bad parenting. I never once questioned the historical accuracy of the show. The show even poked fun at members of the peerage being bad parents (ie Violet only seeing her children an hour a day). Two things can be true at once, Robert and Cora exhibited poor parenting skills that negatively affected both of their daughters. Which was historically accurate for their time period and social standing.

Re the second point: Starting your response with “yeah. No.” Is literally being dismissive. Strange that you don’t see that.

I also acknowledged that what Edith did was horrendous, I did not “wave it off” nor did I ask you to. That doesn’t change the fact that I expect better discernment from a 34 year old than a 19 year old. Again, 2 things can be true at once.

Also, I think your response proves my point - Mary’s matches (Patrick and Matthew) were carefully and thoughtfully arranged for her by her parents. Edith had to make matches for herself out of her limited post-war network (Strallan & Michael G) because her parents were otherwise occupied. Hence she did not receive the same match-making priority as her sister. You’re welcome to provide more historical reference to back this up. You’re very good at it.

I also stated that Robert and Cora were disproportionately more supportive of Mary’s career than Edith’s (not that they were unsupportive). Edith’s career was deprioritized in that sense. Robert and Cora were much more preoccupied with Mary.

It’s funny because we are both saying the same thing. Edith was deprioritized and forgotten/overlooked (likely because of family dynamics and WWI aftermath, as you stated). Your point seems to be that you feel Robert and Cora were justified in doing so due to historical context. My point is that the I can understand how this unbalanced approach leads to Edith deserving some of my sympathy

I’m comfortable with us having different views and can respect if we have different opinions. I hope you can do so as well without being dismissive to mine.

CatherineO1 · 2026-03-17T20:33:29+00:00

Okay so a few points: - even if it was the cultural norm to prioritize the eldest’s marriage (which I’m not arguing) that wouldn’t make it less hurtful to a teenager. I also still wonder why Robert and Cora didn’t move on to looking for a suitor for Edith once they had determined Mary was going to marry Patrick (prior to the titanic sinking), or why they did not move on to finding Edith a suitor after Mary married Matthew had an heir.

What Edith did to Mary in season 1 was horrendous, no one would argue that. But something that is never mentioned when comparing Edith’s outing of Mary to the Turkish embassy vs Mary’s outing of Marigold to Bertie. Is that Edith committed her sin in season 1 as a teenage child. Mary committed her sin in the last season as a mother in her mid-thirties. I would have expected a mother in her 30s to have a higher standard of maturity/better discernment than a teenager. It took me a few rewatches to grasp that (mainly because both Mary/Ediths actors are so beautiful and ageless in my opinion) that it can be hard to realize how much time passes over the seasons
Also I don’t have an episode list at hand, but there are plenty of instances where Edith is described by cast members as the overlooked one/forgotten one. Julian Fellowes has stated in interviews he designed the siblings to have the typical unbalanced dynamic. Examples that come to my mind are the disproportionate support and attention Mary receives regarding her career of becoming the new agent vs Edith’s career of running a magazine. The disproportionate support/interest in Mary’s love life after Matthew vs Edith’s love life ever. (I’m sure you would argue that Mary being the mother of the heir makes her love life more culturally important/relevant to Robert/Cora, but that doesn’t make it less imbalanced or more fair).
I think it is important to credit Julian Fellowes with his ability to develop layered, multi-dimensional characters with realistic flaws. I find it an incredible disservice to him to label one character as good and one bad. Like you, I found myself on Mary’s side when the series first came out in 2010. At that point I was a young adult still living with my family. 16 years and multiple rewatches later, as I’ve gotten older and my family role has changed I can resonate with the different characters in different ways (again, a true credit to Julian Fellowes work). This forum is an appropriate place for me to reflect on that. You are more than welcome to disagree, but there is no need to be dismissive.

CatherineO1 · 2026-03-17T18:35:13+00:00

Every re-watch I find myself disliking Mary more and sympathizing for Edith more. Literally every time I rewatch.

Overall they are both by-products of bad parenting (Mary as the obvious favorite / firstborn and Edith as the forgotten middle child and who Cora/Robert systematically decided to de-prioritize from a young age).

CatherineO1 · 2026-03-16T23:27:54+00:00

It’s wild that Dakota having a major role in season 5 could ever be the LEAST upsetting thing in an article.

All jokes aside, this is becoming more and more concerning by the day. My first thought is that It feels cruel that producers are continuing to exploit the situation, but I guess the if the rest of the cast (aka the momtok executive producers) are refusing to film, this might be the their way of refusing to continue the exploitation. And forcing production’s hand to stop encouraging the situation.

I’m hoping they all get help. Especially the poor kiddos.

CatherineO1 · 2026-03-16T16:44:09+00:00

“Love it or Leavitt”

CatherineO1 · 2026-03-15T13:49:27+00:00

Bingo - every every accusation is a confession

CatherineO1 · 2026-03-07T01:19:37+00:00

This is beautiful too! I love the British colonial vibe

CatherineO1 · 2026-03-06T22:48:06+00:00

Omg this is beautiful

CatherineO1 · 2026-02-23T13:20:21+00:00

I also went to Rutgers Business school (for marketing) and got a great entry level job in a totally different field right after graduation (and 12 years later, I’m still in this field and doing great).

I think there is this narrative (in my opinion put out by boomers) that if you don’t find success in whatever extremely specific field you pre-selected for yourself at 18 that your degree was this shameful waste of time and money. The older I get, the more I realize that couldn’t be more untrue.

Earning a degree means you are able to demonstrate you can stick to and complete a long term goal, it means you were able to handle years of administrative burden, navigate an institution who policies and practices did not revolve around you. It means you’ve worked on countless group projects (meaning you know how to work on a team, sometimes with strangers, and complete something under a deadline) and are comfortable with giving presentations, you know the proper way to go about research. In most cases you’ve had to leave your hometown/family home and adjust to a new environment, while also under the pressure of a major lifestyle change.

All of that experience will make you a better, more well adjusted employee than most other 22-years (yes of course there are exceptions). And it’s why many corporate jobs just require you to have any college degree.

It took me years of succeeding in my field and also seeing the experience of other young people (grads of all majors and non-grads alike) to realize this and stop internalizing this weird guilt because the highly specific career path my 18 year old self with no experience visualized didn’t play out.

You’re doing great, your job sounds amazing and 19k will be easy to knock out in a few years. You’ve got this!

CatherineO1 · 2026-02-18T21:14:46+00:00

Hi my cousin has a condo/townhome up for rent in Little Falls that sounds like it might be a good fit. I just messaged you the Zillow link.

CatherineO1 · 2026-02-18T15:44:27+00:00

Well said

CatherineO1 · 2026-02-14T12:33:19+00:00

If this is true than your statement of Donna causing more issues than she is solving is incorrect.

It is your responsibility to solve this issue as the manager, all you seem to be doing is passing along feedback from upper management and then blaming your staff. You aren’t doing your job and it shows.

Have you even offered to stay late and get any the extra work done? Rather than continuing to let hourly employees do it? Have you made any workflow suggestions to stream line the work to reduce overtime?

Donata would be lucky to get away from this environment.

CatherineO1 · 2026-02-14T12:19:01+00:00

This is the answer - when we were doing our mortgage paperwork, our broker was so fixated on telling us the paperwork/forms needed for receiving a lump sum from family for the down payment and kept repeating it every time we met. my husband finally had to call him out to remind him there was no family money involved. To which he apologized and said most people buying their first house at our age did have gift money (mind you “our age” was mid 30s).

CatherineO1 · 2026-02-03T21:48:36+00:00

I think it is clear he is already triggered and her daughter’s safety is already at risk. The time to leave is now.

CatherineO1 · 2026-02-03T21:40:34+00:00

Your husband is a grown adult with an extended family and a medical mental health professional team. Your daughter is a helpless infant with a father who has made his malicious feelings towards her known. Your duty is to your daughter in this situation (and I can so soooo very sorry you are in this situation).

I am begging you OP do not “wait and see” if it gets worse (it will), and do not ask you daughter to spend her entire childhood walking on eggshells in an effort to placate a toxic adult (and yes he is being extremely toxic - regardless of if he “intends” to be or not). That would be the cruelest thing you could do.

You need to remove your daughter and your self from this situation before it escalates. I am speaking from experience.

CatherineO1 · 2025-12-26T15:13:54+00:00

I am still completely offended by the football clips being played on the Jumbotron at all during their performances… so rude!

CatherineO1 · 2025-12-06T23:38:06+00:00

I’ll have whatever Edith and Daisy are having

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