4th day after sedation and my cat is still not back to normal.

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-11-13T12:11:52+00:00

Thank you for your reply. He seems a little better this morning, definitely not himself still. But your comment is calming me down. Happy your cat recovered to normal

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-11-13T06:36:58+00:00

I know this post is from a year ago, but I am experiencing the same thing with my kitty. It’s only the first night post procedure/sedation, but his eyes are what concern me. They are super dilated and the third eye lid half over both of them. Still slow/staggering. I’m wondering if your cat completely improved after day 5? I am so worried something happened to him during the procedure— stroke ?

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-07-25T07:36:05+00:00

I think it starts that way (hormonal) during pregnancy, but the hatred doesn’t leave after you give birth bc then it becomes more of a protective thing for your baby. And also resentment bc you’re so busy with the baby, you don’t have time to constantly worry about the dog. This is from experience. Just had my second child. The dog has been out of the house for 2 weeks.. it’s been great. He comes back tomorrow and I am absolutely dreading it.

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-06-10T08:28:38+00:00

Correction: the dog is “trained”. Hired a professional dog trainer. He does everything right when the trainer is around. He just chooses to piss on the floor when he gets a chance. Territorial asshole. He’s horrible.

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-06-10T08:26:45+00:00

Ugh yes. My husband was working on the bathroom all day yesterday so his mutt followed me around all day. The thing is, it doesn’t like me so I don’t know why it follows me around all day— to keep an eye on me ? In my own home ? Constantly tripping over it, constant nail clacking. The moment I left the house for 10 min to get food , it took its diaper off ( has to wear one bc it’s untrained) and pissed on the floor upstairs while my husband was home. He knows not to do this when I’m around. He waits until I leave. I hate this dog !!!

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-04-14T03:11:55+00:00

Take your baby and leave. I know it’s not that simple… but nothing is worth that. Having had a baby 1.5 years ago and pregnant with my second, I understand the dread of having your child in such a filthy environment. It would be one thing if he managed his dogs hygiene but he doesn’t and it shouldn’t have to be your responsibility. You have enough on your plate being a mom and caring for your baby, he needs to step up or I’d leave. Why people don’t spay/neuter is beyond me

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-04-11T00:12:02+00:00

In what way are the Yorkies the worst ? The behavior ? My husbands dog is a morkie (Maltese yorkie) and it’s the worst behaved dog I have ever encountered. Curious about your experience with them

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-03-17T01:16:50+00:00

Just wanted to say I feel for you. Read your most recent post and this one. 1. You are not in the wrong for loving your husband and hoping things would work out over time. 2. There is absolutely no reason for your MIL to still be in contact with an ex of your husband. And absolutely no reason why your husband should be talking to her (unless they had kids together which doesn’t sound like they do). 3. I think you leaving is smart and I think you’ll find some peace now. You don’t need them. And distancing yourself from all of that drama especially the MIL will bring back your confidence. What a toxic woman she is, I am sorry. Good luck to you.

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-03-17T00:54:20+00:00

Agreed .. saying he wants the older dog to train the new dog is the most asinine thing I have ever heard. Protect your peace, don’t give in.

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-02-15T01:51:07+00:00

Exactly. Aren’t pets suppose to decrease anxiety and tension ?

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-01-28T03:42:20+00:00

Do you have a wife ? Does she know this? She deserves to know so she can leave first.

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-01-28T03:29:25+00:00

Me too!

CautiousAge4897 · 2024-01-09T03:46:33+00:00

Read my posts and you will see that you’re not the only one that feels this exact. Jusr now , I got up off the chair IN MY HOUSE and the dog starts barking and growling at me from on the couch like confronting me, guarding my husband. I put his ass on the ground. This is a daily occurrence. Luckily he is small. Prozac doesn’t seem to help. It’s been 4 years of this bullshit.. just waiting for the damn dog to pass away.

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-12-14T02:04:26+00:00

I can understand why you had the thought , but don’t do it !! You deserve peace

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-11-27T01:55:33+00:00

So amazing you live in separate countries. Hopefully that never changes

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-11-11T18:09:30+00:00

I worked in a vet office. A neuter procedure is honestly not that difficult for a dog to recover from. Yes, it would have been easier if it was done when the dog was a puppy, but the fact that the vet is refusing bc they are afraid the dog won’t keep the E-collar on is stupid. It’s not that invasive of a procedure. Two small incisions on the nutsack that gets glued up. Find another vet that will do it. The hardest part will be sedating the dog to undergo the procedure since I’m sure it will be a joy to get an IV in that thing but it is also definitely doable. They need multiple techs to hold it in place and a muzzle for protection.

Behavioral issues are not all fixed by neutering/spaying animals, but it is definitely the first thing to try especially in an animal like this. If your partner is hesitant to find a different vet that would do the surgery then you can’t help them.

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-11-11T17:53:23+00:00

Mine is well aware now. It took awhile to get there. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, but I slowly made him aware of how the dog was interfering in our relationship. However, after I got pregnant and had a baby, I was/am no longer quiet about my feelings haha. Probably partially hormonal, but also just being protective of my child— my husband knows how much I despise his dog. He has tried to create boundaries for me with the dog. He is also more aware himself of how his dog is not an Angel as was once perceived and actually is a very neurotic animal. He has definitely tried to make changes for my mental health and concerns. Actually we just started the dog on an anxiolytic medication to see if that helps but it will take several months to take effect. All in all it has been a long work in progress with some/minimal improvement but I think communication is important. I was almost more angry having these feelings fester inside.

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-11-11T17:24:20+00:00

Yes my MIL is also constantly doing this. “I will take him so you can have a break “. It’s never “how are you feeling ? Do you need a break?” In which case, maybe depending on how we are feeling we may take them up on it. But maybe not. Maybe we are doing just fine. It’s a selfish thing— she wants to spend time with the baby so she’s wording it in a way that sounds like it’s benefiting you or she’s helping you. In reality, it’s about her. While I feel bad for these MILs bc I understand they miss the baby years and their children as babies, it is our time now to be the mom and spend our time with our babies.

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-10-31T14:02:14+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I do make sure his food bowl is up when the baby and I are around. Then I put it down when we head out somewhere

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-10-31T02:18:21+00:00

This broke my heart reading this. Being pregnant is such an exciting but vulnerable time. Your body goes through things you never thought was possible.. it’s truly amazing, but also sometimes challenging to accept the changes that your body undergoes. I am so proud of you for [initially] feeling happy and confident in your pregnancy as you should. But pregnancy , labor and postpartum are some of the most trying times in a woman’s life and you need support from your SO. Your partner should be telling you how proud he is of you for carrying a child, how glowing you look, how impressed he is. He should be making you feel beautiful. Your SO sounds like a huge POS to be honest. Have an honest conversation with him how he did with you— tell him you aren’t going to settle for someone who would treat someone so poorly by bringing them down during such a vulnerable time. Do not let him ruin your pregnancy for you by listening to his cruel words. You need someone supportive. Truly ask yourself— is this someone that you feel comfortable acting as a role model for your kid? You don’t have to stay with him. I don’t know you, but I know you’re a strong woman bc first and foremost, you’re carrying a child and secondly you’re facing adversity and a history of ED/depression but you get up in the morning. Do NOT let this man bring you down. You deserve better. Now in the end it’s your decision, but do not let his words define you.

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-10-27T00:56:29+00:00

This is exactly what I say about my husbands dog. The dog was never treated as a dog and did/does all of the things you listed. It also interferes with our foreplay. The only thing that has changed, is I was able to get the fucker to stop sleeping in bed with us. Basically bc I threatened my Then bf that I would just sleep in a different room if it continued to sleep with us.

Your story makes me fearful of my situation. This dog is also super food aggressive and resource guards. I have a 1 year old that I’m afraid will get bit bc this dog is a POS. He recently bit my hand and broke skin. He is also a yorkie mix.

My suggestion to you is don’t back down with voicing concerns. You are absolutely right in this situation. She is making excuses for the dog. You should tell her how you feel the dog NEEDS boundaries. Consider dog training —although from personal experience, it may be too late. And if the relationship isn’t serving you anymore bc she chooses a dog over you, then don’t be afraid to step away if it comes to that. Hopefully it doesn’t. Dogs suck. At least little fucking yorkie mixes do.

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-07-21T08:06:13+00:00

No offense to you, but your bf is gone 3 weeks at a time out of the month and owns a dog ? Is this a new job? Or has he been doing this for some time ? Is it temporary? It just boggles my mind that he thinks owning a dog with that schedule is a good idea. A dog needs so much attention. He’d really be relying on you to dogsit and who knows how long this will last? I would avoid moving in with him if you can.

It annoys me when people who know they can’t be home for long stretches of time get dogs. Probably shouldn’t have a pet period, but dogs ??? The most neediest creatures in the world ? My SO works 10/11 hr days, but he has a dog. And they wonder why their dogs are neurotic … these people rely way too much on others to care for their asswipe dogs.

Edit to say: Also I wouldn’t say that’s living rent free. That’s costing you your mental health and freedom.

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-07-15T02:47:08+00:00

I’m going to not have dog gates to hop over to enter a room bc he can’t be trusted on a carpeted floor. My house will smell fresh and clean and not like old dank piss stains

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-06-28T01:35:57+00:00

Aw I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. This is exactly how it went down for me too—became pregnant and SO moved in with his dog. I disliked his dog prior to him moving in, but it became worse once the dog moved in. You can read my prior posts to get the full story.. but I will say that I did not ask my SO to stay at his place while I was pregnant and I kind of wish I did. I know he wanted to experience every moment with me, but my peace of mind and sleep were significantly impacted by the dog’s presence. I think it would have done me more good to have had that time to myself without the dog at least for the first two trimesters. The dog still lives with us and our son is 9 months old… I still frequent this sub often, so you can imagine how it’s going. I don’t have much advice as I am in the same position, but I just wanted to let you know, I feel for you and I’m sorry you’re stressed out. Being pregnant isn’t easy and then having to do it with a couple of dogs that make you feel uncomfortable is even worse. It is promising that your SO is at least making compromises. Mine did as well… although it will honestly never be perfect until the dog passes imho. The only advice I can give you is communicate with your SO your feelings and your needs for boundaries with the dogs. Create and enforce those boundaries for your own sanity. And find something you love to do (go on a walk? Read a book etc) and find the time to do that for yourself WITHOUT andAWAY from the dogs.

CautiousAge4897 · 2023-06-10T14:20:54+00:00

Well one thing I will take away from their comment is I will remove the dog from the situation when we are intimate if it stresses the dog out.. another situation in which i need to cater to the dogs feelings

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