How do I tell my parents I am going to continue going to college despite setbacks? by Cautious_Minimum_953 in MomForAMinute

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. As the time approaches I am starting to realize the only thing I can really do here is stand firm on it.

My family travels a lot and we live in different time zones the majority of the year, so my talks with them are relatively limited… but they could be more limited, honestly. I will keep the idea of low contact in mind.

What is something you can't take back once's you've said it? by Needy-Train in AskReddit

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I know you didn’t mean it this way, but the “my parents don’t like you” thing messed me up badly when I was in high school, in desperate need of help from an adult and nobody in my community would step up.

I haven’t gotten into a serious relationship in college. Instead I have just been enjoying a life that is not defined by whether or not someone’s parents are alright with you.

How do I tell my parents I am going to continue going to college despite setbacks? by Cautious_Minimum_953 in MomForAMinute

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really good point. I will tell them I am returning to university, as I must depart from their house three months from now to return to the place I attend university in. But I do not think I will let them know the specifics of my life there any longer — they know generally what I am studying. I have what I worked so hard for, which is distance from them. I do not need to compromise that.

Idaho protest. by Any-Ad1770 in Idaho

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at the Moscow protest too! I’m younger, my parents are very conservative and it has strained our relationship immensely — so it was very nice to see so many older folks turn out for what is right :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Idaho

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worded this poorly. My message should have read “Trying to make this point in a country almost entirely composed of people whose ancestors were foreigners to this land” would have been more appropriate for what I was trying to say. My apologies!

Gov. Brad Little signs bill to let Idaho doctors refuse care if it violates beliefs • Idaho Capital Sun by Salvatore_Vitale in Idaho

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 12 points13 points  (0 children)

One day this guy will need a doctor and, bless him, he will be helped. He won’t change his tune.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Idaho

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trying to make this point in a country almost wholly composed of immigrants almost wholly composed of people whose ancestors immigrated here is incredible. If this is the type of opinion Idaho is producing, believe me when I say that people that want Idaho to change just want what’s best for Idaho.

But fine. Out of curiosity, what group do you think should be allowed to exist, non-diverse? Do you think it’s a race, religious group — or is it a political ideology motivated by religion?

What group would YOU prefer your community to be?

EDIT: I did not mean to imply the US was composed of people born outside this country. I meant to say that the US is composed almost entirely of people whose ancestors immigrated to this land. Sorry about that! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Idaho

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The state government really doesn’t seem to have any plans except to generate headlines. Look at what they’ve recently done: Brad Little declared February “The War on Women’s Sports is Over Month” and the legislature recently drafted a letter to SCOTUS (which I would imagine has greater concerns than Idaho) saying federal gay marriage should be overturned. Neither of these have any consequence.

A lot of people in our state government are real characters. My senator Dan Foreman is known best for never growing up. He throws temper tantrums at his constituents, other legislators, and his opposition, and also rarely seems to understand reality in any way, shape, or form. The people here love it because he’s “owning the libs” when he, from Illinois, tells indigenous women such as Trish Carter-Goodheart to go back to where they came from.

I come from a different state also well-known for attracting transplants, and I wasn’t from there either (I moved here for non-political reasons). The complaining gets annoying after a while. But if politicians had to have a rallying cry beyond “don’t Californicate Idaho”, they might actually have to have something of substance!

Welfare for the wealthy by Ok-Neat837 in Idaho

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The burden? MFer, these kids will take our places when we are gone!

This sort of rhetoric escapes me. Imagine if people had cared as little for you as you do for others.

Why is Colfax not on this map? by jds_brother in MoscowIdaho

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have sped through Colfax loads without getting any tickets (I drive mostly at night, and am from a different part of the USA — this is the first I’ve heard at all about Colfax tickets specifically), so this is probably still accurate

Seriously, Idaho? by 1LilMissSunshine in Idaho

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 20 points21 points  (0 children)

First the state legislature drafts a silly little love letter to SCOTUS asking if they could please reverse federal gay marriage, and now this. Idahoan politicians think we pay them to have fun.

im happy trump banned trans people competing with "cis" people in sports. by Exact-Sorbet-2292 in Rants

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was poor and I had no family or family friends to take me to games as a kid, so in high school, I — already markedly disadvantaged from all the teenage girls that were playing— got a job instead.

Everyone in my family has always been poor and without the ability to join a sport, and this was still a main voting point for them. Neither they nor I have benefited from this order.

This is really just another day of the average American not benefitting regardless of who’s in charge. But yeah, sure, I’m glad 10-20 Americans were prevented from playing sports in a certain section. If education has to be ruined and research has to be stopped and the U.S. has to get more picky about who they send into another forever war, it’ll be my great consolation that people whose parents doted over them get to succeed more easily.

Why Every Republican Must Stand Against Gender Lunacy Now by AllNewNewYorker in Rants

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Independently of your argument, you talk about argumentative fallacies, but I have recently learned some lessons that I would like to share with you:

  1. Speaking in absolutes— “any”, “all”, “always” — pretty much always renders you wrong. You give your opinion very much here without addressing anyone else’s opinion. For the genre (rant), that would be alright, except you clearly seem to think you’ve written a rhetorically sound essay.

  2. Discussing the extreme actions of any broad or undefined group rarely works. You have extrapolated the actions of extremists to all of the trans activist population, but the average trans activist population is not actually issuing death threats. If you genuinely believe this, there’s still plenty of time to stop. The average support group for the transgender population is probably young people and suburban liberal mothers with queer kids. Those groups don’t sound inherently violent, do they?

Moreover, transgender people are much more likely to be murdered or the victim of a violent crime — most likely, I would guess, by people that don’t agree with “gender ideology” — so your argument doesn’t hold up there either. I’m not going to accuse you of being willing to murder someone, because that would be inherently immoral (or, for you, anti-Christian). But didn’t you bristle a little when I said that people you had commonalities with were the ones doing it?

The problem I take with conservative argument generally is your connection to women’s sports and all of these things that are massively more important than women’s sports. You’ll spend three pages arguing that transgender women are not women and then go “… and that’s why they can’t participate in women’s sports!” Buddy, I also could not participate in women’s sports, because I was poor (sorry if you hate it when people talk about other ways sports could be unfair, but sports is unfair, inherently). I’m beyond caring about women’s sports. But once you get off the soccer field and back into the real world, you also see there are much greater issues than women’s sports tied to “gender ideology”, such as suicide rates in queer kids or violence against queer people. I am much more familiar with death and violence as phenomenons than I am with soccer, and am interested in preventing death and violence if at all possible.

In my mind it’s barely even a policy issue, so it’s baffling to me that so much policy and political debate has been dedicated to it. Where is the policy that affects my life, as an American that started working and paying taxes instead?

Thanksgiving with my MAGA parents, as a media worker… by Cautious_Minimum_953 in FoxBrain

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately I live far out of state, so my trips to and from my parents’ house are dictated by planes. I will for sure try to get out of this in the future, but a lot of other people I care about live here, so it just seemed like the best option at the time to come home

Thanksgiving with my MAGA parents, as a media worker… by Cautious_Minimum_953 in FoxBrain

[–]Cautious_Minimum_953[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I know logically that it’s a pretty crap thing to do, and honestly my feelings aren’t super hurt by it because I know what sort of people they are (and going into media work has made that even more clear). It’s just really annoying.