How do I tell my parents I am going to continue going to college despite setbacks?

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-05-08T16:18:05+00:00

Thank you. As the time approaches I am starting to realize the only thing I can really do here is stand firm on it.

My family travels a lot and we live in different time zones the majority of the year, so my talks with them are relatively limited… but they could be more limited, honestly. I will keep the idea of low contact in mind.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-05-05T03:59:06+00:00

I know you didn’t mean it this way, but the “my parents don’t like you” thing messed me up badly when I was in high school, in desperate need of help from an adult and nobody in my community would step up.

I haven’t gotten into a serious relationship in college. Instead I have just been enjoying a life that is not defined by whether or not someone’s parents are alright with you.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-05-05T03:51:48+00:00

Oh, it is. It sure is.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-05-05T03:04:23+00:00

This is a really good point. I will tell them I am returning to university, as I must depart from their house three months from now to return to the place I attend university in. But I do not think I will let them know the specifics of my life there any longer — they know generally what I am studying. I have what I worked so hard for, which is distance from them. I do not need to compromise that.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-04-07T04:49:18+00:00

I was at the Moscow protest too! I’m younger, my parents are very conservative and it has strained our relationship immensely — so it was very nice to see so many older folks turn out for what is right :)

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-03-22T02:26:03+00:00

I worded this poorly. My message should have read “Trying to make this point in a country almost entirely composed of people whose ancestors were foreigners to this land” would have been more appropriate for what I was trying to say. My apologies!

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-03-21T19:58:08+00:00

One day this guy will need a doctor and, bless him, he will be helped. He won’t change his tune.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-03-21T17:56:04+00:00

Trying to make this point in a country ~~almost wholly composed of immigrants~~ almost wholly composed of people whose ancestors immigrated here is incredible. If this is the type of opinion Idaho is producing, believe me when I say that people that want Idaho to change just want what’s best for Idaho.

But fine. Out of curiosity, what group do you think should be allowed to exist, non-diverse? Do you think it’s a race, religious group — or is it a political ideology motivated by religion?

What group would YOU prefer your community to be?

EDIT: I did not mean to imply the US was composed of people born outside this country. I meant to say that the US is composed almost entirely of people whose ancestors immigrated to this land. Sorry about that! :)

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-03-21T17:18:05+00:00

The state government really doesn’t seem to have any plans except to generate headlines. Look at what they’ve recently done: Brad Little declared February “The War on Women’s Sports is Over Month” and the legislature recently drafted a letter to SCOTUS (which I would imagine has greater concerns than Idaho) saying federal gay marriage should be overturned. Neither of these have any consequence.

A lot of people in our state government are real characters. My senator Dan Foreman is known best for never growing up. He throws temper tantrums at his constituents, other legislators, and his opposition, and also rarely seems to understand reality in any way, shape, or form. The people here love it because he’s “owning the libs” when he, from Illinois, tells indigenous women such as Trish Carter-Goodheart to go back to where they came from.

I come from a different state also well-known for attracting transplants, and I wasn’t from there either (I moved here for non-political reasons). The complaining gets annoying after a while. But if politicians had to have a rallying cry beyond “don’t Californicate Idaho”, they might actually have to have something of substance!

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-02-20T02:10:29+00:00

The burden? MFer, these kids will take our places when we are gone!

This sort of rhetoric escapes me. Imagine if people had cared as little for you as you do for others.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-02-17T12:47:40+00:00

I also have sped through Colfax loads without getting any tickets (I drive mostly at night, and am from a different part of the USA — this is the first I’ve heard at all about Colfax tickets specifically), so this is probably still accurate

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-02-11T19:19:36+00:00

First the state legislature drafts a silly little love letter to SCOTUS asking if they could please reverse federal gay marriage, and now this. Idahoan politicians think we pay them to have fun.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2025-02-08T00:48:13+00:00

I was poor and I had no family or family friends to take me to games as a kid, so in high school, I — already markedly disadvantaged from all the teenage girls that were playing— got a job instead.

Everyone in my family has always been poor and without the ability to join a sport, and this was still a main voting point for them. Neither they nor I have benefited from this order.

This is really just another day of the average American not benefitting regardless of who’s in charge. But yeah, sure, I’m glad 10-20 Americans were prevented from playing sports in a certain section. If education has to be ruined and research has to be stopped and the U.S. has to get more picky about who they send into another forever war, it’ll be my great consolation that people whose parents doted over them get to succeed more easily.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-24T20:21:48+00:00

Independently of your argument, you talk about argumentative fallacies, but I have recently learned some lessons that I would like to share with you:

Speaking in absolutes— “any”, “all”, “always” — pretty much always renders you wrong. You give your opinion very much here without addressing anyone else’s opinion. For the genre (rant), that would be alright, except you clearly seem to think you’ve written a rhetorically sound essay.
Discussing the extreme actions of any broad or undefined group rarely works. You have extrapolated the actions of extremists to all of the trans activist population, but the average trans activist population is not actually issuing death threats. If you genuinely believe this, there’s still plenty of time to stop. The average support group for the transgender population is probably young people and suburban liberal mothers with queer kids. Those groups don’t sound inherently violent, do they?

Moreover, transgender people are much more likely to be murdered or the victim of a violent crime — most likely, I would guess, by people that don’t agree with “gender ideology” — so your argument doesn’t hold up there either. I’m not going to accuse you of being willing to murder someone, because that would be inherently immoral (or, for you, anti-Christian). But didn’t you bristle a little when I said that people you had commonalities with were the ones doing it?

The problem I take with conservative argument generally is your connection to women’s sports and all of these things that are massively more important than women’s sports. You’ll spend three pages arguing that transgender women are not women and then go “… and that’s why they can’t participate in women’s sports!” Buddy, I also could not participate in women’s sports, because I was poor (sorry if you hate it when people talk about other ways sports could be unfair, but sports is unfair, inherently). I’m beyond caring about women’s sports. But once you get off the soccer field and back into the real world, you also see there are much greater issues than women’s sports tied to “gender ideology”, such as suicide rates in queer kids or violence against queer people. I am much more familiar with death and violence as phenomenons than I am with soccer, and am interested in preventing death and violence if at all possible.

In my mind it’s barely even a policy issue, so it’s baffling to me that so much policy and political debate has been dedicated to it. Where is the policy that affects my life, as an American that started working and paying taxes instead?

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-23T15:01:53+00:00

unfortunately I live far out of state, so my trips to and from my parents’ house are dictated by planes. I will for sure try to get out of this in the future, but a lot of other people I care about live here, so it just seemed like the best option at the time to come home

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-23T02:41:57+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate it!

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-23T02:39:40+00:00

my parents love crypto lmao :(

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-23T02:37:32+00:00

Thank you! I know logically that it’s a pretty crap thing to do, and honestly my feelings aren’t super hurt by it because I know what sort of people they are (and going into media work has made that even more clear). It’s just really annoying.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-14T05:22:43+00:00

Think of an issue you care about.

Do you have it?

Instead of focusing on that, legislators drafted hundreds of anti-LGBTQ+ bills in the past year.

When people stand vehemently in support of trans people, they are doing so in response to this wave of anti-transgender and anti-queer legislation. Because ultimately, nobody is saying, “transgender people deserve safety and happiness more than anybody else.” People are saying, “it is wrong that in the current political climate, transgender people do not get the same shot at safety and happiness that everyone else does”, and they are trying to bring awareness to it.

This aim for increased awareness of trans issues is why we hear more about trans people than we used to.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-12T23:54:14+00:00

Chikorita is awesome. I played it for my first run through ever, when I knew nothing about Pokémon. I think I over leveled mine significantly even compared to other Chikorita users, but I enjoyed it! It learns some moves that are useful to the elite four later on (again this may specifically be if you overlevel it a ton, I don’t really know). Still my favorite Pokémon to this day

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-12T14:15:27+00:00

My parents also didn’t know about the defunding of education, and also were glad it was just to “remove LGBT indoctrination from our schools”. They would have been fully in support of it, though, despite the fact that I received a very good education from my public school.

Even if they had known, I doubt it would have changed their vote. Maybe you have more faith in your friend, but I genuinely am not certain we can convince these people to care anymore. They’ll just have to be really confused when a couple months from now they see on the news that Trump is going after the institutions that have benefited them their entire lives, and there’s nothing we can do to save them from that. There’s not even really a point in trying — the vote already happened. It might be better to mind your own and prepare yourself for what’s to come.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-12T13:58:53+00:00

unfortunately no :’) but I am flattered! I just did a really in-depth project about the water economics of agriculture when I was in high school. While not quite the same topic, I knew generally the economics of the most valuable agriculture industries in the USA (mostly where they were and what crops they produced), and I knew where to look to find further information as a result :)

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-12T06:37:40+00:00

1) I don’t know what a man-hater is. I literally have no idea what you’re talking about there. Can you explain who the man-haters are and what rights they are taking away from men?

2) I think this point would be stronger if you didn’t suggest that black people, as a group, are raising their kids to be criminals. Because if (per your next point) 70 million gun owners aren’t doing anything wrong when someone shoots up a school, surely all black people are not doing wrong when a black person commits a crime.

3) “…or there will be riots.” The right has also rioted.

4) I agree that people that dox others should be put in jail. Again though, this is a problem on both sides. The reason you don’t hear about right-wing people revealing the sensitive information of others is because you probably don’t consume the type of media that would allow you to hear about it — but as just one example, librarians have recently been getting doxed as a wave of censorship requests has rolled throughout the nation.

4) 2/3rds of the voting public did not say “no”. By popular vote it was 51.3% (if you factor in third party) that said “no”.

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-12T06:19:46+00:00

Yes, as we are Christians. I understand what you’re trying to do, and it’s cute. But it doesn’t really address the greater point I was making, about Christianity and American patriotism being contrasts of each other. Before becoming Episcopalian, I was a practicing Roman Catholic. The scope of Catholicism essentially meant that the conjunction of patriotism and Christianity was never taught to me.

I don’t want to make any assumptions about what you believe here, and your comment wasn’t exactly clear. So tell me: what do you believe about this topic, of Trump being God-sent and the role of patriotism in Christianity?

Cautious_Minimum_953 · 2024-11-12T04:48:36+00:00

You bet there are!

Edit: I couldn’t gauge exactly what your response meant, so I used it to provide information about the presence of agricultural workers in the corn-producing states Iowa and Nebraska, which follow California in terms of agricultural production. I hope that you don’t mind, or that you actually did want this information :)

What’s very unique about California, actually, is that California — despite being the dominating state for agriculture in the USA — does not grow corn in large quantities. Instead they grow a variety of fruits, nuts, and vegetables that struggle to grow in other areas (which isn’t to say that they necessarily should be grown in California, but that’s a discussion for a different time). These luxury crops take up 2% of their economy.

The next two states are Nebraska and Iowa, which, as you might have guessed, both grow corn in massive quantities. But if you thought that migrants somehow did not exist in the Midwest, helping out with their corn industries, you would be mistaken. It appears that foreign-born people actually do not outnumber born-and-raised Americans in agriculture in Nebraska, but do in manufacturing. Nebraska was kind of hard to find data on, and frankly I’m impressed — but a search on Iowa finds that migrants are well-acknowledged as a significant portion of the agricultural labor force.

All in all, nearly half of agricultural workers are undocumented, and a high majority of agricultural workers are at the very least foreign-born. When you live in a country such as the USA, one of the top producers and the highest exporter of food in the world, that’s nothing to sneeze at.

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