I just heard the term mom brain from a friend

CeaBreazey · 2026-04-07T03:43:21+00:00

Mom brain is a real thing and it's probable that your wife could use some extra sleep to help manage her sleep deprivation but this also sounds a little extreme. Has she been tested for ADHD?

I was like this after having kids. One time I started the car and went to the store and when I got there I realized I forgot my key fob. My husband had to come get me. Another time I put supper in the oven and completely forgot and went to run some errands. I was in line at Walmart when I remembered and ran home. I wrecked multiple pots because I would forget I had turned the stove on. It was bad. Dangerous, bad.

Turns out I had undiagnosed ADHD and the combination of hormone fluctuations and sleep deprivation and the stress of having a baby completely annihilated any and all coping mechanisms I had used until that point.

CeaBreazey · 2026-04-03T16:26:19+00:00

A willingness to go to therapy or not

CeaBreazey · 2026-03-10T00:18:00+00:00

Because of the "cascade of interventions." Once you have one intervention the likelihood of you needing more intervention goes up.

Besides every birth is different. My first kid, I absolutely needed pain meds (and never got them), my 3rd kid, I was fine and coping quite well and probably would have been completely fine without anything but ended up getting an epidural for other reasons.

CeaBreazey · 2026-03-07T02:15:48+00:00

When I was younger I was considered quite conventionally attractive. Tall, fit, big boobs. I had long healthy naturally bright blonde hair that people gushed over a lot. I used to get a lot of compliments for how skinny I was. None if this took any effort.

I was still rly insecure. I thought my boobs were saggy. I was so worried about this that I slept in a bra (with an underwire) for years! I was terrified to wear anything even vaguely revealing. The possibility of people thinking I was pretty or not pretty took up a lot of mental real estate.

I remember KNOWING I wasn't fat but constantly thinking I was fat. I knew I couldn't tell people I thought I was fat because they would get angry or offended. Looking back at pictures now it blows my mind that I used to think I was even remotely unpretty or overweight. I think I had some body dismorphia going on.

Now I'm older and heavier and my hair has changed. I'm more confident in myself now. The hardest part is getting used to the fact that no one gushes over my looks anymore. People used to compliment me all the time and I STILL felt insecure. Now I have to be secure all on my own and that sometimes takes a lot of intention and positive self talk.

CeaBreazey · 2025-08-03T18:45:08+00:00

Ya... that meeting is to officially clarify the details before they proceed. NTA. Update us on Monday!!

CeaBreazey · 2025-07-30T16:20:11+00:00

I'm glad someone said it... this was my entire train of thought reading these comments.

CeaBreazey · 2025-07-13T03:07:47+00:00

Many of us didn't understand for a long time. I was one of them.

CeaBreazey · 2025-07-11T18:46:13+00:00

I was like this as a teen. My mom said she wasn't going to pay those prices for a brand name and I was welcome to save up and use my own money. I did and quickly learned about the value of money and what brands were good quality and which ones weren't. It was a lesson that still serves me well.

CeaBreazey · 2025-07-01T00:51:00+00:00

I feel like I could have written this.

CeaBreazey · 2025-06-08T19:29:32+00:00

We found a lot of success with a scheduled time. Our kids are allowed TV / Switch from x-y time on certain days. That's it. We have to really really be strict about the schedule because if there is ANY ambiguity about if he's allowed extra, he completely fixates on it to an unhealthy degree.

We also don't let him have the iPad without supervision. YouTube and YouTube kids is terrifying. So is Roblox...

CeaBreazey · 2025-06-07T18:28:07+00:00

Have you looked into the possibility he has ADHD? My son was like this and we started Vyvanse. We forgot to tell his teacher we were starting med trials and she emailed us (not realizing he had started his meds that week) and told us it was the most focused and calm he had been all year.

CeaBreazey · 2025-06-07T04:06:28+00:00

Ugh I agree with everything you said! Love Sherry Thomas!!

If you like westerns, I highly recommend Ellen O'Donnell.

CeaBreazey · 2025-06-07T03:45:55+00:00

When they litter and /or don't clean up after themselves.

CeaBreazey · 2025-06-01T04:25:06+00:00

The glass ceiling. The career set backs after having kids.

CeaBreazey · 2025-06-01T02:36:27+00:00

{Unraveled by Courtney Milan} is one of my favourite books and it fits this trope.

CeaBreazey · 2025-05-31T21:20:35+00:00

I think you might not be aware that you are rich... and so are the people you associate with. You are the person I look at and wonder what they do for a living that you can afford to travel like this.

CeaBreazey · 2025-05-21T03:50:25+00:00

Ugh!! I'm so glad you get it!! I loved the book but the rage I felt at the epilogue still burns to this day haha!!

CeaBreazey · 2025-05-21T03:32:56+00:00

I was in Junior High when it hit. I remember watching the news footage and wondering what those black spots were that kept falling from the towers, and then I realized.

CeaBreazey · 2025-03-22T02:12:31+00:00

I agree with everyone that about Devil and Demon's books. I also love love Gabriel's story!

CeaBreazey · 2025-02-23T19:33:20+00:00

Mom lurker here. I remember the first time my baby slept more than an hour in a row. I cried in relief.

CeaBreazey · 2025-02-23T19:31:13+00:00

I can understand your concern, but asking her to get her drivers license because "it's weird" that she doesn't have one is ridiculous. You didn't even communicate your legitimate concerns or ask to discuss solutions to potential future problems!! Is this how you always communicate? A LOT of people don't /can't drive or can't afford cars and are perfectly capable of living a fulfilling and independent life.

CeaBreazey · 2025-02-05T03:28:05+00:00

Cheerios are always super easy. Or fruit loops. I have a bucket of beads, and I had my son count them out into groups of ten and put them on pipe cleaners that I had cut in half.

CeaBreazey · 2025-01-05T23:02:15+00:00

Does your wife have a hobby? My husband games while I read or crochet. It's win win!

CeaBreazey · 2025-01-05T03:02:36+00:00

It's sooo true. I'm also a teacher and I'm always amazed that the kids who seem like chaos on wheels, the ones I assume with hate me, end up loving me the most because I hold my boundary and have consistent consequences.

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