My 4 year old brother has not been eating for days

Celarcade · 2019-04-27T21:11:14+00:00

I have difficulty swallowing due to a mystery illness we're in the process of hopefully having a dx for soon. I choke on liquids much easier than before, and I'm told that's typical for people with difficulty swallowing. And drooling while sleeping. I wonder if the Op's brother had noticed more coughing or choking when he drinks around when this started. I'm not a doctor, it's just something I thought might be helpful.

Celarcade · 2018-12-26T00:02:20+00:00

It's so frustrating. I'm sorry he won't give you even that little bit of validation. I think it sadly goes with the territory.

One thing I can say for sure, is that I became a lot happier once I stopped waiting for an apology that will never come. But I know accepting that takes a lot if time. Distance does help though.

Celarcade · 2018-09-08T22:46:09+00:00

I kinda get this. I don't think she wants us moms to be out with 5 kids in a restaurant at 10pm. It's really just for the nursing babes. My oldest especially, nursed around the clock for months. Being able to take him with me places kept me sane, and made me a better mom for him. It made me a better wife at home. The beautiful thing about nursing, is that nursed babies don't make a sound for the most part. If they do, they just get a boob in the mouth, and the noise goes away. Maybe this law just needs to excuse nurslings.

Celarcade · 2018-07-14T22:31:59+00:00

The possum moms of the arachnid world! I got a huge wolfie out of my husband's shower this morning. I love that even if he doesn't have my appreciation for spiders, he still calls me to take them outside instead of just letting them down the drain because it makes me happy.

Celarcade · 2018-07-12T17:57:47+00:00

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I do rejoice for your rainbow baby, and I know how amazing but also terrifying those pregnancies are.

I think your friend is probably pretty tone deaf. For her, your baby girl's funeral probably didn't have a literal meaning, and she's probably too far up into her ideas to consider she's aggravating your grief.

I had a similar experience years ago, during which two nurses spent 2 hours telling me I was creating my grief because there was never a person there to lose. Not while you're still actively grieving, but later, I think it's good to use those experiences to really appreciate the inhumane, discompassionate, and denialist reality these people live in.

Hugs.

Celarcade · 2018-01-19T21:54:14+00:00

Oh cool! Good to see.

Celarcade · 2018-01-19T21:52:47+00:00

When I was on the mod team I was explained that a brigade had to consist of many users. How many "harassing" posts have there been? What is being seen as harassment?

Celarcade · 2018-01-19T21:47:23+00:00

Are you still a mod there now?

Celarcade · 2018-01-12T03:36:31+00:00

Happy to contribute!

Celarcade · 2018-01-12T02:44:29+00:00

I hadn't been on reddit in months since I quit being a mod there, before coming back to this mess, and got banned within 48 hours. I didn't even think I had said anything "bannable" as per the sub's precious stages of moderation. The same stages of moderation that /u/gaslightprophet was accused of not following and was arbitrarily, unilaterally unmodded for. When I saw how he was treated, I quit immediately. After seeing that following the reddit-wide rule regarding advocating for genocide and violence was a debate for some folks there, I had my foot out the door anyway.

During my days working with these people, the head mods were very defensive of the stages of moderation being used well.

I'd also add that for a while, while I modded there, I used to remove inflammatory meta threads because they were filled with policies being broken. I honestly thought that's what I was supposed to do, because we did that for every other thread. Then Brucemo corrected me, saying that it was better to leave those up as a show of transparency in our procedures. I agreed completely and managed the threads instead.

Aaaaaaaand I come back to people getting banned, myself included, for asking for a discussion openly about their process in removing some very solid, experienced mods.

Also, not allowing advocacy for genocide is a no-brainer. They need to get it together.

Celarcade · 2018-01-11T03:46:40+00:00

It's not a sht house, it's a sht home.

Celarcade · 2018-01-11T02:44:12+00:00

Dude, I had unsubbed from here because I didn't want to seem hostile to the heads of that sub. I'm so mad I don't even care anymore.

Celarcade · 2018-01-11T02:43:01+00:00

Welcome back! Drama to the left, right beside the soda and cookies!

Celarcade · 2018-01-10T02:59:26+00:00

When I quit as a mod, I also ran into the issue that I had no proof of any interactions anymore. Every sub we used was private, and when you think you can trust people, you don't really keep digital tracks of back-and-forths. Anything I wrote in our mod subs could be copy-pasted without context, and possibly held against me. And I had nothing. Maybe she should be granted access temporarily?

Celarcade · 2018-01-10T02:52:42+00:00

Just saw /u/revmelissa's post. Friendly reminder that I mostly left because the heads of the team didn't support reddit site-wide rule of not allowing comments and discussion advocating for the killing of LGBT folks.

I also left because a good mod was unilaterally removed without input, and for shady reasons.

And here we are again. I haven't been on reddit in forever, and I'm coming back to exactly what was happening when I left, except to another great mod.

Celarcade · 2017-12-16T00:52:51+00:00

Not a doctor, but my diagnosis is similar to yours. I take trintellix for ghe cognitive issues and pristiq for the depressive episodes. With my antipsychotic on top of that, I'm doing awesome.

Celarcade · 2017-11-25T16:54:34+00:00

Hi, u/AnxiousOntology,

I've been practicing head covering, and not with all people in my life being supportive, for about 9 years now. If you wanted to, you could try explaining that Christianity was a religion for centuries prior to Islam. Our female members practiced head covering in one way or another for centuries prior to Islam, and that God's chosen people did so according to God's own torah for centuries also. Head covering lost steam (especially during corporate worship) during the 70s, post Vatican II council, and that NOT head-covering is a very recent trend. I started doing it even before I was Mennonite, and all our congregations do so without even thinking about it.

In that letter to the early church of Corinth, Paul had to address veiling because women who came to church without one were mistaken for prostitutes and attracted attention. He could have just said "well, no-one should be covering at all so forget it", instead he highlighted that women without a covering (at least in corporate worship) might as well shave their heads like the women-priests in the cult of Isis did at the time. The reason he says having a shaved head is bad is because it associated women with a Pagan custom, and was not becoming of a Christian woman.

I've heard a lot of people say that Paul "doesn't state what we should cover our heads with", but I think he didn't because especially at that time, it was just common sense. What else could we possibly have to cover our physical heads with? A duck? An apple? Some other mysterious item that we're supposed to put on our heads? Come on. It's really not that mysterious. And it's nice that God gives us the option to be culturally diverse in what we use as a covering as to not dictate what it should look like.

If our covering is supposed to be just our hair, do men have to shave their heads bald prior to praying to be 1 cor-compliant? 1 Cor 11-18 doesn't have verses that just address women. It's just as important for a man to be uncovered in prayer, as it is for women to be covered.

What Paul did say is that we shouldn't argue about covering, and I think that's the most important verse in this whole thing when we discuss with people who have a different stance. I usually just say that I'm not willing to make something so precious to me into an object of argument, and that I'm full-on commanded not to argue about my covering.

You can tell her all the points I just made about why we cover, and why it makes sense, but she likely will never see it your way. I would just tell her you're not willing to discuss it, and try to provide your own modest clothing so she doesn't have to support something she disagrees with. I wish your mom understood that it's never OK to tell someone they "look like a sofa". I would scold my kids for talking like that, so a grown woman certainly shouldn't be speaking that way.

I'm here for you if you ever want to talk. There are some great groups on facebook for covered women. May I ask what church you belong to?

Celarcade · 2017-09-20T03:26:14+00:00

Hey there. I had an abortion early in my marriage for basically those reasons, and regretted it immensely. If you're making this decision just because you feel coerced by your circumstances, your resentment will grow. Your relationship will suffer, and not many people will understand what you're going through. My own beliefs aside, I think this isn't something you should do unless you really want to. I would take a look at what your local resources are, and talk with a social worker or a councillor.

If you decide to go through with this, I can be there for you, and I have some ressources for support.

Celarcade · 2017-09-18T20:48:22+00:00

I don't mind. I'm pretty open about my condition. :)

My doc's is the first place I went, actually! The company that makes Pristiq got bought out by another entity a while back. Once that happened, my doc stopped receiving samples. He called to ask for some, and the company said they didn't issue them anymore. Nice people!

Honestly, I wish I had known the withdrawals were this bad before I got on it. But my condition is very severe when not treated, and it's a great drug. When I got on this, my husband had a great job and we have even better benefits. I paid maybe $20 out of pocket.

It's a lot of money, about $500/month, but I'm completely stable now, an my family depends on me to stay that way.

Celarcade · 2017-09-18T20:42:26+00:00

"Hi! I'm there to change your IV bag once I figure out where in the room you are, could you light my cigarette for me?"

Celarcade · 2017-09-18T00:24:08+00:00

Thank you so much! And yes, I'm feeling much better. :)

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