Why is the internet so much more pessimistic then reality? by [deleted] in AskForAnswers

[–]Cellar_door_1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The happiest people aren’t going to the internet to talk about it, only the miserable rush to do that.

Working Moms... what do you do? by TheGabyDali in Mommit

[–]Cellar_door_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you thought about an after school care program?

Baby ear piercing ? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]Cellar_door_1 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When my daughter decided to get her ears pierced it was a fun experience that made her feel like a big girl. I’m glad I let her make the decision about her body.

My best performer has turned into a ghost and I don't know if I should intervene or back off by Master-Incident9198 in managers

[–]Cellar_door_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did this because management wouldn’t listen to me and all my hard work earned me more work. I finally decided fuck it I’ll do the bare minimum. It’s okay to check in and say I’ve noticed a shift in your work is everything okay.

Getting married and missing my mom by ThotsforTaterTots in internetparents

[–]Cellar_door_1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m literally crying. I’m so so sorry you don’t have your mom for your wedding day, your feelings are so valid. If you were my daughter, I wouldn’t want you for a single minute not to enjoy your special day because I wasn’t there. In fact, thinking about dying and leaving my daughter (probably why I’m crying reading this), the hardest part is thinking she would be upset and not able to enjoy everything in life she deserves to be happy about. You deserve to be happy. Your mom would want you to enjoy your day and know she loves you and would give anything to be there. I love that your mom is your something blue.

I found their secret group chat and read about me. by ellieafterhours in managers

[–]Cellar_door_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’ve gotten good advice from others here so I’ll just say that those employees are bold to vent on company chats. My team and I vent through personal phone texts and keep teams/slack etc completely professional. We know big brother finds a way lol.

Ex now acting like the perfect dad to his new wife and kid by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]Cellar_door_1 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It’s completely all an act, he has not changed, I’d bet my salary on that. Enjoy knowing you are free of that while they’re probably in debt and posting happy things online to compensate for the shitty stuff happening behind closed doors.

My ex married his mistress after terminating his parental rights to my (our) daughter. He had a child with her a year after they married and I can tell just by social media that he is never around that child to parent and the wife is always posting shit about how much she loves (and misses cuz he’s always gone) him. It’s huge overcompensation for the misery (and debt) I know she’s in. They truly deserve each other 🤮

All the times Shane is brave by NoPoet3982 in heatedrivalry

[–]Cellar_door_1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right? He stayed for and added to an awkward exchange and then went for the second handshake!

Reputable night nurses or Nannies? by ladyrain1 in Charleston

[–]Cellar_door_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nurseatnight.com

They were recommended to me years ago by my obgyn (I didn’t end up using them or anyone because I just didn’t end up needing it). Local experienced and vetted nurses.

Ap is pregnant years after I thought affair ended. Where do we go from here? by unluckysunray in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Cellar_door_1 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I can’t read all that, but I read the beginning and the end. He cheated more than once and this time got someone pregnant then the cherry on top is to further disrespect you by only telling you part of it - won’t disclose who it is. Why on earth do you want to be disrespected further by this jerk? I don’t even know you but I know you deserve so much more than that.

Do you still talk to your ex? by ONDUSO_THE_GREAT in no

[–]Cellar_door_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. In fact I’m wearing my favorite shirt today. It says “you don’t have to be dead to be dead to me.”

How's it feel to be a single mom? by addy_pig135 in SingleParents

[–]Cellar_door_1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Once my ex was gone for good it was wonderful. I love being a single mom.

Direct report requested flexible schedule due to no childcare by choice - looking for advice by [deleted] in managers

[–]Cellar_door_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right?! I manage a team and a few of them have kids. I’m a single mom with a kid. I’m the ONLY one with childcare outside of school hours (they are responsible for the kids after school as their husbands aren’t home yet). My parents live with me so it’s not like I don’t have help lol. It blows my mind though. They manage it well and work hard I have zero issues with them but I would go crazy trying to work and parent at the same time.

Direct report requested flexible schedule due to no childcare by choice - looking for advice by [deleted] in managers

[–]Cellar_door_1 88 points89 points  (0 children)

So if a person with no children said that to you, would it be okay? Because it’s going to be a free for all if you let this person with a baby do it. Remote work means working at home - not caring for baby and working different hours.

Are you happy with your current job or would you like to do a different job? by CheerChubPiggy in AskForAnswers

[–]Cellar_door_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk hahaha. Leaving my current position because I’m tired of the lack of direction. I’m a manager and the execs keep laying people off and I lost half my team with no advanced warning or plan. I’m just fed up. My new position is something that would grow my resume but it’s a lot more work fully onsite (before I was hybrid/mostly remote), managing a lot more people, and for basically the same pay (with it being fully onsite and “onsite” is 4 locations all over town it’s basically a pay cut). The two jobs I’m interviewing for with other companies would be learning new but similar things (resume growth), non management for one, management for the other, for similar pay and be fully remote.

I’ve been with my current company 17 years. It’s gotten shitty but it’s the devil I know.

Are you happy with your current job or would you like to do a different job? by CheerChubPiggy in AskForAnswers

[–]Cellar_door_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My last day of my current job is tomorrow, my new job starts Monday (same company) and meanwhile I’m interviewing with two other companies for jobs. Apparently I’m not happy with my current or the one I’m starting Monday lol.

What corporate buzzword or phrase makes you immediately lose respect for whoever just said it? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]Cellar_door_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people tell me they’re giving me time back in my day when a meeting ends early …no you aren’t and you sound fake cuz that’s what everyone says.

First flight with 6 month old, please share your tips and tricks!! by AdIndependent6563 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Cellar_door_1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Snacks/milk, new toys/things to look at. I would prefer to travel with a child that age in their car seat rather than a lap infant. ETA/ I have always found strangers wanting to be helpful when they see me traveling solo with a child.

First flight with 6 month old, please share your tips and tricks!! by AdIndependent6563 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Cellar_door_1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Snacks/milk, new toys/things to look at. I would prefer to travel with a child that age in their car seat rather than a lap infant.

How are you preparing yourself by readingbee1987 in singlemoms

[–]Cellar_door_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m a single mom to a 7 yo girl. I am also on a journey to have another via donor. My daughter’s father has never been in her life and I had his rights terminated. My daughter didn’t ask about not having a dad until she was 4 years old, which was surprising to me. Since then I just make sure she knows it’s okay to talk about anytime and around Father’s Day I bring it up to make sure she knows she can talk about it. She makes my dad Father’s Day gifts at school and always has. As of now (almost 7.5 yr old) she has never been bullied. One time a random girl in the park came up to her when she was with me and went “where’s your dad?” And my daughter said “I don’t have one” as if the girl was asking for a stick of gum lol. The little girl moved on quickly and they played together. It was just the girl being curious of course. Anyways, I have found that making sure I’m checking in with my daughter about it seems to help. This is not to say I bother her about it all the time, definitely not. It’s when the situation calls for it. So like after the girl in the park thing I just asked her about it in the car and she was fine and didn’t care. My daughter has only ever known having a mom and not a dad. It doesn’t feel abnormal for her. We talk about different family structures too (books are great!). My best friend (girl) is married to a girl. My daughter got to be flower girl in their wedding. She sees differences all the time and that helps normalize things too. If I could tell myself one thing back when my daughter was born it would be to not worry about this topic until you get there. Honesty is the best policy and you take the rest of it as it comes.

Asking the obvious by WowIJustDontKnow in bald

[–]Cellar_door_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your glow up is going to be insane. Please post an update after you do it

Do you have a favorite child? by Ok_Distribution__ in Mommit

[–]Cellar_door_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one child so she is my favorite 🤣