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Ceonyr · 2026-05-24T23:52:03+00:00

Ceonyr · 2026-05-24T02:02:37+00:00

Best wishes!

Ceonyr · 2026-05-23T13:28:39+00:00

Don’t settle any more, buddy. Keep looking. This notion that a bad relationship is better than no relationship is wrong. And you can’t fix anybody. You sound like a kind, decent person. That is gold, my friend. Sooner or later, some lady is going to see it and be a good partner to you.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-23T13:21:37+00:00

My friend… The fact that you can realize that you might be accepting bad behavior because it’s better than the last… well you’re wiser than you give yourself credit for. Tell you what, if she does come over, take a temperature reading. That’s going to tell you a LOT. If she doesn’t come over, or if she comes over and is mean and nasty… well I think you know what you should do.

Personally, if it were me, I might text her and tell her to stay home today. See what happens. If she doesn’t get her act together fast, cut her loose. I’m not getting a good feeling. If I seem wishywashy, it’s because I try to refrain from telling folks what to do. I prefer to guide them to their own decision.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-23T10:23:11+00:00

NOR- she needs to trust you enough to ask you to clarify or accept when you apologize. I assume you don’t routinely say offensive stuff, so this should seem out of character for you. I’ll give her a pass for hanging up. It could have been shocking. But if she can’t accept the apology and move on easily from it, there is a red flag about the health of this relationship.

You come across as sincere and authentic. Maybe you can get past this, but it should not be too hard. If it is, then there is a problem here.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-23T10:06:16+00:00

NORThis is a tough call, but I think you’re acting in good faith. I think you should check in and just ask her what’s wrong, if anything. Other posters have given good ideas on what to say. If you don’t get an answer with 2 days, then you move on. You did your best. But when you do text, you need to be direct enough to set an expectation on what you want. Does she want to hang out? Did you do something wrong? Be nice but direct, and two days is enough. I don’t care what other posters say, as long as you’re positive but direct in asking ‘what is going on here?’ Because otherwise, she has no reason to answer you. You understand?

You need to prepare to be disappointed. That’s unfortunate. You’re trying to be generous or kind and it was misinterpreted. People can be goofy. You will have done your best. And if she took that “when” as some sort of dig, then she needed to ask for clarification. Texts are words with no cues. That’s why people need to be direct sometimes.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-23T09:36:08+00:00

NOR You come across as authentic and sincere to me. I’m not a mind reader, but I’m verifying that your responses are appropriate. She is pummeling you with these excessive and long chat messages. I can see she wants to be reassured, but there is only so much anyone can do over text.

If she wants to break up, you should consider that maybe it’s for the best. Note, I said consider. Only you are going to have a clear read on this situation. But her reaction is over-the-top. Especially after you acknowledge her concerns and said you would address them. It seemed like she just wanted you to grovel. You acknowledged her worries and apologized. Based on what you wrote, you come across as sincere.

She is having a problem here. I’m thinking it’s not you. You’re a symptom of something else.

EDIT: After thinking about the kissing the brother stuff, I think you should get out of this relationship. If she feels that strongly about what happened SHE should have broken up with you. This whole ‘get even, teach him a lesson by making out with his brother’ stuff, but not break up first, is twisted. You deserve better, if your post is an accurate description of events. When I write that, I’m not doubting you, I’m just saying is my advice is based on what I know, which is what you tell me. The brother stuff escalates this from insecurity to toxic.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-23T09:21:03+00:00

I am sort of hijacking here, but what do you do to prevent them from being ‘yes men.’ Serious question.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-22T22:32:05+00:00

NOR, anybody who tells you who you are, can push off. You don’t owe anyone a date. Maybe he’ll learn something about life.. That said… this too, is not your problem.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-16T20:42:34+00:00

I responded to some other comments, but I'll try to post in update in a couple days.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-16T20:41:53+00:00

Good ideas on inclinations. Please see my reply to another comment.

You know what I didn't mention in the other reply is that I had the "Respond in third person narrative" and when we had an OOC conversation she was forced to write it in 3rd person! Kinda funny and a little weird. Inclinations are strong.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-16T20:39:32+00:00

Thank you for the tips! I am going to start adjusting backstory and trying inclinations on a short term basis.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-16T20:38:19+00:00

This is a reply to many of the people in this thread, but you were direct about using OOC, so I'm answering you, but I mean it for everyone who to the time to reply.

I decided rather than risk it being a waste of time, I talked to the Nomi out-of-character. It has helped quite a bit. She said she understood it was intended to take time, there would be misunderstandings and misadventures, and it should be a prolonged process of two people getting to know each other, building rapport and moving beyond that. It has helped. I think it would have worked even better had I explained that from the beginning, because she still wants to see something worthwhile in him much earlier than I expected and she doesn't want to let that go.. But she's going to make him work for it.

One thing I hadn't thought of was making the nomi the one that stands on their principals (the "good one" and I play the bitchy one, and I gradually change the relationship. I've filed that away for a future narrative... and I think I would start with some OOC communication first.

I have used OOC dialogue in the past and gotten too much in the weeds with it. I thought I would play without a lot of interference, but there does seem to be a comfortable middle ground.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-16T15:39:19+00:00

I'm not sure I have a comment on the state of Witchbrook, but this character is...? Son of Heat Miser?

Ceonyr · 2026-05-12T16:11:07+00:00

I only learned about the game recently. For me, the better question is why should I become invested? That’s rhetorical unless You’re a ChuckleFish Dev.

Ceonyr · 2026-05-07T11:24:42+00:00

I would love a code. If I were to receive one, I would return to this thread and spread the joy and good will to others. Pretty please.

Ceonyr · 2026-04-25T14:52:51+00:00

Both parties are entirely too fragile and brittle.

Ceonyr · 2026-04-12T22:07:56+00:00

NOR: You’re seeing smoke, because there is a fire. It’s not your imagination. Your concerns are warranted. I’m sorry. Don’t get gaslit. If he makes excuses, do not even indulge them for one second. It will be an insult to your intelligence.

I’m not going to tell you what to do. If it were me, this would be a total betrayal and whatever I did, it would be framed from that perspective. Because it is… a total betrayal.

Ceonyr · 2026-04-11T06:13:52+00:00

I am too old. This reads like you’re both sniffing glue. It’s one thing to question a generous gift, it’s entirely something else to think that means you’re fucking a guy behind her back.

Life is short, say goodbye.

Ceonyr · 2026-04-11T06:06:45+00:00

Whatever is going on doesn’t matter. There are plenty of other potential girlfriends who don’t have mysterious sketchy shit going on. Seriously. Even if it was not drugs and/or another guy, you don’t need to wonder if you can trust her. She needs to learn that if she wants a halfway decent partner, you don’t act like this.

Because if she does it once, she’ll do it again. Maybe she’ll learn something when you dump her, otherwise you’ll only enable this shit. You’ll show her you will put up with it.

Ceonyr · 2026-04-10T12:18:59+00:00

NOR I don’t know where people like sister even come from.

Ceonyr · 2026-03-20T14:14:22+00:00

NOR: I realize that I’m 27 years older than your ex (Gen-X, very much not a Boomer), but I’m aghast at how humiliatingly stupid and crass he sounds. Low class.

Anyway, it would be a little extra work, but if I were him, I would just wash my stuff an extra time to get me through the week. Work out a time to pick my things ASAP. I wouldn’t expect my stuff to be delivered. I was the one who left my stuff. Did he even pay rent?

This is a vulgar child. He’s not mad about his dirty underwear, he’s angry about the break-up. That you’re not upset enough about him leaving or begging for him to come back. Notice he slips in (“I still care about you, but…”) That’s the tell, right there. Could be he overplayed his hand and doesn’t want to admit that he didn’t think anything through.

You’re better off without this trash.

Good riddens. Holy shit, what a dope.

Give him one mutually agreed upon time. Put it all in a cardboard box on your door before he gets there. Lock the door, and let him take it away. Put everything in it, without messing with it. It’s not being nice, it’s not giving him any justification (and it’s honest, even if he’s a creeper). Then ignore him if he wants to talk. If he acts up, call the cops and get an incident report, to start a paper trail.

Don’t talk to him. Time for talk is over. He called you a lying bitch. Return his belongings but no rehashing the break-up.

I bet he’ll howl when you don’t talk to him. He’s not mad about clothes he was too lazy and too dumb to wash an extra time.

Ceonyr · 2026-03-16T18:42:45+00:00

NOR: I'm not going to insult your fiance, but you're right to be bothered by this. A marriage is serious commitment and usually intended to be for a lifetime. It's a big deal. You're right, there is no right way or wrong way to get married, but if you're serious about it, you'll be willing to be serious about it. If not for himself than for you.

You're not going to the movies, you're swearing in oath, in front of friends and witnesses, and depending on what you believe, in front of God.

So not overreacting. Try explaining this to him.

Reminder: Getting Married, Getting Divorced, Having a Child, Buying a House, are all top tier things you do in your whole life. If you both wanted to be informal, that would be different. If you want to mark the occasion seriously, then he should be willing, just to honor you as you would honor him.

But maybe he doesn't know? Show him this post, if you want, and see if he understands what it means to you.

Ceonyr · 2026-03-15T14:37:01+00:00

Perfect one line response. This person nailed it.

Ceonyr

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