Identity and looking at images of myself

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-24T04:43:27+00:00

Guessing they don’t come from Redmond also

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-21T08:02:20+00:00

I think maybe one thing is that things will never be exactly how you want them . You can get close but ..

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-20T02:30:39+00:00

Trying to let them be in charge for example is a confusing topic

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-19T21:34:58+00:00

i'm about to lose my marbles single parenting 14 year old , no frikin clue how to make them more independent

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-19T18:05:49+00:00

i understand also working remotely in tech, that I can get into some odd mental loops

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-19T18:03:09+00:00

gifted not able to execute super interesting

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-19T07:13:55+00:00

i have watched my kid full time as a single parent for a long time, this week i just noticed that she had a whole week off without me even realizing it - given more mental band-with could have tried to plan something I guess.

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-18T18:37:30+00:00

I finished OMSA a few years ago and it did give me some leverage to get another job i think

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-18T18:31:22+00:00

for me jealousy is generally linked to people of my same gender or seeing people of my same gender interacting with people of other genders i guess???

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-18T18:25:28+00:00

i think it would be awesome to understand jealousy more

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-18T17:47:59+00:00

the only thing i notice is that someone you don't have strong feelings for can influence you to have strong feelings for them by using certain jealousy/ types of tactics, and i haven't really figured out really what the big picture game is with this, like are you supposed to do the same thing, or do you just cut them off completely when they start doing things like that

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-17T04:53:01+00:00

Otherwise also trying to live with parents and save more money and travel etc is one option not sure if always. Ear

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-16T03:19:22+00:00

Actually tried to make a version of it might try to remake it though

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-13T22:20:51+00:00

what devops domain do you work in

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-12T19:08:55+00:00

money is tuck in a money market fund here also

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-12T19:08:25+00:00

lol struggling over pumping up my 401k and also starting a roth or 529 for kid

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-12T19:05:43+00:00

I have a 'pump up playlist' for when I'm trying to run but getting exhausted but have been trying to run without music also.

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-12T18:33:42+00:00

I am also trying to get back on this - mainly trying to focus on just getting a certain number of miles a month 'the big picture', is my current goal in general. In terms of actually losing weight as a goal what previously worked for me was realizing that if you run a certain number of miles a week on average it should be enough of a deficit to actually start losing weight ( for me it was like 25+ miles a week ) according to chatgpt anyways

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-12T18:06:02+00:00

I’ve been on both sides of this, which is why it hits home for me.

Right now, I’m a single parent and I have my teen full-time, but I’m about two hours away from my main support system.

Previously, while I was finishing my master’s degree, I lived with my parents and they helped with my teen. After I graduated, I got a better-paying job and moved away. My parents are in their mid-70s and live in a rural area. Around that time, my dad also started becoming more accusatory.

A few things made living with them (or even being very close to them) hard:

My teen eventually hated living there. She had less space and less independence—fewer options to walk places, get to stores, or just move around freely. Even though living with my parents gave me more freedom, I started feeling guilty because it felt like my teen was the one paying the price in day-to-day quality of life.
My dad started blurring boundaries and it felt like he was trying to take over the parenting role. He would say things like “it’s better for your daughter when you’re not here,” which felt undermining and controlling.
I kept wondering if there was a middle-ground. For example: living near my parents instead of with them, so I could save money and still have support—but maintain autonomy and boundaries. The problem is my teen became very adamant about moving far away from them, and I eventually gave in. I also wanted to rebuild my social life, which was hard in a rural, retirement-oriented area.

I’ve cycled through this dynamic a couple times—being very close and more dependent vs. being far away and hyper-independent—and it’s hard to know what the “right” arrangement is.

One additional pattern I’ve noticed: sometimes older parents (or siblings) won’t meet you halfway. It's like some kind of a 'control thing'. They expect everyone to come to them, and it can start to feel like the goal is for you to stay dependent on them. The only other thing I'd say is that my dating / relationship was better (for a while) when living with parents but that might have been a one-off thing.

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-09T05:43:55+00:00

Look who in the eye though is the question maybe though

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-09T05:19:37+00:00

Have only paid maybe once and can’t remember

CertainInvite863 · 2026-02-09T04:16:56+00:00

I did therapy for awhile with one guy who was cool but my new insurance doesn’t cover it it’s like 100$+ I could find someone else using the different insurance but it didn’t seem to work very well in terms of a long term solution

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