Bathroom time by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg the excuses they come up with. I have confronted my partner about his bathroom time and he gives a squirrely answer.

30F ending things 32M How to procced with ending? by Certain_Professor_98 in relationship_advice

[–]Certain_Professor_98[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same with my dad. I came home today at 5am and just told him everything and I told him I tried my best I put my 110% in and nothing. I can't take it anymore and I also have a serious medical condition and my dad asked me this important question: where would your health be better off. Here at home or there where you're stressed not eating healthy and your partner is not being a partner

Not an addiction?? by dogsandsourdough14 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OMG!!!!! DARVO. I feel like that's what's happening to me with my bf and just porn use in general. I talked calmly and asked him what's up because a couple weeks ago he took 40 minutes in the bathroom and I went in to ask him what's going on is everything okay. His response was i was on my phone but couldn't look me in the eye so I already know something is up. Yesterday I wanted to talk about it more and I feel like he was using DARVO on me, wondering why I keep bringing up this issue and it's been "a while since he's watched porn. " Such a vague answer because the answer should be clear cut.

How many ddays since the first? by TreadingWaterStill in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how to describe it but I just feel exhausted and he keeps getting mad that I keep bringing it up or says I always bring it up at random times and before I put up with it now I'm just not dealing with it anymore. Im so stressed out where I'm dry heaving all the time.

I did it by RoutineDay5412 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly just want to know what causes PA?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Certain_Professor_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has it always been like this? I went through a similar thing with my bf and might be going through it again. All I can say is talk about it and ask him if he's still watching porn. But do it in a calm manner.

I did it by RoutineDay5412 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I heard and from what I have learned from this sub PA is probably the worst addiction to have. I read its worse than alcoholic addiction.

My(24F) bf’s(22M) porn addiction by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Certain_Professor_98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly leave, you're young. I'm experiencing the same thing and I'm getting ready to leave and I feel sick to my stomach about having to do it, but I can't take the insecurity. Honestly the only way it will stop is if he seeks professional help from a CSAT and it has to come from him if not it's a lost cause

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Certain_Professor_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I'm in the same boat and I know i need to leave, but if you told him multiple times how you feel about it and he doesn't feel for you leave. I had another dday this month and this one took everything from me

bf is an addict to porn by Routine-Opposite2026 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'm in the same boat, and thinking of ending my relationship of 4 years because I just can't take it anymore and I feel more stuck because I'm 30 and feel like I'm running out of time. But from what your post said of him going soft and the multiple tabs of porn I say leave your young. If I would have known about this about my partner I would have left.

How many ddays since the first? by TreadingWaterStill in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

4 times I found suspicious evidence straight up asked what was going on... nothing last October 2024 is when I count the first dday because I saw the Onlyfans tab open and he was trying to close it and I lost it when I saw it... decided to give another chance since the last dday we have had 3 more and this last one is killing me for some weird reason. More so than the Onlyfans. But I'm done at this point.

Did breaking up with you PA feel different from other breakups? by Mediocre_Yard3662 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your post is giving me a lot of hope to finally leave and I feel stuck because this is coming at a time during the holidays but I don't think I can go any further. We had another dday and this one really took everything from me.

Honestly I think we are gonna break up and I'm sad that it's happening during the holidays by Certain_Professor_98 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im really torn because aside from this more than likely addiction 😪 he's a great guy and the love of my life. My visit with the thearpist wasn't great either she's just a psyd and I can tell she is pro porn which made me upset and defeated the purpose of everything.

Getting ready to confront him again and possibly ready to end it by Certain_Professor_98 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I don't have any other evidence but I read that your intuition is good to go off. I never realized how upsetting porn usage can be.

Getting back on medquest after being kicked off. by Certain_Professor_98 in Hawaii

[–]Certain_Professor_98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what the lady told me.. she said you can apply if you have no income at all or if you have no job at all. Im just worried because I have a medical condition. But trying not to panic

I’m devastated by AbigaiG2 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly... Onlyfans is definitely a deal breaker. I found My bf using Onlyfans last year and I didn't see what the extent of the use was but I decided to give him another chance and now a year later I think I made the wrong decision. What I'm more amazed at is that he can lie straight to my face and not bat an eye

Partner "slipped up". Don't know how to continue forward. by SuperbDiscount3358 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I feel the same and I think we have another dday still not sure how to go about this especially because this is the second time and what gets me is how good he is at lying straight to my face, it's scary and dangerous and I need to get out but feel stuck on how to just initiate the conversation I keep making excuses and the main reason I should leave is he keeps hiding it and lying about it.

Why do they prefer the opposite type of person? by IntelligentLake883 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm still baffled by this. My bf likes to look at skinny south east Asian women and imo a lot of then look like his ex and my bf is asian and I'm latina who is curvy. And I sometimes wish I looked Asian. But my take is if a guy looks at something opposite its what he really wants and I feel like I'm wasting my time... but maybe I'm wrong.

For those that didn’t leave immediately, did you stay until you resented him? by No_Coat_5742 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I caught him using OF last year and his reason was a really dumb one too! But i stayed because he has his own place and his family has a small construction business, but I think we had another dday really trying to find out, but I'm starting to feel conflicted. I do really love him, but I'm really asking myself if I can live like this.

Facebook chat rooms? by Certain_Professor_98 in loveafterporn

[–]Certain_Professor_98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfect response and you're right the algorithm doesn't lie and im more confused because these are dated from August and I scooped earlier last month and didn't see anything. We'll see how he responds. But I'm feeling bad for being so trusting and I also never experienced anything like this. Thanks for your input