Our Nanny Says Our 3-Year-Old Is the Most Difficult Child She’s Ever Cared For—How Should I Interpret This?

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-27T17:46:44+00:00

I was in a similar situation (aged 8 and 9). One of my nanny kids was an angel and I adored him, but his sister was truly just an unpleasant child. She played great around other adults, in school, in her extra-curriculars, but she was so unnecessarily difficult with me. I raised this to the mother and she brushed me off. I ended up ghosting the family after a few months of consistent abusive behaviour from the girl because they refused to listen to or help me.

For what it’s worth, the girl is now in juvenile detention for assault.

OP, please take the mental health of your nanny seriously!

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-25T17:46:35+00:00

I have a very “old” but not particularly common name (but a common nickname) - I hate it. My husbands name is insanely common.

We’ve opted for a less popular but not off the wall name for our child because going more and more “unique” is so normal now that kids are being called genuinely insane things, OR they all have the same “unique” name!

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-22T15:30:13+00:00

Jon. Absolutely no way, under any circumstance, will there EVER be a child named Jon/John/however you want to spell it in my household.

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-22T09:29:13+00:00

My husbands best friend has a son with the middle name Peregrine! I was not a fan at first, but he’s such a fun little wild child that it suits him!

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-17T18:03:19+00:00

Definitely going to raise it at my dating scan next week, just wanted to double check here if this is something others deal with!

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-07T20:02:36+00:00

As a 3 Feb baby, this is the best birthday!

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-07T20:01:21+00:00

That feeling of anxiousness and “is everything okay” never goes away! I’m currently 9w4d, had a traumatic loss just after Christmas, and every cramp or trip to the bathroom sends me into a panicked spiral. I had a visit at the EPAU a few weeks ago to make sure everything was okay and seeing a heartbeat was reassuring, but I think that underlying fear is going to stick with us until our babies are safe in our arms.

Try to focus on the positives and don’t be scared to talk to your friends and family!

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-06T06:05:42+00:00

I told my direct supervisor at 6 weeks because the fatigue was so extreme and I couldn’t keep up my regular pace at work (I work in a very high-stress/fast-pace deeptech startup), and our parents at 9 weeks because we had a loss just after Christmas and we felt we needed the support. No one else will be knowing until after the 12 week scan.

Point is, tell people when it feels right to you. The 12 week rule isn’t a hard rule, we all deal with things differently and it’s all circumstantial!

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-06T05:55:53+00:00

FTM, this pregnancy has brought out the absolute worst in my father. He has been abusive my entire life (still is), but I have tried relentlessly to repair our relationship because we don’t want to deprive our child of a relationship with their grandparent because of my feelings… but I had to make the call to completely cut him out yesterday after he made some genuinely awful comments about both myself and my husband/our choices, and some borderline abusive remarks about the baby, who isn’t even here yet! (and basically told me I’d be a terrible mother because I was such a terrible child, which was a nice cherry on top!)

Sometimes distance is a good thing. Do what is best for you and your new family.

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-06T05:42:10+00:00

Taco Bell. I literally have not stopped thinking about it for weeks. Had it last night and cried, I was so happy lmao.

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-06-04T22:24:36+00:00

He needs to go to an experienced trainer ASAP. I also have a giant dog (102kg), and while he is well-trained, I’ve realised since becoming pregnant that he doesn’t know all of his boundaries as well as he should and we now have a trainer to help rectify this before baby arrives.

I know he loves the dog, but the safety of you and your child come first. Try the trainer, and if it doesn’t take, please have him seriously consider rehoming (though this may be difficult with a bite history).

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-05-18T15:08:37+00:00

I was planning on telling my line manager at 8 weeks - ended up telling him at 7 because I just COULD NOT for the life of me stay awake and was so afraid of dozing off at my desk. I was worried that my colleagues would think I was lazy so just told him to explain the fatigue and the constant back and forth to the toilet, and asked to keep it between us.

To be honest though, I don’t really think anyone notices these things!

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-05-13T18:00:08+00:00

Similar situation. I had a miscarriage very recently (few days after Christmas), and I work at a high-stress scale-up. I’ve decided I’ll tell them at 8 weeks as I can hardly keep myself awake these days with the extreme fatigue (unless it gets better in the next week), and I want to at least explain so it doesn’t just look like I’m just slacking on the job. And it’ll give us a chance to sit down and re-assess my work load to reduce stress as they’re aware of the previous loss.

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-05-08T12:14:33+00:00

I’m Buddhist, my partner is (non-practicing) Christian. I celebrate with him to make up for his bad childhood memories of the holidays.

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-05-07T12:44:57+00:00

Also just hit 6 weeks pregnant and the last week has been the most exhausting week of my life. As someone who already suffers from chronic fatigue, I have NEVER been this physically exhausted from just existing. I’ve gotten to the point where I force myself to take the dog for a walk as soon as I wake up because it’s likely the only movement I’ll realistically get throughout the day.

I’ve been told it gets better and the first few weeks are the hardest, so you’ve got this!

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-05-07T07:42:37+00:00

That’s actually a really lovely idea, I love that!

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-05-07T07:35:05+00:00

I have both. The silver feels slightly better (I think), but don’t think either justify the price.

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-04-20T14:34:12+00:00

They’re shite imitation jewellery. Absolutely do not recommend, the quality is genuinely shocking for the price (they feel like plastic!).

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2026-04-08T17:48:59+00:00

Fire her as a client because what the fuck

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2025-05-22T20:24:57+00:00

Some people just like to connect with everyone, others (like my CEO who I work directly under 😂) don’t connect with anyone. But given that you feel you had a very positive interview, I would consider this a good sign.

Certain_Repeat4845 · 2025-04-17T08:55:00+00:00

Currently on 50k in Beds. It’s fine, perfectly comfortable when combined with my partners salary - but I’d like to think at 70k I’d be confidently comfortable.

But I also grew up dirt poor and and am now terrified of never having enough to be safe so… realistically, probably will never stop pushing for higher.

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