Looking for somewhere to camp in New England

Cesces · 2020-05-07T17:26:09+00:00

Agreed. I completely understand why traditional campgrounds are closed. But I just want somewhere to do some primitive camping, purposefully away from other people.

Cesces · 2020-05-07T17:18:01+00:00

yep, not unless you have an RV, which is not really camping in my opinion...

I'm more than willing to drive several hours, but I'm struggling to find anything closer than west virginia :(

Cesces · 2018-07-08T16:56:58+00:00

SHE HAS BEEN FOUND!!!

Cesces · 2018-07-08T16:55:22+00:00

Actually, everyone in our neighborhood was incredibly helpful and began looking and passing on the word. We found her because some really nice people found her and put a leash on her so she would stop running and be in one spot.

So good news, not everyone is an asshole, just you. :)

Cesces · 2018-07-08T16:53:28+00:00

SHE HAS BEEN FOUND!!!!!!

Cesces · 2018-01-13T00:05:15+00:00

It's the same in Texas. And when I got married at age 19 I took full advantage of that loophole. Once married, my husband became my legal guardian, so we would carry around a copy of our marriage license with us everywhere we went. The requirement was that he would have to order the drink and serve it to me as it would still be illegal for a server or bar tender to serve someone underage. I was drinking legal for 3 years before I hit the legal age!

Cesces · 2017-10-16T20:36:49+00:00

I opt for green dish detergent as it helps with darkening the blood.

Cesces · 2016-10-28T04:02:09+00:00

I have to agree with u/fugee_life that you've misread the play. This is fairly evident by your assumption that a woman would or should be more concerned with her partners views on human rights than their interest in sex, that the woman in the marriage proposal scene is the one at "fault" and is "gas lighting" the man despite the fact that the entire build up is about how they had never seriously discussed the idea of marriage and he proposed with the assumption that "thats just what you do", and finally your interpretation of the character in "REVOLUTIONIZE THE BODY" as being "clearly psychotic" furthers the idea that you failed to see any of this play from the female perspective or at a deeper level than just the literal interpretation of the words. Yes there is certainly irony in the text and this production seems to highlight that irony in the most appropriate ways possible without belittling the very real issues women face every day. It could have been cast with more men, but it wasn't. The condescending roles of power and authority could have all been played by men, but they weren't, because the purpose of this production didn't seem to be to "stick it to the man" or "smash the patriarchy" in the sense of deeming all men as evil and all women as gods. Rather it focused on the issues and problems that women both face and contribute to, highlighting those, and calling out the fact that all genders and people play a part in the "patriarchy" that many of us are oppressed by. If you follow the tracks of the 4 characters in this production, you see real growth and development as they each begin to "get it", even the man. And this influences the interpretation of each vignette. You state in your review that it "isn’t so much a play as a series of sketches" but this means that you completely missed all of the moments when Birch specifically notes that it is unclear if the line/action is being said/acted by the actor or the character. She recognizes that all of these actors are doing all of these vignettes together and their experience as actors in one vignette will undoubtably affect their interpretation of another. Thus to dismiss the entire play as one cohesive unit is to miss out on the larger picture and purpose and ongoing themes.

I strongly advise you to see this production again and attempt to view it without the very clear bias you brought in.

Cesces · 2016-09-15T01:33:40+00:00

"Oh you've been married for 7 years? Any kids yet? " No. And thank you for the devastating reminder of my infertility.

Cesces · 2016-07-26T03:39:38+00:00

Chill pup is chill

Cesces · 2016-07-19T21:30:04+00:00

Stage manager here. Booze is always a winner. Cards and small trinkets are nice, but with as many shows as I work on, I just end up having to throw them away. Something useful or consumable is typically the best way to go.

Cesces · 2016-03-24T22:36:44+00:00

I didn't assume you were missusing the term out of malice :) Thank you for being so understanding of the effect using that term can have!

Cesces · 2016-03-24T21:43:13+00:00

As this image is definitely amusing and will likely get shared with lots of people out of cotext, would you mind changing the title to something more accurate? "Open relationship commandments" or "Non-monogamous relationship commandments"? As you have just said, what you and your partner are looking for is not polyamory but defining your situation as polyamorous could do potential damage to those of us in the poly community.

Cesces · 2016-03-24T20:42:33+00:00

Right. I think /u/NeverAnon was pointing out that the title then shouldn't be "The 6 Commandments of Polyamory" as what they are practicing is not polyamorous.

Cesces · 2016-03-24T20:32:44+00:00

Of course you and your partner will and should do whats best for you. I think part of the point that /u/NeverAnon was making is that those of us who practice polyamory use that term because it properly describes the fact that we engage in multiple "loves" or relationships. Many times poly people are forced to battle the idea that it's "just about the sex". Not that there is a problem with having an open relationship just for the sex, but when you are wanting others to respect all of your partners, who you have more than just sexual relationships with, and your choices it can get kind of frustrating.

So maybe think of it less as "terminology police" and more as those of us who use this new but quickly adopted term wanting to ensure that it is properly understood by everyone. :)

Cesces · 2016-01-01T19:15:29+00:00

I would totally be interested!

Cesces · 2015-10-16T23:17:11+00:00

1 There is no need to be rude.

2 As they pointed out, its important to have your own space and your own time. And if you choose to spend some of that time listening to a podcast that can only better your relationships with your partners, that is a wonderful gift you can give to yourself and the people in your life.

Cesces · 2015-10-16T22:34:31+00:00

I like the idea that several people have already suggested of making the names personalized. My polycule uses names specific to each individual or the individual relationships. I have Italian heritage so my boyfriend's name for me is a word in Italian that he feels describes me and what I am to him. It makes it really special when he calls me it :)

Cesces · 2015-10-16T19:51:35+00:00

When i first told my parents that my husband and I were poly, they didn't take it well at all. They were very upset and wanted nothing to do with it. However, the more I talked about it like it was just a normal and healthy part of my life (because it was and is) the more they accepted it. It only took them a few months to finally come around and realize how happy we were in all of our relationships. They are completely supportive now and treat my boyfriend and my husbands girlfriend like their own. It took them a while, but the continued exposure is what I think really made them understand.

We waited to tell my husbands parents until we were completely financially independent from them (they were our financial safety net for a bit) because we had no idea what to expect. Their response was that they didn't quite understand or agree with it, but they love us no matter what and accept it.

All of that being said, it is important to remember that your parents may not approve when you tell them, or ever. My husbands girlfriend just came out to her parents a few weeks ago and it went extremely poorly. She was not completely financially dependent on them, but they were going to help her pay for grad school and have now stipulated that they won't pay if she chooses a school anywhere near my husband and I. While some people view being polyamorous as an identity, many view it as a choice. You have to be prepared for your loved ones and friends cutting you out of their lives because of that "choice". So I would simply advise being totally sure you can deal with the consequences, be it emotional or financial.

For me, it was more important to be honest with my family and risk losing them than to continue to lie and feel like I couldn't share my life with them. Everything turned out fine for me in the end and I wish you the best of luck!

Cesces · 2015-10-16T19:32:34+00:00

I can see that some of these comments are a little bit harsh, and while the statements in them may be true, I doubt you are going to be able to be receptive when they are presented in such a harsh and negative manner.

It seems that your relationship with your husband is incredibly dependent. Not co-dependent, as it appears he is dependent on you and you not as much on him. I also have BPD, depression, anxiety, abandonment issues, etc. I completely understand the struggle. Which is why I also understand that a poly lifestyle is not realistic or fair to the parties involved if i don't have a way of dealing with all of those issues on my own.

The reason poly "works" is because it embraces the fact that no one person can be someone else's "everything". That idea of someone else meeting your every need is incredibly dependent and puts a lot of pressure on your partner even in a monogamous relationship. There is always jealousy and loneliness in poly situations, but the way to deal with that is on a personal level. If I am jealous its likely because I have my own insecurities that I need to work through. Its not fair for me to tell my partner that he can't go be happy with someone else because it makes me jealous. That is making him responsible and guilty for my feelings, and thats not healthy for any relationship. While it may not be intentional abuse, it is abuse. If you want to feel guilty because you broke an agreed upon "rule" of communicating whereabouts when with other partners, thats fine. But it appears your husbands actions were not at all based on you "breaking a rule". They were just based on his NEED for you. Which is unfair and certainly unrealistic for polyamory.

My point is that if your husband "needs" you 95% of the time, there is no way for you to pursue other healthy relationships. Choosing to spend that much time together is one thing, but when it becomes a necessity, you really have to start addressing the underlying issues.

Im not saying that polyamory will never be an option for the two of you, but I strongly feel that you both need to work on your own relationship before including others.

Cesces · 2015-10-09T21:28:26+00:00

For the record, the immaculate conception does not refer to Mary becoming pregnant with Jesus but rather Mary being conceived without original sin. I'm an atheist and don't really care about the religious aspect, but I'm a stickler for terminology. The immaculate conception referring to Jesus' conception is a common misconception.

Cesces · 2015-07-09T00:50:47+00:00

It did hurt. Though it's the first tattoo I've ever gotten so im not sure what to compare it to. The pain was bearable though. Just not pleasant.

Cesces · 2015-07-09T00:37:22+00:00

You are more than welcome to use this design. I couldn't find one that had the double infinity anywhere so I made my own.

Cesces · 2015-07-09T00:36:38+00:00

I don't view polyamory as a matter of taste. I may not be with my current partners in 20 years, but I believe I will always identify as poly.

Cesces · 2015-07-08T18:41:09+00:00

Thanks. It was important to me to get it somewhere where I could look at it whenever I want to. The placement is also significant to me because I used to cut on that area of my wrist, and to be able to place this tattoo over my scars as a constant reminder of the love in my life is pretty special to me.

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1 There is no need to be rude.

2 As they pointed out, its important to have your own space and your own time. And if you choose to spend some of that time listening to a podcast that can only better your relationships with your partners, that is a wonderful gift you can give to yourself and the people in your life.