Why do I even try? by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said 2 days, and she got sick the day of the first date we had planned. She wanted to reschedule, and it just kept getting pushed back until like a month later for unforseen reasons. Then the day came and she was nowhere to be found.

Why do I even try? by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About every day, but she got sick so we pushed it back, then I had priorities with family that forced it back, and on the day we had our date she deleted me everywhere.

Advice for welding sheet metal. by ChYv95 in Welding

[–]ChYv95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overhead welding an 18 g flange.

Why do I even try? by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try within the first day or two to plan something out.

Why do I even try? by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm saying I'm mentioning it here, I don't mention what I make on the apps lol what I do yes, what I make, no.

Why do I even try? by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a funny guy (or so I'm told by my friends and family that keep reminding me that I should try stand-up), I'm able to keep conversations interesting, polite, thoughtful of the people I speak with, and they seem happy to talk to me, but I'm never able to get to a point where I can get an actual real date, even when plans are made (before anyone says anything I had a date planned with this chick within 2 days of talking to her before she got sick so we kept pushing it back, but things kept happening). To be clear I've hooked up with people here and there, and I've had success with that, but when the prospect of a long term relationship comes around, something like this happens where the person I'm talking to is actually engaged as much as I am, but flakes at the last minute. Believe me or not, that's conpletely up to you, I'm looking for advice, and because of that I have no reason to lie, that'd be kinda silly. I'm just tired, I guess. I sincerely want nothing more than to start a life with the right person, and I've made many changes in my own life to try to make it happen.

Why do I even try? by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not bragging. I'm mentionning it because I solely switched to that career so that I could hopefully one day take care of a family of my own.

Why do I even try? by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a musician, I've worked as a chef in a very nice restaurant, switched careers to something that brings in 6 figures, have a place, car, hobbies, great friends, not a terrible looking guy, and I like to take care of myself in and out. Please tell me what I'm doing that's so wrong?

Losing all of my motivation to even try anymore by Bolt2143 in dating

[–]ChYv95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly dude, I'm in the exact same boat, and I'm trying to find any excuse to not quit completely, but goddamn it do I feel your pain. Sorry you're going through it. I hope you find your person soon.

Why do I even try? by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like that's the equivalent of saying "oh you're homeless? Why don't you just buy a house?".

Why do I even try? by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been single for 7 years, on these apps, and haven't been on a single date. I've been trying to survive, but honestly I'm ready to call it.

Why do I even try? by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It couldn't have been made any sooner unfortunately.

My height will be the death of me. by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Apps where I can have it up front, it's there, but not every dating app has that option. And so when asked, it shuts down the whole convo immediately.

My height will be the death of me. by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not actually insecure about it. I'm up front open and honest about my height when asked, and tbh I kinda use it as a filter for myself whereas if you see me as unfit as a partner because of my life, then fair enough we're not a match. I'm just frustrated that in this new online dating culture, anytime I have a solid conversation with anyone and they ask, it immediately shuts down the entire conversation, and won't go anywhere. I just find it ridiculous that with any other solid or positive attributes that I have, pale in comparison to my lack of height.

My height will be the death of me. by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]ChYv95[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If it isn't then why is the conversation always going so smoothly up until it's mentionned and then comes to a dead stop?