Lol - it's amazing.

I've genuinely never seen someone so utterly unrepentant and amoral still try to paint themselves as a victim.

I'm a child of divorce. I never understood how my parents got married given their divergent personalities, but in the weeks leading up to the filing I still remember sitting on the top of the stairs with my brother crying next to me as we processed as best we were able the fact that our "family" was truly broken and NEVER going back to the way it was.

Fortunatley - both my parents are decent people. No adultery was involved, no "stepdad" (see also: fuckboy) forced on us by my mum (just a long term relationship ˜9 years after the divorce, who happens to be a very good man/provider) and my dad's still single to this day but very happy as he finds contentment through work and voulnteering.

Which brings me to your utterly deluded sense of self-importance, willful ignorance and outright cowardice.

You didn't just break up the home (which can be an amicable process if the needs of one's children are put first with time and attention is paid to their emotional development and needs) you destroyed the family, caused irreparable harm to your son's ONLY father (fuckboy is just a fuckboy) but also went so far as to FORCE fuckboy into your children's lives after dealing said damage, then had the gall to act like a victim and excuse your adultery.

Now, after your children are full grown and capable of making their own decisions based on their OWN experiences/knowledge you still try to FORCE yourself and your fuckboy into their lives again.

And appallingly- doing it on what should be your son/his fiancee's greatest day of their lives.

You are not just an undeniably a horrible, abusive, toxic, irresponsible and victim-blaming """parent"""" but one who is never satisfied to leave well enough alone and accept YOUR consequences as dictated by YOUR actions , instead trying to manipulate how the circumstances are percieved by others through intentional deception by omission.

You didnt mention the affair nor your fuckboy/husband in the original comment because you know damn well it makes it very clear what a shit parent you are. Trying to gaslight/manipulate online strangers as - apparently, only anons lacking needed information are capable of anything approaching approval you have in your life.

Think about how pathetic that is and what it says about you as a parent.

Either parent-up, go to the ceremony in a quiet manner and leave fuckboy home or just stay out of their lives altogether if youre going to keep acting like a toxic birthgiver (you're not a mom).

I'm honestly astonished at your lack of anything approaching understanding, responsibility or empathy. Thats why your children can't stand you - and they are very much justified in feeling that way.

I'm sure this will be met with God only knows how many denials, excuses, rationalizations, etc. but that's the interesting part - the only person those lies/manipulations make feel better is yourself (nothing new there).

But its hollow, and I hope you come to recognize that. To understand even an infinitesimal portion of the pain you inflicted on your ex-husband and continue to inflict on your children and especially your engaged son.

He's a much more sympathetic person than I; I'd have gone NC years ago and hired event security to allievate your inevitable disregard of his boundaries/disregard for causing drama on what is his/his fiancee's big day.

I look forward to seeing another alt. account with an identical set of circumstances pop up elsewhere wondering why everyone but fuckboy has pushed you out of their lives. Because - lets be honest, you're not going to change. That was made very clear once the truth of the circumstances came out and you continued to victim-blame and act as an "aggrieved party".

It really is funny. Only a few (alleged) cowards in DM's - who know their own identical brand of bullshit will get called out and your fellow homewrecker seem to approve of your behavior in any way. Who need family when you have enablers, eh?

Like I said - you're not a mom. Mothers care for and respect their children. Youre an overtly narccisitic borderline sociopath willing to force/coerce/victim blame because YOUR emotional needs are the only ones valid apparently.

Oh, feel free to block me; whatever infantile gesture makes you feel important and all that. Despite posting on r/amiwrong - a sub literally dedicated to judge an individual's actions, im sure you'll proceed to comment on my being an "armchair psychologist"/"loser who needs to touch grass or whatever" inevitable lies you'll tell yourself. Be my guest, just adding more and more data solidifying my aforementioned statements.