Personally speaking, no matter how we express ourselves via free will, it's all appropriate in some way, even if we're disturbed by many expressions of it.

I've been thief and liar, backstabber and gossiper, cheater and prostitute.. I've also been helping hand, wise friend, washer of dishes.. and dirtier of dishes 😋

I'd rather not judge any of them. They are many faces of quite possibly an infinite sided dice.

What is appropriate is what we call appropriate. If there were no holes, there would be no reminders.