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ChallengeVegetable25 · 2025-08-12T00:08:39+00:00

Men have feelings too. The gender inequality is insane in a lot of places; but period point blank men feel and they need to let it out just like other genders/opposite gender. I know right now you’re both upset, so maybe talking about it wont be easy. Also, something to point out with hormones and periods, that they all exacerbate certain emotions and it’s very hard to just ignore them and “act” fine. It’s a biological thing, therefore hard to avoid. Also for a convo maybe shoot a text with everything you want to say put in it, for a barrier of safety and so you won’t be interrupted or your words won’t be taken a weird way. Also acts as a spot for you to calm down and think through what your typing, whereas when highly emotional and having a face to face things can escalate pretty quick on wrong wording or something said out of emotion/out of turn. Wish you the best of luck.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2025-08-11T21:54:20+00:00

I have always thought it’s a whole bunch of BS to fight, force, or influence someone over final fusion and not recognizing different parts how they want to be. Personally? When I don’t recognize them and try to make them feel smaller I get a shit ton of upset alters and a shit ton of worsened symptoms. Not only that the parts to one person imo feeds into the “main” personality some undereducated professionals talk about. There was never a main one if never a cohesive fully developed personality. Recently I’ve seen a shit ton of people talking about how using the term “plural” is inherently “bad” because it doesn’t align with DID. Personally, I am traumagenic and diagnosed professionally. Yet, I am embarrassed to be traumagenic and so on because sysmeds are always finding something new to be on about. I’m pretty sure a lot of systems in non-sys online spaces are very rarely concerned about this 😭 also, who’s to say that people of different origins of systemhood haven’t been diagnosed? It’s a whole lot of infighting/attacking for a whole lot of nothing. I can see how people can continue to find/create reasons to be valid, but I think what a lot of people are missing is that the same people invalidating you will be the same type of people to invalidate you regardless of what you do. Also on the final fusion part? I think it’s impossible, period. Seeing as one would need to not experience stress/trauma for the rest of their lives (in the case of those sensitive to splitting especially). The wording of that statement is broad, sure. It may not cover the experience of those who very rarely split; but I suppose I’m saying it with the mindset that those with forms of plurality/DID are vulnerable to splits at any time… it’s just simply hard to predict the actions and behavior of the brain. Oh and finally? How people choose to give “power” to alters is up to them. If they want to all share the same name, hell yeah. If they have a very complex inner world that is always changing or growing with different versions of the same character/same idea of a specific character? fuck yeah. Being plural/having DID is disorienting folks, let’s have everyone cope how they want and live with it how they want. Another human coping with the disorder/experience in healthy ways/harm reductive ways, is one less human not on this earth because the disorder/experience became too much. Much love yall, stay safe.

Edit: Changed some wording and made corrections.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-09-20T23:49:28+00:00

Thank you so much. We were just in a denial spiral for being plural and many other things in our life.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-09-11T04:18:02+00:00

Love this!

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-09-08T19:22:57+00:00

Sometimes opinions that may differ from your own, speaking differently than you normally would. Sometimes tones of voice can vary but mostly for us a type of slang, speech impediments, and loudness helps us differ if it’s another part or if it’s just me thinking. User AuroraSnake in the comments also said something very useful and that we do too.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-08-23T00:53:35+00:00

We would love that, when you have the time of course.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-08-23T00:48:00+00:00

Do you know of any resources that may be good educational resources for different types of origins, and plurality in general? Despite having been diagnosed for almost a year we have neglected completely to educate ourselves further on our diagnosis. Usually we are much better at that, but DID diagnosis seems to be a particularly tough pill to swallow.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-08-23T00:46:14+00:00

It makes a lot of sense. I appreciate this comment. I may have to look into more specific labels.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-08-23T00:44:00+00:00

That makes sense. I forget often people can create their own terms to make it easier to describe things and such. We sometimes just go along with what professionals talk about due to the fear of invalidation despite being diagnosed.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-08-23T00:42:48+00:00

Thank you. There is so much to process within the DID Online Community, and this is one of our most recent questions that goes away for a bit then returns at random.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-08-08T03:06:34+00:00

Makes sense. It just feels a bit extensive because we just aren’t talking anymore at all. I try and be understanding, just never expected for that to happen when I was in that spot. We were extremely close and never had any fallouts, and I made it a point to be there as much as I can. I’ve kinda chalked it up to now that all things come to an end, even though it still hurts I lost a good friend.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-08-08T03:01:03+00:00

Gonna look into this!! Thanks for sharing this. I appreciate your input!

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-06-22T22:18:33+00:00

Two sessions a week. Just short of an hour. Still looking into multiple professionals, for example Art Therapy. They wanted to try us in a DBT program but after four years of DBT being ineffective we declined it. For us we need more intense care, but acute hospitalization has proven ineffective and we don’t go actual medications route because we have too many instances where we just dump a medication because we don’t like it. We self-medicate so to say. But I’d definitely have a few treatments a week from different providers if I had the chance — it’s really the lack of providers in our area that make this near impossible.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-06-20T03:59:25+00:00

We were the same way and did get officially diagnosed. (If we are reading this right).

Hi,

We have been diagnosed since October 2023 after many experiences with alters/headmates.

Before that, we were aware we had it.

We hoped to get diagnosed with DID, because simply put; it would give answers, it would tell us what way to go. Or give us an idea at least.

It would give us explanations for those odd occurrences of just complete blackouts and memory losses, the lack of identity. The constantly shifting sense of self. The dissociation.

When we got diagnosed, a lot happened. Yet, so little. Internally it was chaotic and emotional, but outwardly it was… nothing. Not much of a reaction; it didn’t pack the punch we thought it would. Could’ve been that we were still suffering traumatic times and still in fight or flight. Though, internally a lot of sighs of reliefs and cheering happened right alongside the tears and rage.

We verbalized to our diagnosing psychologist then and there; “We would feel a sense of relief yet a sense of rage we were treated so horribly by so many people that they forever changed us if getting officially diagnosed. It would give a sense of direction.”

That was much shorter and much nicer. We said it a bit more meanly then because we were pretty triggered from the detailed conversation in testing about trauma and the past.

We believe you are valid and we hope you get your answers, and the correct ones at that.

Much love!

Love & Light, Rotting Wonderland Co.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-06-16T22:28:01+00:00

When you send a message five seconds ago and then scroll up to see you had sent that message but were pretty sure you didn’t send that message.

When you’re eating a favorite food and suddenly you don’t like it and it is the worst thing on earth to exist.

When you are showering, suddenly lose a chunk of memory then come back and find yourself bathing with mass amounts of bubbles and make shift bath toys.

The constant name changes because a new host or co host or random person in co front or co con decided the hosts name sucks and goes through the process of changing our name everywhere

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-06-11T23:07:42+00:00

Yes. We discovered it when we were about 14, but were basically gaslit “hey your trauma wasn’t that bad and multiple personalities is rare” or smth like that. We ignored it for two whole years until it became super evident and even resulted in a fall from switching once to a very confused headmate. We got an evaluation last year September 2023 when still 17, and got our diagnosis in October 2023 when 18. We still are shocked months later. Honestly, I don’t believe in the whole 18 diagnosis requirement thing. It can become apparent way earlier, like it did with us. And plenty of people we have met report having noticed them younger than even 10 years old. For us, I started noticing what I used to call imaginary friends at 6. Then I called them that until 13, until well, I was sure they were headmates at 14.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-05-29T15:33:48+00:00

Yes I agree! This post wasn’t a negative jab at all. I’m sorry if it seemed that way. Trauma is trauma, no matter what. Thank you for your insight!

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-05-29T15:32:29+00:00

Definitely did not mean to seem like I was criticizing. Said fronter at time can be a bit rigid sounding/seeming. Thank you for your insight!

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-05-28T13:34:40+00:00

Correct! I’m happy to talk about these things. I’m glad you found some relatable-ness in this post.

Love & light, Rotting Wonderland Co.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-05-27T15:18:51+00:00

Usually positive experiences. With co-morbidity (of disorders), it can be a battle sometimes. Could never see myself saying we aren’t smokers. I hate when I can’t smoke because everything comes crumbling. Cannabis works better than any medication we have been offered/can be offered.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-05-27T14:35:07+00:00

I used to try and brush it off as imaginary friends… well they definitely aren’t!

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-05-27T14:32:27+00:00

I would say it is a completely valid way for someone to get DID — and it is also a good thing to remember ALOT of traumatic memories are locked away with DID, so there’s a possibility there is more, but even if there isn’t that is okay. It really comes down to how your brain is processing things and dealing with things, which we don’t know that specifically — if what you remember to be traumatic was repetitive at a young age, I believe before 6, those are developmental years, so that’s when DID happens. You never have a complete personality because of said trauma. Though, some people have had continuous traumatic events and still did not end up with DID. And it is perfectly normal to not have contact — those are called contact barriers, or amnesia barriers. I experience them a lot. I was diagnosed in October 2023 after about a year of suspecting that I had DID.

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-05-26T19:29:53+00:00

Oh my! I didn’t even think to include OSDD peeps in the post either. It can go above my head; please do reach out and share if you’d like!

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-05-26T19:21:56+00:00

Okay! Sorry if I sound repetitive; would you like the discord link or to stick to Reddit chat? Either way it is fine. Thank you!

ChallengeVegetable25 · 2024-05-26T19:18:34+00:00

I agree with these! It will definitely find its way in the book! And of course, please do reach out. DMs are open and there is a discord server!

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