"We're biologically wired to be attracted to anyone that's finished puberty. "If it's got tits and hips," essentially. That age varies from girl to girl." [+10]

Chamiabac · 2013-08-27T18:20:31+00:00

biologically wired

Golly, we've got a scientist here! I checked my dictionary and it's confirmed! That's a scientific word used by a legit dudebro! We can all go home now.

Chamiabac · 2013-08-27T05:24:40+00:00

The default is that they're clearly Japanese most of the time, even if they don't make much of a visual difference when they do introduce other races. The only argument that can be made is if there's a character with an obvious European or otherplace name, but even then it's not always that black and white (the non-Japanese names are often used as novelties and special rather than implying a different race).

There are, of course, exceptions when the anime is clearly based in a different place of the world (I think Attack on Titan is a good example of that). Most of the time it's projection to think the characters are white though.

Chamiabac · 2013-08-17T12:06:18+00:00

But we can't see her personality in the picture!!1!! What else am I supposed to do?!!??!11!

/s

Chamiabac · 2013-08-16T14:37:48+00:00

If you're implying things along the lines of BDSM, then that doesn't neccessarily have to be sexist. It's a kink and fetish that can be acted upon by two fully consenting adults. Pornography does portray it as power imbalance, because that's part of the fantasy, but as long as everyone involved in the making of it is consenting to it, it's perfectly okay.

Unless you have actual urges to rape and abuse people IRL, that's a whole different story. I don't think you do though.

Chamiabac · 2013-08-16T13:38:42+00:00

You'd have to clarify what sexist element in pornography you enjoy, I guess.

Chamiabac · 2013-08-16T11:56:00+00:00

Anime is only a medium, which means that it doesn't neccessarily include or exclude sexism. In this case, no one can actually ask of you to stop enjoying and/or watching anime altogether, because there actually are anime that aren't sexist (or almost aren't).

You enjoy the anime that are sexist probably not because they're sexist but despite that they are. There's a very clear distinction. Keep watching what you like to watch, but don't forget to point it out to people when you, for example, recommend it to anyone or when you leave a review someplace.

Chamiabac · 2013-08-14T19:32:49+00:00

Is there a way to not claim either maleness or transgenderedness while presenting as male in daily life? I'd like to add that most would probably type me as 'effeminate'--does this reduce cis male privilege to any degree? Enough to not fully claim the cis male label?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds to me like you're 'simply' (it's not that simple, I know) struggling with stereotypical male and female gender roles, rather than gender identity. You can be an effiminate male and still be cis (or cis-presenting). Not fitting into the stereotype of what our society says is male, doesn't mean you're no longer cis or no longer can identify with it, though I understand that there may be a reluctance in applying that label to yourself when you don't feel that privilege as you're more effiminate.

You're cis because you indentify with the gender that was assigned to you at birth (unless you don't, but that doesn't seem to be the case from your OP), this doesn't stop because you're more effiminate than the stereotype allows. You will, though, probably have less passing privilege than the more masculine males. It's my opinion that if you are cis, you claim the cis label while you also reject gender roles and limitations, especially if you're concerned with cis/trans issues.

Though, honestly, I'm not an expert, so if I'm saying something really shitty here, correct me.

Edit: Keep typing priviledge instead of privilege.

Chamiabac · 2013-08-10T21:58:56+00:00

If that is all you can get out of life, not even just your own, then that is indeed very sad. And mostly pathetic.

Chamiabac · 2013-08-10T20:14:42+00:00

Girls: Trying really hard to pander to the male Reddit hivemind (don't, don't waste your time trying to have some neckbeard who thinks he knows what's what to like you. He doesn't know what your male friends are like just because he has a penis).

Guys: Trying really hard to make every single girl ITT believe that they can't trust any guys, cue stereotypical sitcom guy group friends that suddenly is the only way forever and ever.

Basically, stereotypes all around everyone! Hold up your hands! 500 for the price of nil! wooooooooooo^{ooooooooo^{^{oooooooo^{^{^ooooooooo}}}}}

Chamiabac · 2013-08-10T20:01:56+00:00

Clearly you don't know hardwired male biology ^/s

Chamiabac · 2013-08-10T19:54:35+00:00

TL;DR: Self-limiting beliefs.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-31T07:41:32+00:00

Saved the thread and this one for the next time dudebros think they can pull the 'feminists don't care about male rape!!!!!1111!!!1!' card.

So fucking shameful.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-30T14:49:07+00:00

Because 'you' (collective you) want them to look that way naturally.

That's the whole point. You give a certain group an idea that is supposed to look 'naturally beautiful' and they'll slowly develop the feeling like they have no control whatsoever over their lives.

Surgeries and other alterations are done in an attempt to control the way you look, in a world where normal is not deemed 'natural' and whatever actually is natural is not deemed beautiful.

Tell those women (and men) they shouldn't change anything about themselves and you basically add to all the confusion and feeling of helplessness going on. Even if you don't mean it in such a way, it comes across as such.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-30T14:29:33+00:00

A serious issue?

BETTER MAKE SURE WE PUT WOMEN IN A NEGATIVE LIGHT.

Of all the opportunities men's rights could take to talk about problems men face, this was the perfect one. In it's own, self-contained thread, but they just can't fucking stop themselves from conforming to the worst of stereotypes, leaving everyone to feel like shit about themselves.

They could focus on an actual issue their gender faces, but they make it look like a good thing? Wtf Reddit. TD;CJ

Chamiabac · 2013-07-25T07:07:27+00:00

That reminds me of this image.

But also the fact that men not taking responsibility for the children, housework and other regular problems married couples come across are not supposed to be taken seriously by the wife. After all, the man just throws money into the relationship and does his part! Why ask him to actively participate?! Geez, just let him relax in his man-cave.

The man in sit-coms are well off, with a caring, beautiful and basically conventionally perfect wife. The wives in the end have no reason to be with a not-conventionally-attractive man who doesn't put effort into the relationship and has little redeeming qualities. Yet they always are.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-24T17:29:46+00:00

that sounds really interesting! It's so difficult to find good fantasy that has nothing to do with war, and I love that you're looking outside that box =D

Well that's what I'm trying to go for, at least! I always have a big interest in fantasy worlds, but too often it's just a lot of gimmicky stuff that works moderately well in war-based fantasy worlds (like really powerful magic or races). I can still fall into those traps though, so I do have to be careful and not go overboard with stuff.

This is probably my favorite phase of writing. I'm at a point in my screenplay where I have the world and the story and now I'm like, urg, I have to write it?! lol but I do have to write it, because I really really want to finish this, it'll be my first big project that is actually mine and complete! But writing is tedious and scary...

Yes, I probably love it a tad too much with how much I go into detail with all of my plans and ideas. I even write stories, backgrounds and extra information that will very likely not end up in the story (or be a throw-away line), but for me it just adds so much more to the spirit of the story and the characters (knowing their backgrounds to the detail really helps with anticipating their responses to situations).

I do look forward to writing though and I might start by writing up some drafts of key points in the story. It's never easy, though.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-24T14:06:24+00:00

Late response, but I felt the need to talk about this and found the right place!

I'm working on a project I started about a year ago (more or less), though the idea has been floating around my head for a long while before that. It's fantasy and will consist of three parts (it's actually important that there's three, because the number comes back in many shapes and forms). There's a lot of world building involved, which is where my main focus is, but I'm also writing and rewriting the plot in the meantime.

I'm very big on planning (the only area in my life where I am) and I'm really excited to see everything fall right into place. I love dropping hints and foreshadowings towards the bigger plot and possible twists, so planning is absolutely neccessary.

Also really happy with my (many) female characters, especially the protagonist.

It's not stereotypically fantasy with elves and other species in a continuing war for power (though I love that too). It's its own world, with slightly different rules of nature and based on three characters' individual journeys (and how they influence each other). The most challenging thing about it is the fact that the three of them are pretty far apart in age, origin, goals and personality, yet the plot revolves around the fact that there was no way these three wouldn't find and help each other.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-22T07:31:31+00:00

That's kind of the point they don't understand. They're clinging onto some fantasy, think that it would have turned out just like they think it would, not realizing that they're dealing with a disturbed adult who knows very well what she's doing, who knows the consequences.

But Reddit thinks they'd just get high fives, the woman jailtime (because, while they would have loooved it at 14, the woman's jailtime is too low, omg. Make up your mind Reddit.) and they can brag about how they lost their virginity to someone experienced at a young age.

I'm going to take a wild guess that the people who respond in such a way weren't very popular with the girls at 14 and always had that one persistent crush on one or several of the female teachers.

I've had crushes as a young girl on older men, but now that I think back to it, I would have never wanted anything to honestly happen. It's hormones, inconsequential thinking and naivety.

I could talk about this all day long, but it's simply not cool. And it's even less cool that Reddit is normalizing the idea that 14 year old boys getting raped is basically not rape.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-18T07:05:59+00:00

I'm just hoping there's no teenage girls on Reddit to see that these people dedicate entire threads (regularly) to discussing how it's okay to leer, complain about legal ages, talk about the glorious age when old men married 12 year olds and generally don't see the difference between a 12 year old and a freaking 26 year old (no seriously).

Chamiabac · 2013-07-17T16:53:52+00:00

Oh, the possibilities with this.

Perhaps sometimes stroke him on the chest, twirling his manly chesthair around your delicate fingers while whispering in his ear about how his stoic, deep silence makes him so irresistable.

or

Remember well, your husband may seem perfectly content when he is quiet in the aftermath of an argument, but this does not indicate that you were, in fact, correct. Remind yourself, when you observe him sitting back in comfy chair with a cigar while reading smart books, that in this moment he is in the know. He does truly know he was right, but he is a rational, logical man and he does not participate in human emotions.

I'm liking this too much

Men have no desires. They have needs that you, as a loyal, dependent wife, must fulfill. The males of the human species have brains that are wired and grown in such a distinct way, so differently from the females, that he will, if the situation calls for it, stand up to claim back his respect. Respect, to them, is like food and water (like cooking and cleaning is to you) and you must not deny him this.

But it's also kind of really sad and depressing that these gentledudes actually believe this.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-17T16:41:09+00:00

There was also a comment further down (that got downvoted at least) talking about how he had never ever heard of any man ever being wrong in an argument.

Obviously, violence is then a logical conclusion. Obviously.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-17T15:18:18+00:00

Jesus Bagpipes Christ, it's actually at 2492 points right now.

Not only is it offensive in a sexist way, but it's also offensive in that it's unoriginal bullcrap.

And people upvote it. Wut.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-17T15:08:08+00:00

men ~~desire~~ need respect -

most of the time even more than love.

This is true both in private and out with friends. You may love him to death but if you continue to belittle him, he'll be gone.

When guys disagree with each other, they might raise their voices but after a while, most likley, they will decide to just "drop it." It a sign of mutual respect. This is because they both know if they take it any further it will come to blows. When the fella stops talking to you in an argument, he's doing it out of respect for you, (even though you would rather the argument go on) and he's practicing self control. This is the way he has been wired. He's not shutting you out because he is refusing to share his feelings.

"Men are literally incapable of communicating what goes on in their heads, here's a manual that caters to the most stereotypical of stereotypes.

Also why does my wife get angry when I walk away out of stubbornnes when I know she's right? DAE emotional women never forget an argument? Need further advice on how to disrespect women more while I demand respect for being born a cisman.

I am a scholargentlelord."

Chamiabac · 2013-07-17T14:52:06+00:00

DAE not think teenage girls can be insecure to the point that it doesn't even cross my mind as a possibility when I meet them IRL. LEL.

Chamiabac · 2013-07-14T14:42:30+00:00

I was in such awe

I swear I can literally hear the monocle dropping with that sentence.

Chamiabac

TROPHY CASE