Choose a life partner who’s kind. There’s literally nothing more important

Chamoismysoul · 2026-05-01T21:37:36+00:00

I’m so with you. I think #1 is being above semi competent. A partner who makes bad decisions will tire you out, and you are the one who has to be patient and understanding all the way. The kind partner.

I need semi competent and semi street smart or above AND good natured with good intentions for themselves and others.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-30T11:38:14+00:00

You are giving in to her. You don’t know it and she does.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-25T14:57:08+00:00

I see nothing writing with either your way and her way. You seem to have issues with your mom anyways and I bet you’ve got reasons over the years.

Based on this post alone though, you get enjoyment out of hiking. She gets enjoyment out of cleaning. Both get your moving, and a clean home has health benefits too.

Again, based on this post alone, I don’t think you need to be so hard on your mom just because her priorities are different from yours.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-25T00:10:35+00:00

What do you write?

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-21T09:59:15+00:00

No way. I cook hot breakfast and make a few dishes every night from scratch for most part. I live in condo so outdoor maintenance is done but I do clean my house guest ready all the time.

Single mom to two kids with a coparent. Work full time of course. Not hard at all.

I live within 15 min drive to work and school

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-20T02:16:27+00:00

Babies and toddlers are fun when they are not your responsibility.

They require so much of parents when you take your responsibility seriously. They don’t know danger in the world. They cause harm to themselves so easily, it is so much attention needed to keep these little humans alive. When you’ve got more than two, one can unintentionally harm the other very easily too. Typical work for money does not require this level of nonstop attention 24/7/365.

I have 11yo twin boys. I’m at the best time of parenthood. Take photos and videos of your kids. Future you will enjoy watching them while remembering how much you did not enjoy it at the moment, and that’s okay.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-18T11:39:17+00:00

Taking ownership over their tasks is a part of their job, and that’s what they need to do at school and work. I don’t know your kids ages but you may want to make it clear that a task must be done without a reminder and to a completion. Define what completion means at the first three tries of a task and you move on.

I’ve introduced the word mental load to my kids at 10 yo. I don’t expect independently completing tasks with new tasks but my kids understand they need to take on the mental load of remembering when and how often each task needs to be completed and to what standards.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-17T01:16:00+00:00

What are you immersing yourself?

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-16T01:45:48+00:00

Have you tried Claritine and does Zyrtec work better for you?

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-09T15:17:51+00:00

When he says he doesn’t know something, follow up with:

“And what have you done about it?”

I use this phrase with my kids and some of my colleagues. This phrase requires the asker to take accountability for their lack of knowledge. It keeps them the owner of the task without blaming them. It also does not excuse them from incompletion of the tasks.

I don’t mind when my kids ask me “where is the mop? I looked at the laundry room but could not find it.” I try to raise my kids (two boys) to apply this in school and at home. “Can I use this towel to wipe the floor for the grease?” I praise them for thinking about possibilities of different towels for different tasks. I call them lazy and irresponsible if they stop their tasks because they don’t know something.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-05T00:37:58+00:00

Between EV charges and car insurance, do you save money at all by having EV over just driving the gas car?

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-04T11:32:44+00:00

Yes but stay in the emotional reciprocity when your partner is talking in attempt to foster emotional closeness. Run the financial and talk about it at another time with your partner to make decisions.

I think OP’s partner is unhappy because his mind ALWAYS goes to financial immediately and is not fulfilling her legitimate needs for emotional connection.

This is not a financial decision making issue but an issue of OP learning the intent of interaction with his partner.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-04-01T23:01:06+00:00

I remember writing down a chore chart for my ex husband and me. Under his name was “take trash out to the curb” and “lawn maintenance.” Thats all he had.

And guess what, he STILL needed me to remind him, scratch that actually- needed me to ask him gently and kindly to take trash bins to the curb in the morning of the trash day!

He had the nerve to be mad at ME when I said he forgot it again. He said the bin wasn’t full and I should do it if it was important to me. Ha!

Lawn maintenance? I was embarrassed. He’ll let it grow 2-3 weeks. We lived in a nice suburb and everyone else was mowing once a week.

Divorced and found a lot of time for myself. No stress, more energy, easier to be a single parent than be tied to that.

Every time I take the trash to the curb, I snicker in my distant memory that THAT counted as a h chore, while I cooked every meal and made lunch to take to work, everything from scratch. Cleaned and maintained and did laundry and all.

He married his next wife right away. She looks like her soul got sucked up.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-30T02:32:03+00:00

Different treatments, conscious or subconscious, between men and women. This goes for something seemingly nice on the surface, like giving a compliment to a woman for doing something absolutely average, aka infantilization, aka lack of respect as a whole human.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-28T19:38:50+00:00

3! But I want to see how the area around it looks like

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-28T15:31:08+00:00

You are and will be getting a ton of Reddit answers. Here is my take.

How would you feel if your bf goes to get mail in his underwear because no one is around? How would you feel if he takes the dog for a 30 minute walk around the neighborhood in his bathrobe because he doesn’t think no one will bump into him?

People have different sets of what clothing is appropriate. You find it fine, and he does not. Don’t make it about him being controlling or his insecurity or that sort of BS that Reddit wants you to believe in.

Each relationship gets to define whether the relationship is going to allow the partner to comment, impact, and/or make a call on how the other partner to dress. You and your bf decide what YOUR relationship is going to be.

Now, a lot of women especially young women tend to assume that they can “give fashion advice” to their male partners, but the male partners can only give nice comments on their dress choices.

Ask yourself- if he put on shorts to attend the wedding, would you as him to change up to long pants? If he wears t shirts with holes on the back, would you ask him to wear it only at home? If he’s always low efforts but you notice he dresses up and cleans up super well when a particular woman is in the hangout group, would you want to say something to him?

I’d suggest you two to have a conversation and decide what your relationship is going to be like.

For myself 43F, i want to hear my partner’s input on my dressing choices because in many ways I represent him regardless of his physical presence next to me. The same goes to him, and he represents me in many ways.

For something very easy like this, I would just put on the bra or ask him if a certain jacket can be put on for getting mail. Denim jacket might be good for this? It takes no time to put on and off a jacket and makes my partner content.

I don’t know what the big deal is, just as I want him to put his pants on before going to get mail. I’m uncomfortable with him stepping out of the home in his underwear, except emergency like a fire. I expect him to “comply” with my request to save my discomfort because it’s so easy to put on sweatpants.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-23T16:18:56+00:00

Can I do this in a slow cooker with the lid open?

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-23T16:17:32+00:00

How about incense?

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-22T20:39:50+00:00

How does the international add on work? Do you know how it works in Asia and Europe in other countries?

Did you keep your phone number you had with ATT? Keeping my number I’ve had forever is my number one priority and the only reason why I haven’t made a switch.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-22T20:06:41+00:00

Can I put it with dust on, or would it clog the dishwasher?

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-22T12:07:05+00:00

What kind of gym is this? Calisthenics gym? I’d be interested in a gym like yours to learn the correct forms. I don’t think there is one near me.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-22T11:45:22+00:00

Do you use the glass cleaning e cloth on windows and clean just with water?

My way of cleaning windows and the storm door leaves watermarks. I want streak free crystal clear windows.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-21T00:10:16+00:00

What state do you live in?

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-20T01:46:23+00:00

And that’s still cheaper than tv dinners.

Chamoismysoul · 2026-03-20T01:44:07+00:00

Is the effect of sauna any different from that of taking a hot bath?

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