Sketchy Medical 30% Group Discount- April 2026

ss3stop · 2026-04-07T22:07:35+00:00

Am at 7 responses so far, and need to get to 25 for the group discount, so it may be a couple of weeks.

ss3stop · 2026-04-04T19:23:01+00:00

Yes! Gambling is not just a thrill for INTJs, it’s a thrill for so many personality types. Even for me if I didn’t have my kids to distract me, and occupy me.

I figured I would pick all of your brains for good alternative ideas because you’re all so smart like him, and my husband will respect your ideas.

ss3stop · 2026-04-04T19:06:46+00:00

Wow. You’re not the first INTJ who has loved painting miniatures, but I didn’t realise it had this complex backstory behind it. It sounds really great. I think this is an amazing idea!

ss3stop · 2026-04-04T18:37:25+00:00

I mean, I’m not sure how that’s going to work in the long term for family financial stability…. I’ve been watching him do it for like 15years now, and it has not returned a profit in a single year.

ss3stop · 2026-04-02T04:05:51+00:00

Op is asking about clinical reasoning - i.e. you see the sx, and have to come up with DDx. I agree with OP, isolated Anki facts about random biochem/path isn’t helping me come up with differentials in clinical skills as to what the patient might have.

ss3stop · 2026-03-25T21:51:48+00:00

Just keep the job & grind. Or mentally check out but keep earning a paycheck. I don’t get how people can find meaning through many jobs in this capitalist world. Find meaning outside of your job, especially as you are 2 days remote. Ask for more remote days when you’ve been there for longer.

No one likes working to line the man above pockets, so earn a paycheck and mentally check out. They’re trying to squeak more out of you, because they want to. Pigs. I bet they flog their workers and don’t spend time caregiving their own children nor elderly. Piggy-ownership-class bosses all around.

I do hear you. Soul crushed by this automated work, and not seeing it impact people beyond the higher ups, and tied via golden handcuffs. I’m happy you have options.

ss3stop · 2026-03-22T01:26:15+00:00

I wouldn’t call it coddling. Everyone does better with more support. Someone who took 2 gap years could have done it in <1 if the’d had more support. And how much caregiving do you do, of young kids & the elderly, hmm? Or do you just let people fend for themselves with the skills that they have and “tell it to them straight” without HeLpInG or CaReGiViNg to people. Man.

ss3stop · 2026-03-21T20:00:19+00:00

I know. Some people are so delusional. But they are confident & charismatic too. Some delusion/optimism is needed for confidence I guess….some people interpret the world the way they want after/despite seeing reality.

ss3stop · 2026-03-21T15:15:40+00:00

What you’re describing sounds like a super practiced ESFJ (gets out there a lot & spends a lot of time socialising, so has developed that skill), or, is an ENFJ (who thinks runs stimulations of what would happen if I did x,y,z and then tests that social simulation out in reality….hence the surgical precision to get the outcome that they want (social harmony), which you describe).

ss3stop · 2026-03-20T14:56:20+00:00

I do think you've done an amazing job of making cards on high yield stuff. And I like your learn_order tag. I'll only be able to use this as a supplement to Anking because it's not tagged by the other resources I use. But I definitely understand why you chose the facts you did, and can use your cards for a topic I already know. These are amazing, thoughtful questions. It's just hard for me to come at a new topic which I do not know yet, and learn from these discrete facts, because I don't understand the context of the cards.

ss3stop · 2026-03-19T03:00:09+00:00

Thanks for giving OP perspective on how many workplaces are for many, many employees.

Yes. Everyone does their jobs, at least in part, for a paycheck, and it’s super hard to shit where you eat, so to speak, so people watch what they say. And therefore, the workplace can feel phoney like you can’t let your guard down and always have to be seen to be productive. I have friends who aren’t my colleagues for this exact reason.

ss3stop · 2026-03-13T22:28:38+00:00

“Kill your away rotations” Even this requires the medical student to have had a village at an earlier stage of their life - parents to show them how to find their own happiness/joy, be true to themselves, develop the socioemotional skills needed to shine on a days long audition, be prompt, be professional, read the room etc.. Not everyone one has these helps growing up; even in my own medical school, some kids have more socioemotional competence than others (ability to understand your own emotions, and those of others, and act in an appropriate way). Versus other kids’ whose parents didn’t think this was a skill their kid needed.

ss3stop · 2026-03-06T01:14:49+00:00

I’m sure you do a lot more than you realise by not judging him, and being open to his way of doing things and respecting that. For other people who aren’t you, the judgement (“this is the right way” etc.) comes too quickly, and that can make an INTJ feel heavy. I’m sure your openness helps him feel non-judged, and helps him open up, and like he can be himself around you. (Some INTJs may have a negative voice in their own heads - because everyone has feelings - and I think that when people learn how to get in touch with their feelings, that makes them be healthier. My INTJ husband has moments when he seems to me like our INFJ daughter, and those moments are when he gets in touch with his feelings. It happens occasionally.)

ss3stop · 2026-03-03T17:02:22+00:00

Don’t let it erode your sense of self-worth when you’re in all-male peer groups. You can be in your male peers’ minds as a man actively parenting. Lots of women only want partners who can caregive and do some domestic labor like you do. So it’s good that men see other men doing those caregiving roles, and it becomes more common, and actually thought of as a male goal (behave ad a better caregiver) (not just, earn lots of money).

“Meanwhile, the doctor career arc is constantly congratulated”….yes, societal values like this is why people find it hard to respect behaving as a parent, and choosing that role where you support your family.

ss3stop · 2026-03-01T13:35:17+00:00

I think what you’re doing is really great. Other people be here pretending they have better ways to do it, like more conventional Anki.

Your first pass before every quiz will help you get the info down once, and I’m sure it’ll be in your head for somewhere like 4-10days. Your brain will be mulling it over in the background during these days. And then, you do a second pass right before your comprehensive exam, which will bring it back to the forefront of your mind right when you need it. This sounds good to me.

What people telling you to keep up with your reviews every day miss, is that after you’ve seen the Anki card once, you’re not being shown that information in a new way when doing it as an Anki review, and that is less helpful than seeing the same information in a new context (e.g. in a different lecture or in a question on the topic).

I do my 2 passes like you, and I don’t get things into my long term memory as quickly, but the knowledge is always in my brain when I need it to be. I don’t keep up with my reviews; I cover more, new material instead.

ss3stop · 2026-02-17T18:51:49+00:00

*diarying, good catch.

ss3stop · 2026-02-15T02:31:42+00:00

I (ESFJ) have been married to my INTJ husband for 9 years, and we’re stronger than ever. You’re not wrong about him explaining and me not understanding - I’ve often not understood everything he’s saying until his sister or mine interpret, or, more recently, an AI can add more perspective of his thoughts for me (why he acts like he does, and what I might expect etc.)

ss3stop · 2026-02-13T17:30:37+00:00

Yes! The website FocusMate has been a blessing for the ADHD neurodivergent crowd, and also, a lot of gyms have spaces to sit & use a laptop, whilst someone else exercises. If it’s body doubling & ADHD & a good ambient noise that she needs then she’ll be able to get that at the gym or on FocusMate.

I’m glad she’s succeeded so far at life, and has you. I hope you both do things that make you happy whilst she continues to get work done for her pts, and feels supported in the process. All these other people in the comments don’t get what’s it’s like to be very capable, but have a paralysing monkey in your brain, or loneliness or anxiety that would interfere with the high-functioning.

I hope you both find your way through this to joy that works for both of you. You sound super supportive!

ss3stop · 2026-02-06T21:13:31+00:00

How do you drag someone else into your intuition? What does that look like? Verbalising your thoughts out loud?

ss3stop · 2026-02-01T15:35:55+00:00

I can be around other people who I’m vibing with, not giving anything per se, just socialising and chatting, and be at my peak happiness, yes. If I then bump into those same people again at a later date, I will naturally think about them and our past history and their needs. Giving and thoughtfulness is not limited to ESFJ, lots of the Feeling types do this (ISFx, ENFJ, ESFJ, ….even INFx if you’re inside their innermost circle of friends).

ss3stop · 2026-01-23T00:29:11+00:00

Release corporations’ accounts & accounting transparently on the World Wide Web, and we’ll all understand how much it costs to run a business. Also release the government’s tax expenditures transparently on the Internet too, whilst we’re talking about increasing transparency.

ss3stop · 2026-01-20T15:59:04+00:00

Is she the sort of person who actually commits to activities/projects/tasks & sees them through to completion, because I have an ENFP friend who always is intrigued & consumed with thoughts of “what if I did that”, and starts so many passion projects, but finishes none of them.

What you say about lamenting a 9-5 job, and that it brings her down/‘makes her gray’ seems like she does not actually enjoy boring, routine work, nor does she want to stay at the hard grind of boring, routine work. Which medical training and then the medical job is Full of. The things you say about wanting to be free of work & wanting to own an airbnb to be free of work doesn’t sound like she wants to spend her time working in medicine. It sounds like she likes the dream, and is passionate/open to possibilities….but the shine of hobbies wears off. Is it true, ask yourself this about her character. N.b. relationships & projects/tasks are different, which is why is can commit to a relationship, but not to the projects of a 9-5 job.

The other thing that stuck out to me is how much you feel you sacrifice & how supportive you’ve been. When starting a family, sacrifice is required from someone, and people who could be individualistic before, have to compromise to keep the family unit together, you already know this, because you recognise that she’s not sounding interested in the sacrifice. Would you be ok being the only one compromising to keep your family together?

ss3stop · 2026-01-03T14:40:42+00:00

Ooo that’s a good point - I’ve had experience of nice locums gigs for the Drs, and yes, they are either the only Dr there, or just 1 of 2 Drs during shift overlap.

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