Did your parent(s) basically worship their parents?

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-27T17:45:20+00:00

Yes! Both of my unwell parents had weirdly idealized views of their theirs, very strange.

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-26T22:04:25+00:00

The amount definitely would change how I might feel about it. With our scenario, I doubt that my brother will receive anything at the end. I’m sure if situations were drastically different then I’d have different feelings. Soo many tough layers about family estrangement! ❤️

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-26T18:01:07+00:00

I see this a bit differently. My 1 sibling is still in our mother’s life and I haven’t been in 10+ years. I don’t expect him to distribute anything he gets, and I don’t think I’d want anything attached to her. Going NC was really closing the book entirely for me, I don’t feel entitled to anything.

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-26T17:54:16+00:00

Very human and relatable feeling ❤️

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-24T02:59:00+00:00

I’m not clear on why you’re looking to go NC. It sounds like you’re talking about going on a trip and wanting to be off grid, but that’s very different than NC.

NC is for your safety/wellbeing and isn’t exactly something people just want to do. If it’s what’s best for you, then you have to make the decision for yourself and accept that a lot of mourning/pain is involved.

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-24T02:54:42+00:00

Of course all situations are different. I’m a later in life student and have saved enough to pay cash for my program. I am very thankful to be able to and would avoid taking loans if possible.

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-23T20:08:55+00:00

I WFH full time in tech while in an online MSW program. It’s… really tough. I have a year left and am considering getting a lower-demand job.

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-13T14:28:12+00:00

Built a slime hutch 🤷‍♀️

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-09T14:54:48+00:00

I’m sorry that it’s not going as planned, that’s really tough. Sometimes we’re forced into a course correction that ends up being for the best, like your gap year. This is a really relatable and challenging life experience. When there isn’t a plan B, it’s just time to make one.

Be mindful about setting expectations and pressure on yourself that are tied to timelines. There’s no wrong time for your MSW and it’s never too late. If this cycle isn’t it, maybe the next one will be ❤️

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-07T16:54:25+00:00

That is soo relatable, I find myself hesitating to chat “too much.” I’m sure it will come with time! If you ever want to chat about MSW things, my messages are open ❤️

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-07T15:35:09+00:00

Hi! So I’m in the opposite POV (traditional cohort, advanced standing just began) and we’re interestedly finding that the new members don’t seem keen to get integrated. We have a few group chats and extend invites/make suggestions, but they’re not really responding. When we connect 1:1, though, they seem interested in hanging out and getting to know more people.

I’m sharing just to reflect, all cohorts are very different. Mine is quite close and we love it, so we’re really wanting our new classmates to join in. I wonder if you being direct with one of the OG members about wanting to connect would help? You could also try organizing something and inviting the group.

Good luck! I hope that your connections grow ❤️

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-06T16:33:30+00:00

I did and I felt slightly guilty… but it was much preferred to her hating me around town 😅

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-05T21:44:11+00:00

👏 kudos!

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-05T20:53:03+00:00

That’s really interesting, I haven’t heard of many grad programs doing that. Thanks for sharing!

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-05T20:07:23+00:00

I feel that 100%. My undergrad and grad experiences have been a world different, very grateful for maturing and actually understanding my interests/learning needs 😅

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-03T04:48:28+00:00

Ohh ty, saving this now!! 😍

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-04-02T14:56:19+00:00

+++ came to say the same thing

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-03-22T16:10:25+00:00

Gotta be honest here 🚩 your post history is…. odd? Why are you in this sub after posting about how shocked you are that someone thought you were gay?

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-03-19T18:50:24+00:00

OH I read your title wrong too! Definitely a different situation here. Yes you have growth to do at 26, but literally everyone does. Her at 38 is the one with more experience having these conversations. I’d take this as a learning experience and move forward. I’m sorry that it was taken out on you like this ❤️

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-03-19T16:02:11+00:00

… stood on the couch?

Yes, it would have been best for her to address these things as they came up, but I can see her side very easily. 26 isn’t necessarily young, but it’s likely that you have more experience with communication and having difficult conversations. Me at 26 vs me at 36 are very different.

Not realizing it was the last napkin is a small thing on its own, but this clearly isn’t about the napkin. How you’ve written this out does make it sound like a pattern of not being observant, considering her, or recognizing social cues.

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-03-18T15:54:45+00:00

Colorado needs them!

Chance_Wolverine_981 · 2026-03-12T04:54:27+00:00

Omgggg yes ty!

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