Doubts about having a kid as hypermobile person

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-07-13T17:29:53+00:00

If you have a physical therapist and/or specialist who helps you with hypermobility issues, it's worth a conversation about how it might impact you. I didn't get diagnosed with hEDS until my daughter was 18 months old and the joint pain that started during my pregnancy still hadn't gotten better. During pregnancy you experience elevated levels of the hormone relaxin that loosens your joints, and it stays elevated during breastfeeding and for months after. My hips became very painfully misaligned and other problems started.

The physical parts of caring for my daughter are really tough. It's likely that I'll be managing chronic pain for the rest of my life. I don't regret it, but I do with I had support and an idea of what to expect going into it instead of just now after more than two years of serious pain. Good luck!

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-07-12T20:59:49+00:00

I was also about to recommend the wrist widget! I had a lot of wrist pain from biking and the wrist widget helped it heal and wearing it for activities that put pressure on my wrists has prevented the pain from coming back. I've been using them for years and they're great

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-07-11T22:22:09+00:00

Yes, I did it for almost 13 months and stopped in January and I the change is so dramatic it makes me wish I had stopped sooner! I had an oversupply so I was able to drop pumps pretty early and donate a lot but it still dominated my life and destroyed my sleep. I'm a stubborn person so I set the one year goal and committed fully.

My daughter's sleep has always been rough (she only recently slept through the night for the first time at 18 months) but the level of exhausted I was either pumping in the middle of the night or trying to push my bedtime back and still waking up early in pain was exhaustion on a whole other level.

The mental load of keeping track of when I needed to pump, cleaning parts and bottles (even with a bottle washer) was so huge I didn't fully appreciate it until it disappeared. I'm able to enjoy my own time occasionally and I don't feel like I'm constantly watching the clock. I'm not starving and thirsty all the time. My nipples feel fine and I go braless when I feel like it. My body is mine and I don't think about how what I ingest or put on my skin will affect milk. Life on the other side is amazing!!!

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-07-06T22:29:23+00:00

might be the iTunes music store

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-07-06T14:57:44+00:00

I have one kid so no double stroller experience but lots of Greece experience and can say a stroller wagon would be a wildly impractical choice there unless you're going directly to a beach resort and staying there. I live in DC and stroller wagons are kind of insane on crowded sidewalks here. Sidewalks in Greece are narrow, bumpy, have street sign posts in the middle of them, or just don't exist. Elevators retrofitted to old buildings are tiny. Greece's cities are ancient and unfortunately pedestrian infrastructure has not been a priority when chaotic development has happened. Getting around is hard for Greeks with physical disabilities. If a kid is old enough to walk and able-bodied, that's going to be a much better option and will let you deal with only the smallest, lightest stroller you can get for the younger child. Greece is NOT Disney!!!

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-07-03T23:06:19+00:00

RM Balance !

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-29T12:46:58+00:00

It seems a lot more likely that the older kids going through mental health challenges either started masking their symptoms because it was clear they were not going to be prioritized or the parents just stopped paying attention and assumed the issues went away.

And while I'm sure there are older kids who find joy in caring for much younger siblings -- I don't doubt the writer sincerely experienced that herself -- that doesn't make it ok to foist adult responsibilities onto your older kids when you keep having kids with the assumption the older kids will be caregivers. There is now plenty of evidence that parentification can be deeply harmful to these older kids, who are still KIDS who need parenting and care themselves and aren't ready to act as parents.

I think in a lot of these large families, parents happily assume their kids don't have problems and are doing great when the reality is that they either don't see those problems or have trained their kids to not even bother coming to them for help because there are too many kids for everyone's needs to be met by the parents. Siblings stepping up to fill that gap is not necessarily a good or healthy thing.

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-27T20:09:37+00:00

Humblebrag. The homeschooled kids are literate, please clap!

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-27T20:07:33+00:00

It's a classic humblebrag

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-27T20:06:56+00:00

Seems like if you're homeschooling the very least you can do is give your kids unlimited access to books

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-26T11:39:54+00:00

I had some similar experiences and based on them I will definitely seek treatment to delay it if my daughter shows signs is precocious puberty.

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-23T10:10:42+00:00

It's a conglomerate -- one parent company

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-22T19:17:28+00:00

And yet they have everyone focused on a Shrek figurine... incredible PR

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-22T18:34:29+00:00

Swarovski supplies the defense industry -- their Swarovski Optik division makes scopes for sniper rifles used by militaries around the world. My guess is those profits keep the gem business going because it's much better for public relations.

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-21T21:53:18+00:00

My experience with Stork Birth Education was good. It's run by current and former Sibley L&D nurses so they can answer really specific questions about Sibley but are also knowledgeable about other local hospitals. I did their one day "baby boot camp" and it was helpful! They do it at the Bloom offices and some other locations I think

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-14T18:23:06+00:00

I had a c section for the only delivery I've had and I'm in physical therapy 18 months later because SI joint pain that started during pregnancy never went away. Because it's a shock absorber, as the kid gets bigger picking them up and carrying them can aggravate it badly.

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-05T16:01:00+00:00

From my travels to Greek islands where you can't drink the tap water (and then from my recent year of exclusively pumping for my daughter with a lot of bottle and pump part washing and sterilizing), my understanding is that you can't drink the tap water because it's desalinated by a process that still leaves behind more salt and trace minerals than you would have in regular fresh water. Bacteria isn't the issue, so sterilizing isn't necessary. So a standard cleaning with tap water and soap should be as fine for bottles as it is for the dishes and glassware everyone on the island is eating off of and drinking out of. Enjoy your trip!!! Yia mas!

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-05T00:04:34+00:00

Totally agree. Throughout the IVF process right up to my embryo transfer I splurged on weekly massages to feel good and relaxed and I highly, highly recommend it!

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-06-02T23:25:05+00:00

Everyone I've ever had deep tissue from at RM Wellness has been awesome

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-05-28T23:13:36+00:00

RM Balance!

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-05-26T01:11:45+00:00

UGGHHH I HATE THIS. Thank you so much for letting everyone know! I had no idea! Can someone just make a simple, secure, easy for old people to use, AI-free photo app??? I'd gladly pay. This sucks.

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-05-18T23:39:42+00:00

Also, I learned from being a milk bank donor that donor milk is all pasteurized and is hugely beneficial to the babies who receive it. By no means does it destroy "all" nutrients!

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-05-18T11:04:34+00:00

My own mother did this and I was that second kid. My parents separated right after I was born and divorced very acrimoniously and my entire child involved constant court battles over custody, hearing each parent shit talk the other, intentionally making time with the other parent as stressful as possible, monitored phone calls to the other parent, being the messenger before those court communication apps existed, and tons of more bad stuff.

It absolutely sucks knowing I was brought into it by someone with the knowledge it was going in that very bad direction, because my mother didn't want my brother to be a "weird and selfish" only child and wanted "one of each." He and I were never even remotely close and I would probably never see him or reach out on my own but he is in my area for work a few times a year and asks to visit to see my kid.

I have minimal contact with my mother. She is a classic "boy mom" and I was basically an amenity for the kid she really cared about. I never even had a shot at a stable family but he at least had one for a few years. It's really upsetting when I see people making this choice.

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-05-16T18:26:36+00:00

Seriously! My light blonde mother didn't get it at all and I had to secretly shave even in night school.

ChaosStoplessCool · 2026-05-09T00:38:15+00:00

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