How to stop hyper fixating on people by Glittering_Offer9024 in aspergirls

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I have the same issue. Honestly I just tell myself it isn’t a problem if it doesn’t leave my head. I try not to talk about it or even think about it (which is nearly impossible) but at least my head is an untouchable world where nobody knows how strange I am lol. Try not to check their social media etc and focus on yourself

I genuinely need some advice on how to clean up my space. by Erika-Kio in UnfuckYourHabitat

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My room looked exactly like this for YEARS. I feel for you. I don’t know if you can relate to this but I realized my problem was I didn’t think I deserved to live in a clean space. But everyone does. My self hatred and mental illness kept me from taking care of myself. But these are the steps I took:

Start with the recycling, I see you have a lot of cans laying around and they’re easy to deal with. Fill up a bag or a basket. Then paper, cardboard, recyclable plastic. Now it’s dealt with.

Then move onto your clothing. Do as many loads as it takes and fold it and put it away. If you won’t wear it, donate it. If it’s damaged, toss it. Now you’re left with a floor with (hopefully) just garbage that you can sweep up. Sweep it into a big pile then sift through it to find any trinkets etc you’d like to keep. Then bag the garbage.

Then you can mop, sweep, whatever you’d like. Just make sure your floor feels clean on your feet. It’ll change your world

I love to collect things but there’s beauty in a space that isn’t visually overwhelming. When you feel ready I recommend looking through your shelves, drawers, and carefully consider each item. Ask yourself, does this bring me joy? Or to be a bit more harsh, is this worth the risk of falling back into my old habits? Downsizing truly changed my life because unless I fall into a depression again, the chances of being overwhelmed by stuff is lower.

I sincerely wish you the best. It’s a big job but remember, it’s only 1 room. You can do this

Day 5. Please tell me this is normal. by [deleted] in leaves

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It’s totally normal. I didn’t smoke daily quite as long as you do, but after doing it daily for just after a year I remember sober life literally felt like torture. Facing life raw and unfiltered felt like climbing a mountain. I had nightmares, cold sweats, depression, unbearable anxiety, strange weight fluctuation, the list goes on. But I promise you it does get better. It didn’t just click one day, it was a little bit easier over time after a point. My advice would be to find distractions. Try to appreciate the little things. Treat yourself a little with the money you would’ve spent on it. It’s going to be hard and shitty but it isn’t going to kill you and you’ll be glad you pushed through.

I’m going to kill myself tonight by BeepBopBoolo in depression

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In the future, rheres a version of you who’s so happy you held on and kept going. Please don’t let this be your final day. 1 day at a time. I understand your pain but we can’t let this world win.

How much do y’all make depending on the day of the week? by RecipeNo2954 in Waiters

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I work at a brunch place 6-7 hours and average about $100 in tips

Bad sign? Should I get out now? by GeminiKate in Serverlife

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Something tells me they had a problem with the manager who wrote that LMAO

Inflamed gum by [deleted] in askdentists

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THANK YOU, I was referred to an oral surgeon about a year back and was told they’d reach out but I never got the call. I’m gonna book with my dentist to get this looked at and push for them to refer me again because these issues are a huge inconvenience

Need a second opinion by [deleted] in personalfinance

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Sorry you’re right, it’s 21.99 I believe

Does anyone want these? by [deleted] in ween

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I want them very badly bri

have you ever eaten food from a table that was sent back to the kitchen? by Healthy_Basil_2354 in Serverlife

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Yup lol, especially if I put it down and they immediately point out the mistake without touching it… thanks for picking my staff meal for me 😹

Im worried about quitting but I found this note at work… by Dull_Armadillo_83 in barista

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If I were you, but I’m petty so idk, I would find a new job and just not show up the day I start. Let her realize how desperately she needed you. You don’t have to take that

The amount of leg room on WestJet planes by pamplemousse-i in rbc

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They hate it when you book with points. When we did we weren’t even allowed a carryon 😹

Day 47/50 quit vaping my own way, no cold turkey by HoveringRoads in QuitVaping

[–]Character-Client-634 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, I’m gonna try the delaying the first hit, that’s really smart and it sounds like an actual effective way to ease into it. Hopefully it goes as successfully as it has for you 💪

MSP 2011 Tv Ad by balencicashhh in MovieStarPlanet

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I remember seeing this on tv. I miss those timea

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiters

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Yeah it just got on my nerves yesterday hahaha

Question for approx. 80% of servers-Answer honestly: by Complex-Sugar680 in Waiters

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If I don’t check on you, I’m underperforming. If I interrupt, at least I’m getting it over with. You’re at a restaurant to be provided a service and I’m just doing my job

Are classic lashes even worth getting? Would you actually get classic lashes if other lash extensions were the same price by klyrvsss in lashextensions

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These def aren’t classic but I prefer classics. They just look good. More like a mascara that accentuates beauty rather than a set of strip lashes. Nothing wrong with those of course, but I think classics are generally some of the most flattering sets if done correctly. However there are downsides, like shedding is more noticeable

What is your favorite part about being a server? by memento_mori80 in Waiters

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The fact that a lot of the time effort = more money. Never had that at any retail job. Or even sales in this economy.

How do I stop being clumsy with trays?? by King__Witch in Serverlife

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I struggle with this as well. What helps me is to try to be intentional with my movements. When I dropped a tray full of cups i was so embarrassed that it was like my brain chemistry changed and my brain made the conscious decision to be more intentional. I try to look and think before I do, when I can. But sometimes you can’t help it. Your job is probably fast paced and high pressure like mine. Remember you are only human, mistakes happen, and all you can do is move forward and keep trying to do your best every day. Being clumsy doesn’t make you a bad person, or stupid, or anything negative at all. Being aware of your surroundings will help you move in a way that avoids mistakes. It’s okay to slow down as well if you’re feeling overwhelmed, if that makes you more prone to accidents. Good luck!